Relationship Facticity

27/11/2025

PRINCIPLES FOR A STRONG COUPLE

1. GUARD YOUR WORDS ABOUT EACH OTHER
Never speak negatively about your partner to anyone, including family or friends. Your words shape perception and trust. Protect their spirit and your relationship by speaking life and encouragement.
“Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying.” — Ephesians 4:29

2. BUILD RELATIONSHIPS ON TRUST
Trust is the foundation of any healthy relationship. Speak and act in ways that reinforce reliability and loyalty. Guard your promises and honor commitments.
“Therefore what God has joined together, let no man separate.” — Mark 10:9

3. LOVE THROUGH ALL SEASONS
Relationships are tested in good times and in difficulties. True love perseveres beyond emotions, circumstances, or personal desires.
“Love suffers long and is kind; love envies not; love vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up.” — 1 Corinthians 13:4

4. RESOLVE CONFLICT PRIVATELY
Handle disagreements respectfully and privately. Avoid venting frustrations to outsiders; this preserves trust and strengthens intimacy.
“A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.” — Proverbs 15:1

5. PROTECT EMOTIONAL SAFETY
Each partner should feel valued, secure, and respected. Avoid comparisons, criticism, or favoritism. Prioritize their well-being and emotional peace.
“Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife…that your prayers be not hindered.” — 1 Peter 3:7

6. CELEBRATE STRENGTHS, EMBRACE IMPERFECTIONS
Focus on each other’s positive qualities and growth. Accept flaws with grace, remembering that no one is perfect. Appreciation nurtures trust and love.
“Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another.” — Romans 12:10

7. KEEP PERSONAL MATTERS PRIVATE
Respect confidences and sensitive topics. A safe, private space strengthens intimacy, honesty, and vulnerability in the relationship.

8. SHOW CONSISTENT COMMITMENT
Small, daily acts of love, respect, and consideration are more powerful than grand gestures. Loyalty is proven in routine faithfulness and attention.
“Faithful is he that calleth you, who also will do it.” — 1 Thessalonians 5:24

9. PRIORITIZE EACH OTHER
Your partner’s happiness, security, and peace should be a priority. Relationships thrive when both partners actively nurture each other.

10. CHOOSE LOVE OVER PRIDE
In disagreements or mistakes, humility and understanding preserve connection. Avoid blame, shame, or harsh words. Choose reconciliation over being “right.”
“Be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.” — Ephesians 4:32

11. BUILD INTIMACY THROUGH RESPECT AND COMMUNICATION
Honest and respectful communication strengthens emotional bonds. Listening and understanding are as important as speaking.

12. PRACTICE GRATITUDE AND APPRECIATION
Regularly express thankfulness for each other. Gratitude shifts focus from flaws to blessings, creating a positive environment for growth and love.

13. GROW TOGETHER SPIRITUALLY AND EMOTIONALLY
Support each other’s personal development, spiritual growth, and life goals. Encourage pursuits that elevate character and deepen connection.

14. MAINTAIN BALANCE AND INDEPENDENCE
Healthy relationships allow space for individuality. Personal hobbies, friendships, and growth contribute to a stronger, more vibrant partnership.

15. PLAN TOGETHER, DREAM TOGETHER
Shared vision and goals align hearts and actions. Couples who dream and plan together strengthen unity and purpose.

16. HONOR COMMITMENT PUBLICLY AND PRIVATELY
Your loyalty should be evident in actions and words. Protect each other’s reputation and show pride in your partnership.

17. EMBRACE FORGIVENESS FREELY
No one is perfect. Learn to forgive and let go of grudges, bitterness, and resentment. Forgiveness restores peace and deepens trust.
“Bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.” — Colossians 3:13

18. CHERISH THE SMALL MOMENTS
Daily acts of kindness, thoughtfulness, and attention create lasting memories. The strength of a relationship is often found in everyday gestures, not just big events.

19. LIVE WITH MUTUAL PURPOSE
Align your decisions, actions, and priorities. A couple that shares values and goals walks in harmony and experiences greater fulfillment.

