15/02/2026
Please advice her responsibly
Good morning, Ma’am. Please share my story with your followers for their opinions. Thank you.
I am 23 years old. Ever since I moved to the city, I had been living with my sister. That was until three months ago, when I met a guy who showed interest in me. He insisted on renting an apartment for me if I was willing to move out, and I agreed. After searching for days, I finally found a place, and we went and made the payment. He furnished it and I moved in.
He says he is fully South African moved here for work, so he has no relatives in the area. According to him, he is a miner and a businessman; as for the mining, I know that part is true. This guy has been nothing but the best thing that has ever happened to me, but here is my problem: I don’t know anything about him apart from his name. He claims to have multiple businesses running in this town, including restaurants, but I don’t even know where they are located. According to him, he is "super busy." Even when I am with him, he is always on the phone with people—mind you, he owns four different phones. Everything about this guy seems unusual to me. I don’t know where he stays; we either meet at a hotel or a guesthouse, and he never comes to my place. He is always driving different cars.
When I told him I would like to know where he stays, he only mentioned the location but told me that because of work policy, I can’t go there because it is a bungalow built only for workers where no outsiders are allowed. It just doesn’t sound right. Furthermore, he sleeps with me like his life depends on it; he can do it four times a day without getting tired. I’m beginning to fear him. How can I be sleeping with a total stranger when I don’t even know where he lives, simply because he rented an apartment for me? I don’t know if I’m overthinking, but I want to call off the relationship. Please, audience, are my feelings valid, or am I overthinking?