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19/07/2025

"EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION IN MARRIAGE

Any relationship that lack effective communication develop serious problems,which eventually lead to separation and divorce. Communication, conversation, dialogue and transparency,all enhance,build, strengthen and perfect relationships.
Lack of communication is the bane of many failed and complicated marriages. Hiding information, secrecy and unwillingness to divulge important matters create room for suspicious, quarrels,fights and bitterness in marriage.

Communication has to do with the exchange of information between people by means of speaking,writing or using a common system of signs or behavior..
Communication is a spoken or written message.Commuincation is to create a rapport between two people which is sense of mutual understanding and sympathy.
EFFECT OF COMMUNICATION START WITH:
1. A firm decision to share information and not to hide anything from your spouse,
2. A firm decision not to lie to your partner no matter what the consequences of your truthfulness may be,
3. A firm decision to speak wisely always - being careful of what you say and how you say it to make sure it produce the desired result.
4. A firm decision to resist anger and not to allow it to determine what you say and how you say it.

NO SECRECY
For any relationship to thrive and be successful there must be a firm decision from both parties not to keep secrets. Concealing of information in relationship entered into with the aim of succeeding is wrong. It is a time bomb that will eventually explode and kill the relationship. Secrecy breaks trust. Secrecy gives room for wrong thoughts and wild imaginations, which lead to wrong conclusions, decisions and actions .
Matt 10:26 NIV
Communicating clearly about issues, especially, very personal issues, strengthen the bond of love between all in the relationship and set the stage for trust to thrive.
BE TRUTHFUL ALWAYS
Lies never profit any relationship, but truth does. Truth is the builder and strengthener of relationship.Any foundation built on lies will collapse with time when the truth comes to light. Effective communications is the communication of truth no matter the circumstances.
Eph 4:5 NIV
To lie is to conceive the truth and to deceive your partner who you claim to love so much that you are willing to live the rest of your live with until death separates you.There is nothing refreshing like the truth though it may come with a bitter taste, but it will surely like a sweet sensation in your life.
Prov 12:22 NIV
Prov 15:4 NIV
TO BE CONTINUED.

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14/07/2025

They say that when a wolf loves, he doesn't look for another.
He doesn't run away when trouble comes.
He doesn't abandon when it hurts.
He chooses only once... and stays.

Not because he can't find someone else,
but because he doesn't want to.

Because in his world, loyalty is not a luxury,
it is the basis of everything.

When a wolf loves, he gives everything:
he accompanies, protects, shares, sacrifices himself.
He hunts, but doesn't eat alone.
He howls, but never stops listening.
He goes away, but always comes back.

And if his companion falls, gets sick,
or can't run like before,
he doesn't leave her behind.
He adapts to her pace, protects her, waits for her.
He defends her with his teeth, if necessary.

Because a wolf doesn't look for a comfortable life,
he looks for a shared life.

And just as he gives himself to his companion,
he protects his family, his little ones,
everything he loves.
Not with words, but with deeds.
Not with promises, but with presence.

This is why a wolf can live in the snow, hunger, dangers...
and continue to love like the first day.

Because his love does not depend on the climate or the moment,
but on the heart.

In a world where many change skin easily,
there are still wolves who choose to stay.
And stay, really.

🖤 To those who know how to love like this, with courage and presence.



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09/07/2025

Queens: When a man is transparent with you and shares his dreams, visions, plans, and future, he is communicating that he sees a destiny with you and trusts you. Most men equate trust with love. Men fall in trust first and love second.

Understand your position and your power, and you will truly grasp the power of submission and being a helpmate. You are not needed to build the Kingdom; you are needed to support the King. It's chess, not checkers, so don't be manipulative or controlling. Instead, love him strategically. Honor and protect your King, and you will inherit the Kingdom. Remember, you are the jewel of the crown and the Kingdom. Get ready to receive your royal inheritance of protection, logical insight, and the rewards of being his muse.

A man is a creature of comfort and will not leave a woman who is good to him and good for him. Being a good woman is a challenging role with many titles. No man with high intelligence and high self-esteem would leave his 80% woman, who fulfills his soul's needs, for a 20% woman who satisfies his lustful cravings or strokes his ego.

A wife is an investment and a long-term asset. She must offer something rare and irreplaceable. There must also be chemistry and true love, and she must be genuinely loyal. A wife gives something she has only given to a few men, and it's not just her body. She must be a lover, best friend, muse, queen, great mother, counselor, his eyes in the back of his head, and sometimes a King builder.

