08/09/2025
Children of God, what is happening to marriage today?
A young man lovingly asked his bride-to-be if one of his family members could stand with her as part of the bridal train. Out of maybe 10 bridesmaids, just one from his side.
She refused. She said it was her day, her decision, and only she decides who stands beside her. The disagreement grew—and the wedding was cancelled.
Another young man asked his wife to change her surname on all her social media handles after marriage. She declined. She argued that she had already done a legal affidavit for the change of name, and that was enough. Changing her surname online, she feared, would confuse her followers. Within two years, that marriage dissolved.
Now, let’s pause and ask ourselves:
Was the man wrong to request just one bridesmaid from his family? Was that too much to ask in a union that is supposed to bring two families together?
Was it worth sacrificing an entire wedding because of it?
And to the wife—if you’ve already done the legal change of name, why does adding it to Facebook or Instagram feel like such a heavy burden?
On the other hand, is social media identity not also part of one’s personal brand? Should it really be forced?
Beloved, these questions reveal something deeper: marriage is not about “my way” or “your way.” It is about “our way.”
It is learning the dance of compromise, honor, and sacrifice.
When stubbornness and ego sit at the table, love quietly gets up and walks away.
When self becomes louder than “us,” even the smallest issues can shake the foundation of a marriage.
Marriage is not destroyed by big storms alone—sometimes it’s undone by small matters that pride refuses to bend on.
So, children of God, I ask again: What is going on with us?
