31/07/2025
I still remember the first time I heard her laugh — warm, full of life, and contagious. She was the kind of woman who lit up a room just by walking in. Confident, beautiful, and kind. But behind that glowing smile was a heart silently breaking under the weight of people’s opinions
She had lived with fibroids for a long time. It wasn’t something she hid — her tummy had become noticeably bigger over time, but she kept living. She wore her dresses, showed up at events, and smiled in pictures. But as time went on, the whispers grew louder.
“Are you sure she’s not pregnant?” “She should do something about that stomach.” “Ah ah, is it now a fashion statement?”
People didn’t care to ask. They only assumed, judged, and criticized. They body-shamed her until she began to believe something was wrong with her existence. Not because she felt pain — but because society told her she didn't look “normal.”
Eventually, she decided to go in for fibroid surgery. It wasn’t entirely her idea — it was pressure. People had spoken enough to make her feel unworthy. And even though she was afraid, she wanted to “look better” — not for herself, but for others.
She never came out of that operating room alive.
That day, something inside me broke. Because she didn’t die just from surgery. She died from shame planted by others. Shame watered by comments that were careless, cruel, and constant.
We don’t talk enough about the weight our words carry. How calling someone “too fat” or “too skinny” might be the final straw. How making fun of someone’s appearance can spiral them into depression, risky procedures, or worse — death.
Body shaming doesn’t correct anyone. It doesn’t motivate change. It wounds. It k1lls confidence. It destroys lives — sometimes literally.
Everyone is fighting a battle you can’t see. Health issues, insecurities, trauma, genetics — things far beyond their control. The least we can do is be kind.
So let this post be a gentle reminder:
You don’t need to comment on other people’s bodies. You don’t know their story.
Let’s choose kindness over criticism. Let’s speak life, not death. Let’s be humans with heart.