08/07/2025

Every woman has a wild side. It’s not for everyone. It doesn’t come out for just any man. It’s buried beneath her strength, her softness, and her ability to hold it all together. But when she feels safe, when she feels deeply desired, when she’s loved in all the right ways—that side of her awakens. Slowly. Fully. Passionately.

It takes a real man to bring it out of her. Not just any man—a King. A man who sees her, not just with his eyes but with his spirit. A man who touches her mind before he ever touches her body. He doesn’t rush it. He doesn’t force it. He earns it. Through consistency, through confidence, through the way he makes her feel like the only woman in the world.

When she trusts him—when she knows he’s hers—she lets go. She releases. She becomes his fantasy in the flesh. And he knows that loving her means keeping that flame lit. Not just in the bedroom, but everywhere. He does not wait for perfect moments—he creates them.

He kisses her slowly in the car, whispering dirty thoughts that make her shift in her seat, already imagining what he’ll do next. He texts her on her lunch break, telling her he can’t stop thinking about how she tasted that morning. He catches her off guard on her day off, when she’s relaxed in nothing but his T-shirt, and turns lazy hours into heated memories. In the shower, he pins her against the tile, his mouth claiming every inch like it belongs to him—because it does. Out on the back porch under the moonlight, he wraps her in his arms and reminds her that even the stars are jealous of the way she glows when he touches her.

A King keeps it sensual, spontaneous, and sacred. He listens to her body, takes his time, and makes her feel like his Queen—every single time. He doesn’t just satisfy her. He stretches her imagination, ignites her soul, and loves her into every version of herself she never thought she could be.

When a woman is deeply loved, deeply desired, and deeply protected, she’ll give him all of her. Her softness. Her boldness. Her submission. Her wild. Not because he demanded it—but because he made her feel safe enough to surrender. And once she does, there’s no going back. She becomes addictive. Untamed. Completely his.

That is the power of real passion. That is what happens when love meets desire—and a King awakens his Queen. ❤️❤️❤️

06/07/2025

Marriage is meant to be a blessing, not a prison. I believe in love, I believe in family, and I believe in fighting for your home. But let’s also tell ourselves the truth, what some people are enduring in the name of marriage is not love, it is calamity.

If you are constantly in pain, emotionally, mentally, or even physically and you’ve tried your best, prayed, communicated, and even cried for change but nothing is working, then you need to choose yourself.

There is no medal for endurance in toxic marriages. Leaving doesn’t mean you’re weak, it means you’ve found the courage to choose peace, growth, and sanity. It means you’re brave enough to rebuild and give yourself a second chance at happiness.

So no, I won’t advise you to walk out without cause. But if staying is costing you your health, your dignity, and your peace of mind, then maybe it’s time to ask: “What exactly am I still holding on to?”

- Kate Henshaw

01/07/2025

30/06/2025

TYPES OF DATES EVERY COUPLE SHOULD TRY:

1. PICNIC DATE
There is something special and free about the outdoors. Pack up some food and drinks and a leso, find a spot and have fun

2. WALK DATE
Make time to just take a walk as you bond. Walk for long as you hold hands, laugh, bump shoulder to shoulder. You need no money for this

3. ELEGANT DATE
Go all out. Gentleman, ask her out to an expensive, classy venue. Give her a chance to dress up. She will feel special, smiling as you romance her; she wearing her fashionable dress

4. DANCE DATE
Find a place where good music is played or dance is taught and go there as a couple. Salsa, lingala, afro, twist, benga; go to a place where you will sweat, groove and get down

5. IMPROMPTU DATE
Dates don't have to be pre-planned. Be spontenous sometimes, drop everything and go somewhere as a couple for some quality time

6. MOVIE DATE
Go to the cinema. Movies bring out emotions

7. DOUBLE DATE
Go out on a date with another couple close to you. This will give you a chance to celebrate love and talk couple to couple. Your love will grow stronger

8. COMPASSION DATE
There are many people in society to bless. You and your partner, find a children's home, an elderly home, a hospital or someone in need and together go spend time with them. God will bless your love

9. CANDLE-LIGHT DINNER DATE
There is something romantic about looking into each other's eyes in dim candle light. Make it special. Romance is sweet

10. SPECIAL MOMENT DATE
This is when you celebrate big as a couple a special moment like Birthday, Anniversary, Graduation or Promotion. Never forget these moments

11. MAKE-UP DATE
If things between you two haven't been going well. Make effort to save your love by planning a good date. A date provides a good setting to allow you two to talk and get back to deep love

