Helen Shale - Clinical Hypnotherapist, Master Life Coach

18/03/2025

17/02/2025

This is so true from the wonderful work of Charlie Mackesy x

10/02/2025

Thought for the week: Love this quote from Caitlin Moran, journalist and author of best seller 'How to Be a Woman'.

"When a woman says 'I have nothing to wear', what she really means is, 'There's nothing here for who I'm supposed to be today'."

Often, as women (and men) we have so many personas which is fine, as long as we still have a solid grip on what makes us unique and a clear view of our 'North Star', ie, what we want out of life.

What do you think?

02/02/2025

Love this. Have a great week everybody.

27/01/2025

Thought for the Week:
Morning,

As we brace ourselves for whatever 2025 is going to serve up, I thought it was important to remember the importance of frivolity, and uniqueness. As they say, ‘everybody else is taken’. 😊

20/01/2025

Thought for the Week
“Worry is interest paid on a trouble before it’s due.” I love this quote from a Glen Innes church billboard.
“I am a worrier” is something I hear quite often from clients. This “self-brand” means they often feel troubled or anxious about what is or might be happening. It’s also expressed as part of their identity, sometimes seen as inevitable, particularly when mothers/fathers are/were also “worriers”.
It’s really important that this is consciously managed and that worrying is understood ie, recognising that it’s just your brain trying to make sense of a real and present danger. Worrying when your fears are actionable makes sense as it prods you into doing something about it to address your concerns. Worrying also only involves your mind, and is usually specific, grounded in reality, and temporary.
On the other hand, anxiety is more serious and is most often more generalised, persistent and can amplify the risk. And given it affects both your body and your mind, can compromise your ability to function where you can get into a struggle.
If you worry excessively, or are regularly experiencing anxiety, here are five steps likely to help:
1. Make sure you have 5-10 minutes (ideally 20 minutes minimum) each morning to practice mindfulness. Tune into yourself using calming breaths and peaceful self-supporting thoughts.
2. Turn off the news as it can increase feelings of stress. You can catch the main events in a short time and use the rest of the time to decompress from the day.
3. Challenge the negative thoughts. Is what I’m worried/anxious about actually true? Is it helpful? This can help you reset.
4. Pinpoint the actual emotions you are feeling and unwrap the possible reasons. This ‘gentle unpacking’ can reduce the intensity and help you approach things more rationally rather than emotionally.
5. Distraction. If you’ve decided there isn’t anything you can do about the situation, let it go. You can use a visualisation such as putting the anxious thoughts into a balloon and letting it float up and away. Then fill the gap by switching your mind onto something else that is more positive and that will take your full attention.

Remember, no one can make us worry, anxious or feel inferior without our permission. We are at the controls. If you have more deep-seated anxiety, life really doesn’t have to be that way. I can help.

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05/01/2025

Last year’s mantra was ‘simplicity in everything’. This year, I’m building on that with ‘chill and prosper’. I know my best work happens when I have balance in all things.
Have a great year, everybody. Amazing opportunities abound, let’s reel them in 😊

15/12/2024

Given the time of the year, I thought I’d deliver this take on New Years Resolutions from Brianna Wiest:

“You don’t change in breakthroughs; you change in micro shifts. Breakthroughs do not happen spontaneously. They are tipping points. Revelations occur when ideas that were sitting in the margins of your mind finally get enough attention to dominate your thoughts. These are the “clicking” moments, the moments when you finally understand advice you’ve heard your entire life. The moments when you’ve habituated yourself to a pattern of behaviour for long enough that it becomes instinctive.

Let Go. Activate. Amplify. Automate. If you want to change your life, you need to make tiny, nearly undetectable decisions every hour of every day until those choices are habituated. Then you’ll just continue to do them.”

Happy holidays everyone!