20. PROTECT THE SACREDNESS OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP
Avoid outside interference that can erode unity. Let your home and private life be a space for growth, intimacy, and mutual respect.
“Two are better than one…if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.” — Ecclesiastes 4:9-12

A strong and lasting relationship requires intentional love, trust, respect, and unity. Protect each other’s hearts, celebrate each other’s strengths, and grow together spiritually, emotionally, and practically. Relationships thrive when both partners prioritize honesty, loyalty, communication, and forgiveness, creating a home filled with peace, love, and resilience.

26/11/2025

Emotional abandonment is when they see your pain… and choose to ignore it. That kind of indifference doesn’t just hurt it leaves a wound you can’t see but can feel in every part of your body. When someone you care about looks directly at your sadness, your fear, your exhaustion, and simply turns away, it sends a message deeper than any words ever could.

It tells your nervous system that you don’t matter.
That your feelings are inconvenient.
That your needs are “too much.”
That your vulnerability is something to be dismissed rather than cared for.

And that’s where the trauma forms not from the pain itself, but from facing it alone while standing next to someone who promised to be there. Emotional abandonment teaches you to silence yourself, to shrink your needs, to stop reaching out, because the person you trusted showed you that your hurt won’t be met with comfort, only coldness.

Over time, you stop expressing what you feel.
You stop expecting support.
You stop believing anyone will choose you when it counts.

What people don’t understand is that being ignored at your lowest changes the way you love, the way you trust, and the way you show up in relationships. You learn to rely on yourself not out of strength, but out of survival.

Emotional abandonment isn’t just neglect
It’s a deep betrayal of the heart.
And healing from it means relearning that your feelings do matter, your pain does deserve compassion, and you are not unworthy of being cared for.

10/11/2025

"All the eggs a woman will ever carry form in her ovaries while she is a four-month-old fetus in the womb of her mother.
This means our cellular life as an egg begins in the womb of our grandmother.
Each of us spent five months in our grandmother's womb, and she in turn formed in the womb of her grandmother.
We vibrate to the rhythm of our mother's blood before she herself is born, and this pulse is the thread of blood that runs all the way back through the grandmothers to the first mother."
~ Layne Redmond

05/11/2025

HOW TO BUILD YOUR COMEBACK AFTER A BREAKUP....✍🏽

Getting over her isn’t the goal — rebuilding yourself into a stronger man is. Every heartbreak is a wake-up call, not a death sentence. You can cry for a moment, but after that, it’s time to rise and rebuild.

Here’s how:

Rule #1: Grieve, Then Get to Work.
Yes, it’s normal to experience loss.
Allow yourself 72 hours to feel sorry for yourself. Process it all.
But on day 4, the pity party is over.
You get up, and you get to work. Your feelings don’t care about you; your actions do.

Rule #2: End Every Trace from the Past.
“No Contact” isn’t a suggestion; it’s a command.
Delete her number.
Unfollow & mute her everywhere.
Archive all photos.
Get rid of her stuff.
Anything that reminds you of her is a wound you’re choosing to keep open. Close it.

Rule #3: Physical Work Is Your Ally.
You can think your way into depression, but you can’t think your way out of it.
You have to act.
The fastest way to change your mind is to change your body.
Lift heavy. Run hard. Eat clean.
Your physical state dictates your mental state.

Rule #4: Accept That She Is Not “The One.”
“The One” would not have left.
“The One” would not have disrespected you.
Once she walked away, she disqualified herself. Stop idolizing a memory.

Rule #5: Stop Asking “Why?”
You’ll never get a satisfying answer.
The only question that matters is: “What now?”
Focus on what you can control — the past isn’t on that list.

Rule #6: Build a New Mission.
Don’t revolve your life around the void she left.
Fill it with purpose — start a business, train harder, learn something new.
A man with a mission doesn’t have time to be heartbroken.

Rule #7: Forge Non-Negotiable Standards.
This breakup happened because a standard was broken — by you or by her.
Now, create new ones. Write down what you will and won’t tolerate again.

