29/02/2024
7 Things to consider when you are going into a relationship.
Love is the greatest of it all
You can't agree with someone without considering love
So going into a relationship, Love is needed.
Introduction:
Love is not just a feeling, it's an action. You need to love with the Understanding of God.
It's the choice to put someone else's happiness before your own.
It's the willingness to sacrifice and the determination to make it work.
Remember, true love is not easy, but it is always worth it.
So it means you need to work it out, just like how you are been told to work out your salvation ๐ Note:
I indicate true beacuse of the experiences people have with what they term love which is not.
Against popular opinion, Love is genuine and therefore there's no true or fake.
Love is genuine .
When you are going into a relationship don't forget to go with your curtsey, your manners, your faith , your stand, Your Joy. Don't keep it somewhere and expect someone's son or daughter to be the source of your joy_
Don't forget that you are going to make sacrifices, (alot of it) to make it work and your time inclusively.
Someone will say he/she accept me like that
Ooh really๐คจ?!
You admire and celebrate married couples over the internet , let's assume they have a successful marriage, of course we know that this is not applicable to all.
If you so desire the successful marriage, you must give it your all to be successful.
Moreso, It's a journey you must be prepared for so that you won't become a _prey_ be left aloof.
Discovering new things about your partner is cool,but _you must not be shallow_ if you want to consider relationship.
This topic is very important. take note of the points please don't joke with it.
Now let's consider the 7 points one after the other.
1. Permission:
Who gave you the go ahead ?
Your emotions? Your friends? Your Spiritual leader?
Oh no! You are not getting it right, without informing God , you are still joking around.
You are not ready yet and you will be hurt at the end.
Any relationship that didn't allow Christ in his or her relationship is writing an invitation letter to crisis, Those people you think that gave you the permissions can only console you or even worsen the situation instead of fighting the crisis for you when it arises.
In addition, anything you didn't invite into God, He has been handicapped to help you with it, He becomes a stranger to you.
2. Am I ready to be committed to this person?
It's only the people that think they are still babies will not want to stay committed.
Relationship is a commitment, going into it you are indirectly saying amongst all the ladies in this world, I am choosing only you to be my lover, amongst all the guys on earth it's only you I am going with. It's only matured people that stays committed not children, people that can't make decisions on their own. You will need to ask, Am I ready to be committed to this person?
How to know you are really committed.
ยฐ When you prioritize them. A tight schedule is not an excuse or escape route,you find time for what you value.
When you place value on your partner you will really enjoy your companionship . It's high time you find time for him/her.
3. Can we really agree? Amos 3:3 Says Can two work together except they agree, If you are always disagreeing with insult , bitterness and hatred , watch closely are you in agreement, Can you walk together? It's a No.
4. Am I generous enough to journey with this person ?
Ask yourself , A stingy person can't enjoy a relationship, Giving is part of love , so if you say you are generous and you find it so hard to give , You don't love, The Bible says in John 3:16, For GOD so love the world, What follows is giving GOD so love the world , And HE gave HIS only begotten Son, It shows how much GOD love the world, Alot of us we find it so hard to give our time, money, service to that person we confess to love.
Of course I know a lot of us know the five love languages
a. Words of affirmation
b. Giving of gifts
c. Quality time
d. Act of service
e. Physical touch
5. Submission:As a lady what is your definition of submission? can I submit to this man and as a guy , can I show this lady the type of love Jesus is talking about?
Answer this question within you ๐ค
6. What can I bring to the table?
It's not only finances you can bring to the table, Alot of us do think when we talk about this, It's all about "Money" You can bring ideas, knowledge, strategies, you know you can bring support, encouragement. You can't just be there doing nothing .
Don't wait until you are married before you start bringing something that make sense.
7. Are we fulfilling the purpose of our lives together?
I hope these things are helpful?!!
My name is Ibayomee
Royal Relationship Care Clinc
