24/02/2026
It’s not that hard to offer your support when someone shares something like their fat loss goals. Don’t be the person who scoffs and says ‘yeah, until you fall off the wagon’ or ‘I wonder how long it will last this time.’
Because even if you’re ’joking’ it’s not cool.
Most people beginning a diet could describe themselves as a graveyard for failed attempts. They barely believe in themselves to be successful here and have self-limiting beliefs that over time can erode their discipline and willpower to the point that, when they do give up, well, they always knew they were going to anyway and are resigned to this fact.
The last thing they need are friends around them who don’t believe in them too. What you don’t realise, when you joke about falling ‘off the wagon’ or when you offer someone something (like chocolate, or a muffin) that doesn’t align with their goals, you are trying to sabotage their attempts. Sometimes it’s unintentional and you don’t know you’re doing it. Sometimes it’s not that subtle.
This happens all of the time to clients and members that I work with.
If you’re truly a friend, be there for them. Ask what they need or just even let them know how proud you are for them to take this step and that you also know that this time it IS different.
If you don’t feel this way, and find yourself waiting for your friend to fail, ask yourself why you are feeling this way about it ? Often someone else’s behaviour shines a light on something we don’t like about ourselves. No judgement to that, but remember that their goals are not about you. They are about them. But your words and actions do mean a lot. Be the friend you would like them to be if the tables were turned.