Rule #8: Your Ex Is Not Your Friend.
Stop orbiting her life. You’re not being a friend — you’re being a backup plan.
Respect yourself enough to walk away.

Rule #9: It Was Your Fault.
Even if she was 99% wrong, take 100% responsibility for choosing and tolerating her.
Radical accountability gives you back your power.

Rule #10: Don’t Talk Badly About Her.
A man of value doesn’t vent; he levels up.
Your silence and success are louder than gossip.

Rule #11: Stop “Working on the Relationship.”
Work on yourself.
Great relationships are byproducts of great individuals.
Be a man so fulfilled that a relationship is a bonus — not a necessity.

Rule #12: Don’t Rebound. Learn.
Every failed date is data.
Have fun, learn yourself, and refine your standards.

Rule #13: Silence Your Inner Critic.
That voice telling you “you’re not good enough” is a liar.
Starve it. Feed the voice that tells you to rise, train, and grind.

Heartbreak doesn’t end you — it forges you.
Get back up, rebuild, and rise harder than before.

03/11/2025

"Some losses set you free."

02/11/2025

HOW TO MAKE A MAN HAPPY

1. Respect him –nothing makes a man feel more complete than knowing

2. Support his dreams - stand beside him, not behind or ahead, but with

3. Appreciate his efforts -notice the little gestures, the silent sacrifices.

4. Give him peace of mind- love him in a way that his heart feels at home.

5. Love him truly - without conditions, without
comparisons, just purely.

HOW TO MAKE A WOMAN HAPPY

1. Be her best friend- share secrets, laughter, and silent moments.

2. Give her time and attention -your presence will always be worth more than presents.
3. Make her feel beautiful - not just
in her looks, but in her soul.

4. Communicate openly – let your heart be as transparent as your wofdş.

5. Make her laugh -joy is the music that keeps love dancing.

6. Be loyal and honest -she needs your truth more than your perfection.

7. Support her passions -show her that her dreams carry weight in your world.
At the end of the day, love is

8. Stand by her in storms -love her fiercest simple: men seek respect and peace, women seek care and presence.

28/10/2025

Dear Young Man,

If you see this on your wall, stop scrolling and read this all important message carefully from an innocent man.

👇👇👇

The two months I spent in Nigeria, all the ladies I piped were all in serious relationships. Both the Nurse, the one I met at the Spar where did pedicure, the Enugu girl, the Imo State girl that was living with her boyfriend, the one that travelled from Umuahia to see me while I was in Imo State. They have serious boyfriends but still cheated on them.
Among all of them, it was only the nurse that gave me the exact reason why girls will continue allowing another man to pipe them even when they're in a relationship.

One of the days we hanged out, I remember asking her if she was single? She replied and said, "Every woman is single until a man puts a ring on her finger."
That's to say; a vvoman is not expected to have one man until she's probably married.. They don't keep one man but there's a man out there who still believes he's the only man his girlfriend has. Wake up bro..
They keep multiple men and anyone of them who proposes first, takes her home. That's the game🤷
These women are really mean in the game. The one that travelled from Abia to see me in Imo State, she collected transport money from her boyfriend to come see me. The guy even gave her the money she used in making her hair before coming..

Do they even consider their body counts?

So far, I piped 6 ladies. It would have been more than 10 but I declined many of them who didn't meet my expectations. And the funny thing is that, they all have serious boyfriends but denied their relationships. Sadly, the men they denied could be out there bragging with the same vvomen that denied them..
I literally forced one of the girls that visited me to go because for the days she was with me, she refused to take her boyfriend's calls. Even when I noticed her boyfriend was calling and texting.. But it was the same girl that told me she has been single for over 3 months.
I intentionally posted everything I experienced with each of them during my stay in Nigeria on social media.
The truth is that, the woman many of you brags with, there's another man somewhere who is already tired of piping her.

