18/11/2025
🔥 HOW TO OVERCOME SHYNESS AS A GUY WHEN YOU WANT TO TOAST A LADY
1. First understand this: even confident guys get shy too
Shyness doesn’t mean something is wrong with you.
It only means the lady matters to you — and that’s normal.
The real trick is not to “remove” shyness, but to control it.
2. Don’t approach her like you’re going for an exam
Some guys rehearse too much:
“What will I say?”
“What if she frowns?”
“What if she ignores me?”
O. M. G (i was once like that 😉 😂 😂 😂 naa BH go explain)
This overthinking builds fear.
Instead, approach with a calm mindset:
“I just want to say hi and make a simple conversation.”
Not “I must win her today.”
Remove pressure = shyness reduces.
3. Start with small, harmless interactions
Before approaching a lady you like, practice talking to strangers casually:
greet people
ask simple questions
start small conversations
Not that you will jump like a fish jumping into the river 😂 😂.
Confidence is like a muscle.
The more you use it, the stronger it gets.
4. Look fresh — it boosts confidence instantly
As a guy, your appearance affects how you feel.
Cut your hair, trim your beard, use light perfume, wear neat clothes don't look like George of the Jungle 😉.
When you look good, you automatically feel braver.
Even your walking changes.
Your shoulders open.
Your voice becomes more stable.
5. Don’t overthink the approach — just be simple
Avoid long scripts or “pickup lines.”
Just walk to her calmly and say:
“Hi, good afternoon. I like your style and I wanted to say hello.”
“You look very smart. Can I know your name?”
“Hi, I saw you and I thought I should greet you.”
Simple. Smooth. Respectful.
Most ladies prefer this.
6. Keep eye contact but don’t stare too much
A short, calm eye contact shows confidence.
Staring too long as if you've seen a tsunami will show tension.
Just be natural, be real.
7. Use a smile — it disarms tension
A small smile makes you look friendly and confident.
It also makes her feel comfortable, which reduces your shyness.
8. Accept that rejection is not death
Sometimes she may not be in the mood.
Sometimes she may be taken.
Sometimes she may be shy herself.
If she says no:
smile + “no problem, have a great day.”
That alone makes you look mature and attractive.
Rejection doesn’t reduce your value.
9. Start by talking to her like a normal human being
Don’t start by “toasting” her.
Start with conversation.
Build rapport.
Let the vibe flow.
Shyness reduces when you’re not jumping straight to “I like you” immediately.
10. The real secret: Create confidence through action
You don’t wait to feel confident before acting.
You act first — and the confidence will appear.
Every time you approach a lady, even if you’re shaking small, your brain learns:
“I can do this.”
After a few times…
you become unstoppable.
©
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