19/10/2025
Todayās view
Where in your life are you forcing something that might actually need more space to flow?
An easier way sometimes to answer that question is āwhere do you notice you operate from fear? Fear of being behind, being not enough (this one is most of us), fear of losing somethingā.
I know it can sometimes feel safer when we grip tightly to control, expectations and outcomes but often in that āpushā we lose the ability to experience natural momentum, creativity, the unexpected magic.
Iāve been on an active mission these past couple of years to release my grip on some areas of my life where I noticed I needed a different approach, because frankly my inner control freak is exhausting and not my best look.
Think fear, wearing controls clothes, calling herself ābeing organisedā. š«£
I want to share a little of what Iāve changed and the impact this has had because this is topic that comes up so often in coaching sessions.
THREE THINGS IāVE FOCUSED ON;
1. Get super clear of my values - this has helped me move from a place of needing things to go right to constantly asking what matters in how I show up. I feel steady when I ask that question.
2. Pause - like literally go against the desire to act when I notice a negative emotion driving it. Even 10mins of awareness interrupt the old patterns and beautiful energy flows in those gaps.
3. Discomfort is data, not danger - learning to sit with discomfort is really hard but key to growth. I truly want to feel and grow, it excites me, and that requires a bit of meeting yourself in the shadows.
WHAT IVāE NOTICED;
1. The subtle timing of things - The way people come into my life at the right moments, or how a conversation flows when I listen more. The right people appear. Timing makes sense. Synchronicities increase.
2. Relationships soften - I listen more deeply, I let people show me who they are when I reduce the expectations of who I think they should be. I love more fiercely, openly, honestly.
3. My soul guides alongside my body and mind - I recognise my ability to feel truth instead of thinking it. We all have this gift. Trust it, itās a superpower.
āØLoosen the reins cowgirl, your safe xx