17/03/2026
Handling grief ...
When my father died I had all the text book responses ...
When my mother died it was a repeat experience, but to a depth that I never could have imagined.
Two things that helped me out tremendously -
1. Cleaning / anything / cupboards / windows etc it was my way to process
2. To stop the overwhelming uncontrollable wave of tears - especially when I was in a public place or driving; I created a brain disrupting statement that I could repeat, that would move me to a calmer space.
This statement needs to be short, and non-sensical, so the brain suddenly stops and goes ...wt* ...
here's one example: and it could be anything at all;
The glittering triangle jumped over the banana moon
now when your brain starts to try and 'figure' it out and imagine it, after a few days you need to change it to something else.
Give it a go
Let me know how it all works for you.
On the journey with you
N x
