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Marital and pre-marital counselors and trainers; publishers of Hephzibah Hearts and Hephzibah Family resource for singles and married

Happy marriage and family is one thing every society wants more than anything else. Yet, it seems to be the one thing that’s hardest to find. The agony of disconnect between married couples and pain of divorce reaches deep into a family and often affects future generations. God is completely able and committed to building foundations to healthy marriages and helping failed marriages to be restored through the Hephzibah Family & Relationship Ministry.

28/11/2017

Trust in marriage is earned, it is not a wish neither is it a command that is desired from one spouse of the other. Trust is a process where perception is refined from it's raw state to it's gold state. Every trust process must pass through fire to get pure whether it be gold, silver or precious stone. The quality of trust can also classify the resilience when in fire and the final outlook as perceived; in some cases it can be bronze, brass, iron, wood or hay. 'Every man's work shall be made manifest, for the day shall declare it because it shall be revealed by fire'.
Trust is the price that is earned from the amount of diligence, sacrifice, integrity, loyalty that a spouse puts into the marriage process; trust is a treasure search in that marriage process.
May God grant us the wisdom and attitude to earn the trust required to fulfill our assignments in our marriage relationships. (Prince & Princess Osa Osaghae)

25/11/2017

To nourish your marriage, you need understanding. Understanding is forged, it is a concept you must create from skills and experiences that you acquire in the course of the marital relationship. Good understanding breeds fundamental growth in the marriage process. The forces that promote understanding are; Ability to listen to your spouse with compassion, do not easily jump into conclusion. Give yourself room to analyze every situation and be ready to give benefit of doubt; develop a heart of forgiveness towards your spouse especially in minor offense situation. These skills will help you analyze and tackle major issues effectively as they arise in the relationship. Always be quick to warn your spouse when you sense any looming danger that may severe your relationship with them. Pick a positive atmosphere with good disposition to discuss issues. God will grant you the wisdom to grow your marital relationship to an enviable height in Jesus name. Remain blessed and keep your marriage blissful. PRINCE & PRINCESS OSA OSAGHAE.

22/11/2017

Every marital relationship has a growth process. Every growth is powered by the quality of nourishment it receives. The food that grows marriage to an admirable and enviable standard must posses three basic nutritional values; understanding, trust and love. Understanding is forged, trust is earned and love is built. These three basic concepts will be explained one after the other in the next postings. Let us Keep our marriage nourished and fortified. Remain blessed.

11/11/2017

The marriage assignment is likened to a final year project in a university and God is the supervisor. A final year student cannot graduate if he is lacking in his project. This gives us a picture of the relevance of the marriage assignment in the eyes of God. Those challenges that easily confront couples and make them bark at each other, wanting to tear the marital wall apart should be the basis principles and practices that can give the required build up to an excellently laid project. At every tough challenge, do not give up on the marriage process otherwise you will score zero at the end. Instead, be humble, calm down and find a surmounting solution view a research and continuous check with the supervi

06/11/2017

For the sake of revitalizing our marriage relationships, couples must be prepared to look after one another's interest; they must learn to concentrate on enhancing the values that will promote absolute cohesion in their relationship

05/11/2017

Marriage is hard work, the marriage process can be likened to an attempt to make a meal with damp charcoal.
When all the window dressing of premarital era is over, every distance after the nuptial nought is tied, tends to reveal the core realities of now living together; managing and dealing with the glaring habits, attitudes and temperament in your spouse. Before marriage, energy is focused on pleasing your spouse for fear of loosing the relationship, so by all means, you want to retain their attraction. During the marriage process, the attraction thing is taken for granted, the focus now becomes multi directional as different tasks and challenges begin to unfold through every short distance. Couples must however know that marriage is a permanent union for life, challenges are only temporal. We must learn to develop positive attitude towards challenges so as to revitalize our marriage relationships.......
Question of the day: Marriage is hard work. Do you agree?

