11/03/2026
The reflections this date stirs are layered - on love, loss, and the complexities that lived inside a story like ours.
Today marks the memorial of the day Julian left earthside.
Time has brought perspective, and this is what I feel called to share today with an invitation to consider;
Where can you see yourself in here?
Every answer is different, and what follows reflects what I have observed and experienced.
Forgiveness doesn’t always come from believing people meant well
Sometimes it comes from recognising how human systems actually work.
People act from what has been modelled to them
From the resources they had available
From patterns learned long before they were ever questioned
Judgement
Shame
Fear
Silence
And the belief that loyalty means protecting - at all costs - even dysfunction that causes harm.
These things shape behaviour more than most realise
When those patterns go unexamined they continue to perpetuate environments where harm continues
And some people are furious
when you name it.
None of us move through life without influencing the people around us
That doesn’t mean blame
But it does invite honesty about the roles we play within the systems we participate in.
I Forgive - for me
Not for them
Because PEACE came when I realised
I can hold the nuance, polarity
And recognise the complexity of human behaviour without carrying resentment
AND my emotional response
- is F*cking Valid!
Part of my own journey was to explore
with compassionate curiosity
how I found myself in my experiences.
Examining the wounds and patterns
that influenced the choices I made
that led me to arrive at that place.
Everyone is doing their best with what they know
Every choice brings information
And what others choose to do with their awareness is theirs to reckon with.
When you move from love, honesty and integrity
- even when painful, especially then
You realise you no longer need to carry what never belonged to you.
Sometimes the most powerful thing we can do is release the weight of other people’s unexamined stories…
and allow them to meet their own truth wherever that may land for them.
For Julian 🫶
God is Truth 🤍