12. LUNCH DATE
Since you work at different jobs, sometimes meet up and have a couple's lunch for an hour or so

13. OLD LOVE DATE
Dates are not for young love only. Sadly, as lovers stay in a relationship/marriage, the dates become fewer as they go through the motions. No matter how long you've been together, step outside your everyday responsibilities and go for a date to rekindle and sustain the excitement

14. SPORTS DATE
Is your favorite football club, rugby team, basketball team, golfer playing? Is it the safari rally, athletics? Go out for dates as a couple where you can scream, cheer and go wild. You two will connect more

15. FRIENDS DATE
Have a barbeque, hook up with friends, throw a party. Organize something as a couple where your love will be celebrated in the presence of close friends

16. TRAVEL DATE
Pack your bags and travel. Break the monotony and as a couple drive, fly, sail to a place you've never been. Experience new attractions together. Your love will never be boring this way

16. STAY AT HOME DATE
Or lock yourself in the house. Not to work or do chores. But to switch off everything and concentrate on each other. Cook together, eat together, make memories for two

17/02/2025

1. Lack of emotional support : Your partner only reaches out when they need something.

2. Unequal efforts: You're always the one initiating plans, conversations, or intimacy.

3. Selfish decisions: Your partner makes choices without considering your feelings or needs.

4. Disregard for boundaries: Your partner consistently disregards your limits or ignores your "no."

5. Emotional manipulation: Your partner uses guilt, anger, or self-pity to control your actions.

6. Lack of accountability: Your partner never takes responsibility for their mistakes or hurtful behavior.

7. Disrespect: Your partner frequently disrespects you, your opinions, values, or goals.

8. Only communicates when needing something: Your partner only reaches out when they need help, money, or favors.

9. No genuine interest in your life: Your partner shows little to no interest in your hobbies, passions, or goals.

10. Uses you for financial gain: Your partner relies on you for financial support without contributing equally.

11. Lack of intimacy or affection: Your partner shows little to no physical affection or intimacy.

12. Prioritizes others over you: Your partner consistently prioritizes friends, family, or work over your relationship.

13. Gaslighting: Your partner manipulates your perception of reality, making you doubt your own sanity.

14. No compromise or flexibility: Your partner refuses to compromise or find middle ground.

15. Lack of gratitude or appreciation: Your partner rarely expresses gratitude or appreciation for your efforts.

16. Disregards your feelings or opinions: Your partner consistently disregards or minimizes your feelings or opinions.

17. Lack of transparency or honesty: Your partner is secretive or dishonest about their actions, intentions, or feelings.

18. You feel drained, resentful, or unhappy: You consistently feel drained, resentful, or unhappy in the relationship.

Credits: Ajulo Opeyemi Oloori

06/02/2025

Sometimes, love means waiting. It means loving someone so deeply that even though you can't be with them right now, you hold onto the hope that one day, when the timing is right, the universe will bring you back together.

It's not easy-it's late nights, wondering, quiet prayers whispered, and a faith that never gives up. But real love is patient. Real love believes.

So, you keep loving from afar, knowing that some stories just need time to find their perfect ending."

22/01/2025

Men's Mistake

When we find a woman who loves us, we assume she'll never leave because she loves us too much to abandon us.

As a result, we begin to neglect her and sometimes speak harshly to her because of her love for us.

We always wait for her to call first, always wait for her to initiate things, and always wait for her to text first. We don't make time for her, and sometimes we say hurtful things that wound her.

We belittle her by comparing her to our exes.
We belittle her by reminding her of her past.
We give her no resources to care for herself.
We disrespect her; we don't listen to her.
We sometimes do horrible things because we know she loves us and won't leave us.

When she finally leaves, we remain proud, thinking she will return as she used to.
Before we realize it, she has made a decision never to return; only then do we realize we had a precious woman.
When she finds someone better and decides to marry him, we say she's not a good woman and lie, claiming she abandoned us because of this or that.

The woman we treat like trash will sooner or later become the queen of a man who knows her worth. That's just life.(AND VICE VERSA)

17/11/2024

Happy Sunday....

08/02/2024

The hardest battle is between the heart and the brain.

May you attract someone;
Who is good for your mental health & heart?
Who is patient with you, protective of you, & brings you peace, not problems.
Who is consistent, communicates clearly, & creates a safe space to grow.
Someone who wants to hold your hand at 85 & say "We made it."

Love is beautiful with the right person when your heart and mind are in sync and gives you peace of mind 💞💗💝