01/11/2017

After the wedding ceremony, couples are quick to submit that they are married. Marriage is a continuous process whereby the couple in the union constantly forges understanding, promote love, study and tolerate their background differences. Marriage is a life style where each couple should strive to look after the overall interest of the other without any hidden/selfish motives. Couples can only be said to be married when they have surmounted marital challenges and are still happy together; when one spouse does not need an external party to feed them information about the other spouse; when the couple at any instance can be referred to as best of friends; when their misunderstandings and differences can be solved without recourse to a third party. When love to them means; we can walk together, we can do all things together, we can rejoice together in times of victory and cry together in times of defeat but still put up a smile and say I do!! That is what it takes to be married.

28/10/2017

Marriage can be progressive and sweet when the purpose is known and there is a dogged determination by the couple to contribute and value sacrifice and submission as the pivot upon which their relationship is advanced. The couple in the union must work assiduously, collectively and individually to encourage one another at projecting these two principles and to know that transparency is the only engine that can power these principles to bliss; if you know the gain, you can take the pain. Spouses in the marital relationship must understand how sacrosanct and tasking marriage can be in terms of commitment, it is a pledge to undertake an assignment to model God in that relationship. You must put your hand to the plough and never look back. May God grant us the grace to run the marriage race with the consciousness that we replicate God's nature of love in that relationship. As you read this piece, take a break and ask; whose nature do I project in my marital relationship? If you project God, your marriage will be progressively interesting.

26/10/2017

In marriage, when realities Begin to set in and challenges begin to line up, enforcing your opinion on your spouse gives them the impression that their contributions are not relevant in the relationship, they gradually get frustrated and withdrawn or some may result to outright revolt. When your imposing attitude does not shift, it could lead to a complete communication breakdown. Couples must learn to respect each other's views, put up convincing opinions via humble discussion - not cutting into each other's sentence - With this approach, effective communication is encouraged and rational decisions are taken.
When you do not give your spouse the benefit of doubt and you act on assumption without clarification, your communication level will nosedive to zero and it can be most frustrating for any marital relationship. We pray that God will open our eyes of understanding and enhance our communication skills with our spouses.

25/10/2017

Many unnecessary crisis are rearing up in marriages because couples are building high, sound proof walls between themselves. Some spouses are shouting their guts out to attract the attention of the other spouse. The response they often get is ' why are you shouting, am I deaf?' ...... No you are not deaf, you only created a middle wall of partition with your nonchalant attitude to his/ her concerns. In such situations you need to break down the wall and just listen. On the other hand, the spouse that is sending the message need not be too loud and seem offensive; instead try hard to season every word that proceeds out of your mouth so that it can be easily digested by the listening spouse. May God grant us the wisdom to communicate properly in our homes.

23/10/2017

PARTIAL COMMUNICATION
Partial communication could be said to exist in marriage when a spouse is selective in information he/she shares or discusses with the other. The intention may be to cover up an act or atrocity by all means. Lies and deciets are usually the instruments set aside to achieve the goals. When there are bars and limits set to discussion amongst couples, then something is definitely going wrong in the relationship. When it is only convenient to discuss obvious challenges only because they must at some point face it and each couple hoard's or partially gives information of their victories and successes; then there is danger for the marital relationship. Partial communication is a cancer to any marriage. Transparency is the cure that can kill that cancerous cell. Transparency is your key (sacrifice) if you cherish that marriage. Remain blessed.

21/10/2017

We did a write up on communication in our last series and we wrote on good communication. Now, let us look at BAD COMMUNICATION. Bad communication exposes nakedness in marriage (and they were both naked, the man and his wife and were not ashamed Gen. 2:25. Bad communication takes away value out of marriage, it is an unseasoned type of communication where a spouse becomes insensitive to the feelings of the other spouse. In this case, the victim (spouse) begins to feel worthless, used or even abused. Bad communication is devastating and can easily destroy the relationship in a marriage. Let us eschew bad communication in our marital relationships.

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