My Brothers!! No vvoman is dating only man in that Nigeria. Let it not even surprise you that you might be number 15 of all her boyfriends. You're not just smart and that's why you haven't find out yet..
The girl I met at the Spar, the iPhone 13 she's using, her boyfriend bought it for her. But she cheated on him with me.
I want men to understand that, spending your hard earned money on a vvoman doesn't, and wouldn't stop her from cheating on you. Which is why you should be more responsible with your finances than wasting on vvomen..

Out of those 6 girls I piped, there's no way 2 out of the 6 will not get married to the same man they cheated on.. That's vvomen for you.
I've piped them to my satisfaction, added to their body counts and pe**le mileage and fling them back to their serious boyfriends. I piped but I didn't privatise, but one man will use his hard earned money to pay her bride price and still brag with her.

Any vvoman you didn't meet as a virgin and you're not the one that disvirgined her, it's not your duty to pay her bride price. Just pipe and pass her over to another brother..
Nigeria was fun!

Do Not Forget The Standard: No Virgin, No Bride Price and No Commitment🙅

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Me : Simp will suffer..

27/10/2025

This kept my thinking 🤔

24/10/2025

Hmmmmmm mm, A man I respect so much told me something when I was younger that I didn’t understand until I dated some women and saw it firsthand:

"You’ll pay for what other men did to her."
And he was right.

He wasn’t talking about money.
He was talking about emotional debt.

You’ll pay for her father’s neglect.
You’ll pay for her ex’s betrayal.
You’ll pay for every time she cried alone and decided, “Never again.”

You’ll walk into a war zone thinking it’s love.
You’ll say something simple, and she’ll overreact like you hit a landmine.
Because you did.
A man before you buried it there.

Here’s the part men don’t want to hear:

You can’t fix her.
You can only finance the therapy she never went to.

You’ll love her harder.
You’ll show her loyalty.
You’ll do everything right.
But her pain doesn’t reward effort; it punishes proximity.

Women don’t heal by reflecting.
They adapt by defending.

And every layer of defense kills the part of her that could ever truly bond again.

Experience didn’t teach her wisdom; it taught her self-preservation.

Modern men are dating damage and revenge, not women.

That’s why you can do everything right and still get accused, distrusted, or ghosted.

You’re not fighting her logic.
You’re fighting her scars.

Here’s the red-pill math:

The more men she’s given herself to, the less capacity she has to pair-bond.
The more heartbreaks she’s had, the more emotional armor she wears.
The more trauma she carries, the less she can receive love without suspicion.

That’s not cruelty; that’s biology.

You can’t teach peace to someone who only knows chaos.

That’s why good men end up drained, trying to save women who were destroyed by worse men.

You’re not her savior; you’re her next casualty.

You pay for every sin another man committed until you learn to identify damage before desire.

Look at her past, not her words.
Her body count, her exes, her family - that’s your forecast.

Because women don’t improve with use; they deteriorate.

The more she’s been through, the less she has left to give.

Men think they’re getting a “mature woman.” You’re not.
You’re getting a collection of coping mechanisms that used to be feminine.

And every time she says, “I’ve been hurt before,” understand this: that hurt still lives in her.

The Damage Principle is simple:

You’re not dating her.
You’re dating her history.

And until you understand that, you’ll keep thinking love is broken when really, it’s just been recycled too many times.

Remember this:

A woman’s trauma ages faster than her face.
Her experiences don’t sharpen her femininity; they dull it.

That’s why the pure ones glow differently.
And the rest? They just remember what that glow used to feel like.

Final Law:

Never pay for what another man broke.
Show her your blueprint, be patient, and if she doesn’t adapt, walk away.

Because no matter how hard you try, you can’t love trauma out of a woman.
You can only drown in it.

That’s the Damage Principle.
Stop dating pain, start choosing peace.

24/10/2025

WEAK MEN GET PLAYED, NOT LOVED

Let’s be honest.

The man who gives up his spine for love will never be loved.
He’ll be tolerated. He’ll be used. He’ll be mocked.
But he will never be respected.

