29/06/2025
Sometimes, the person you love the most may hurt you the deepest — not because you stopped loving them, but because they stopped listening, stopped understanding, or started acting like the victim in a situation they created.
Marriage is not a battlefield where one person must always win and the other lose. It’s a partnership, a sacred bond built on trust, empathy, and mutual responsibility.
You cannot wound someone emotionally, then turn around and accuse them of being distant.
You can’t make decisions without your spouse, then complain that there’s no unity.
You can’t keep taking from someone emotionally, physically, spiritually and then cry “denial” when they take a moment to breathe and reflect.
Too many people want the benefits of marriage — intimacy, support, respect without carrying the responsibilities that come with it.
Dear couples please,
❇️Stop playing the victim when you’re the one who shut the door.
❇️Take ownership of your actions or inactions.
❇️Learn to listen, not to reply, but to understand.
❇️When your spouse withdraws, don’t rush to accuse. Try to find out what you did or what you failed to do.
Marriage thrives when both parties are emotionally present, not just physically there. It works when you can say, “I was wrong,” “I didn’t handle that well,” “Let’s talk,” or even just, “I see your pain.”
It’s not weakness to reflect, to pause, or even to seek space when things feel broken. Sometimes, stepping back is the first act of courage before healing begins.
May we all learn to love better; not just with words, but with actions, maturity, and humility.
