Nikki Bray - Coaching & Training

19/11/2025

We don’t just feel things out of nowhere.
Science shows that our emotions are shaped by our self-talk, and our self-talk is shaped by our core beliefs—the deep things we believe about ourselves, others, God and the world.

The Bible has been pointing to this for centuries:
“Be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” — Romans 12:2
Transformation starts under the surface, in the beliefs we carry.

If your core belief is “I’m not enough,” “I can’t do this”, “I’m failing”, “this is too hard for me”…your inner dialogue will echo that.
If your belief is “God is for me,” “I can learn to do new things”, “I am becoming ….(capable, stronger, confident) your self-talk begins to sound like confidence, peace, and hope.
Our beliefs shape our thoughts… and our thoughts shape our feelings.

That’s why healing often means unpacking what we believe—and updating anything that no longer lines up with God’s truth and new learnings.

A simple way to start:
🟡 Notice a feeling.
🟡 Ask: “What belief is sitting underneath this?” “Is it helping or harming?”
🟡 Hold it up to Scripture.
🟡 Replace it with what God actually says, and then create a new life enhancing belief to live out of.

It’s biblical. It’s scientific. It’s deeply transformational.
Renew your beliefs → renew your thoughts → renew your feelings.

28/08/2025

When we learn to rewire the neural pathways in our brain, it isn’t “fake it till you make it”. There’s nothing fake about creating a new state, a new way of being. It’s more about making a conscious choice to “be” different, to choose a more life enhancing state to live out of.

Neuroscience tells us that what we repeatedly do, think, and feel creates neural networks in the brain, which means if we consciously act, think and entertain feelings we want to experience, then we create new neural pathways. The brain changes depending on how we use it. That’s neuroplasticity.

We can leave old unhelpful patterns behind and live out of new ones; we can cast off anxiety, over thinking, rumination, low self esteem, perfectionism, guilt etc and instead put on dignity, self worth, confidence, peace, acceptance etc.

Scripture confirms this, and I paraphrase “with regard to your former way of life, put off your old self, to be made new in the attitude of your minds, and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness. Ephesians 4:22-24

I love working with my coachees and encouraging them as they embrace life in all its fullness. Jesus promised nothing less.

21/05/2025

19/05/2025

I posted this as a story yesterday but someone asked me to post it so that they can re read. So here it is peeps.

18/02/2025

This is Alisha - she’s an absolute legend. Two years ago she did the Lightning Process with me due to being stuck with fibromyalgia. She immediately started to do better and she has gone from strength to strength. This past weekend she completed the 50kms Ultra Marathon Mont Blanc - this is what she said to me today.

“Just wanted to let you know I did it!! My cup is overflowing with gratitude, and I could really implement what I learned during the lightning process to manage my thoughts, stay positive and have an absolute blast out on the course!! Thank you again x

I used to think I would never get here, now I’m wondering what else I can do!! 💪🏼“

What a gal! I love seeing coachees kick their limiting beliefs to the curb and live THE abundant life.

08/01/2025

Helen Sanderson is a psychotherapist and also known as ‘The Clutter Therapist’.

Helen simply states that clutter is usually a pile of decisions that haven’t been made! And clutter doesn’t just get in your way, it weighs on your mind. And because of that it can activate the stress response.

I’ve known this to be true in my own life. When I look around me and all I see are piles of admin or unfinished projects I sense my body shift into a mild sense of anxiety.

In 2011 a study at the Princeton Neuroscience Institute found that having clutter in sight can make it more difficult to focus . The more visual stimuli your brain has the harder it is to process thoughts - and it stresses the brain more.

So here’s some ideas to begin your clutter detox.

1) Break tasks into small chunks.
Rather than say I’m going to declutter my entire office, begin by saying I’m going to declutter my desk drawers.

2)Spend just 5 mins a day on decluttering. The thought of spending an hour or a morning decluttering can feel overwhelming but we can all give 5 minutes, and those 5 minutes can create a new habit.

3) Consider giving one item away each week. We often add to our environments rather than replace. Take a look around and ask yourself ‘does this have any use or value to me in any way’. If not, consider giving it away.

4)Donate clothes you really don’t wear anymore.

And remember that freeing yourself from clutter frees the mind. It creates a sense of peace and gives space for the brain to focus.

Decluttering can be a form of self care.

08/12/2024

I just love this. Take some time and really absorb these - soak them up - think on them - they really are on point!
May you be encouraged and strengthened today!

22/11/2024

I really love this question from James Clear today. Mastering one thing is a way of keeping future options open, but when we’re always chasing the next thing we’re actually limiting our options for the future.
Reflecting on our habitual patterns provides great insight!

15/11/2024

Yep! Yep! Yep! 👌🙌

12/11/2024

Although this statement is particularly aimed at leaders in the workplace, I think we can all consider the difference this would make in all our relationships.
Any conversation - any interaction will be helped if we consider asking a question first.
I can often do it wrong - I’m a work in progress like everyone else but this week I took my own advice. It was still hard but the conversation went better. I was in a tricky personal situation and so when I opened the conversation I started with “can you please help me understand what’s been going on for you over the past couple of weeks?”
I then shut up and listened.
I had their perspective first and then I could steer the conversation in a healthier direction.
Try leading with questions …: it’s so much more productive, collaborative and respectful.
Not “why are you such an idiot?” That’s obviously combative …. But a genuine inquisitive question that deep down is communicating “I really do want to understand”.