Because women don’t love men they can control.
They use them until someone stronger walks in the room.

This is the brutal truth. And men need to hear it.

1️⃣ A doormat isn’t a partner
Bend to every demand? You think you’re giving her peace. But peace without respect is slavery. A doormat isn’t a husband. It isn’t a lover. It’s just a tool. And tools get replaced the moment they lose their use.

2️⃣ Submission doesn’t inspire loyalty
You can give her money, time, energy, even your soul. It won’t secure her devotion. It will only teach her you’re desperate to be kept. And what she doesn’t respect, she cannot love.

3️⃣ Strength is the root of desire
Attraction isn’t built on gifts or endless approval. It’s built on strength. The strength to say no. The strength to hold your boundaries. The strength to walk away from disrespect. That’s what makes her lean in. That’s the only way she respects you.

4️⃣ Every woman tests
She will test you. She will push. She will provoke. Not because she hates you, but because she needs to know you can’t be broken. Fail her tests, and you’re finished. Pass them, and her respect grows, even if she never says it.

5️⃣ Love without respect is just use
Weak men don’t get love. They get tolerated. They get strung along. They get kept as safety nets until someone stronger arrives. A weak boyfriend isn’t cherished. He’s a placeholder. A weak husband isn’t respected. He’s a paycheck. And deep down, he knows it.

6️⃣ Weakness is betrayal of self
When a man abandons his boundaries, he abandons himself. And a man who betrays himself cannot protect, cannot lead, cannot inspire. He becomes an accessory in her life instead of the anchor of it. And when she’s done? She discards him like a broken toy.

FINAL WARNING:
A woman might use you. She might tolerate you. She might even keep you around for comfort. But she will never respect you.

Men—your strength is not cruelty. It is clarity. Draw the line. Guard your mission. Refuse to fold.

Because a man without strength doesn’t just lose the woman. He loses himself.

A weak man doesn’t get loved. He gets played.

23/10/2025

7 SINISTER SECRETS WOMEN DON’T WANT MEN TO KNOW

Listen up, Men! Women hide behind makeup, fake smiles, and emotional manipulation, but beneath the surface there are sinister truths they never want you to know. Society protects them, simps enable them, and pastors preach around it—but today I’m exposing the reality raw. If you grasp these, you’ll never be blindsided again.

Here are 7 sinister secrets women don’t want you to ever know:

1. They Don’t Love You Unconditionally
A woman loves you only as long as you provide, protect, and lead. The moment you lose money, status, or dominance, she suddenly “doesn’t feel it anymore.” Her love is transactional, not eternal.

2. They Always Have Options
While you’re busy being loyal, understand her DMs are stacked. Men constantly offer attention, validation, and money. The “loyal woman” only looks loyal when her better options haven’t appeared yet.

3. They Test You Nonstop
Every nag, every mood swing, every disrespect—it’s a test. Women push boundaries to see if you’re weak. Fail, and they lose respect. Pass, and they submit. Testing is in their DNA.

4. They Compete With Other Women Through You
Many don’t love you—they love what having you says to other women. You’re a trophy in their silent rivalry. The moment another woman has more, she’ll drop you to “level up.”

5. They’re Attracted to Strength, Not Goodness
You think niceness secures her? Wrong. Women don’t reward kindness without power. She respects the man who can tell her “No” and stand firm—not the man who bends to please.

6. They Rewrite Their Past
Her “two exes” are really twelve. Her “serious relationship” was a situationship laced with cheating. They hide body count, abortions, and scandals because truth destroys their market value.

7. They Fear Accountability More Than Anything
The deepest secret: women hate responsibility. That’s why every failure is someone else’s fault—an ex, patriarchy, society. They fight accountability harder than they fight poverty because it exposes their lies.

FINAL WARNING:
Men, hear me—women aren’t angels. They’re human, and their nature cuts sharp. Stop worshipping them. Stop believing fairy tales. Lead with clear eyes. The man who knows these truths is untouchable. The man who ignores them is destined to be used and destroyed.

22/10/2025