Being Your Psychologist.

16/08/2023

11/08/2023

understand that you are not a possession; you should never let anyone treat you like something that can be controlled and told what to do.

10/08/2023

اطلاعات کے مطابق ایک فلم تھیٹر میں ایک مختصر فلم دکھائی گئی جس کا آغاز کمرے کی چھت کے اسنیپ شاٹ سے ہوا۔ کوئی تفصیلات، کوئی رنگ نہیں۔ صرف ایک سفید چھت پر لگا پنکھا ۔

یہی منظر 6 منٹ تک جاری رہا جیسے یہ فلم رکھ گئی ہو ، جب فلم دیکھنے والے مایوس ہونے لگے۔ کچھ نے شکایت کی کہ فلم پر اپنا وقت ضائع کر رہیں ہیں اور کچھ نے واپس جانا شروع کر دیا۔

اچانک، کیمرے کا لینس آہستہ آہستہ حرکت کرنے لگا یہاں تک کہ وہ نیچے فرش تک پہنچ گیا۔ ایک چھوٹا بچہ جو معذور دکھائی دے رہا تھا وہ بستر پر لیٹا تھا، ریڑھ کی ہڈی ٹوٹی ہوئی ، وہ ہل نہیں سکتا تھا ۔
اس کے بعد کیمرہ مندرجہ ذیل الفاظ کے ساتھ واپس چھت تک فوکس کرتا ہے !

"ہم نے آپ کو اس بچے کی روزمرہ کی سرگرمی کے صرف 8 منٹ دکھائے، اس منظر سے صرف 8 فٹ کے فاصلے پر یہ معذور بچہ اپنی زندگی کے تمام گھنٹے گزارتا ہے اسی فوکس کے ساتھ ، اور آپ نے شکایت کر دی اور 6 منٹ تک صبر نہیں کیا، آپ برداشت نہیں کر سکے۔ یہ مسلسل دیکھنا .."

بعض اوقات ہمیں اپنے آپ کو دوسروں کی جگہ وقتی طور پر رکھنے کی ضرورت ہوتی ہے ( اندھا ، بہرا ، گونگا معذور ، بے گھر وغیرہ وغیرہ) تاکہ ہمیں عطا کی گئی نعمتوں کی وسعت کا احساس ہو اور اللہ کا شکر ادا کریں کہ اس نے ہمیں ایسی نعمتیں عطا کی ہیں جنکا شکر ادا کرنا اولین ترجیح ہے ۔

( ڈاکٹر محمد صلاح)

09/08/2023

These days, it has become a regular practice to see news reports about teenagers committing su***de, especially after the board exam results or the competitive exam results are out. Even after securing a seat in prestigious colleges, young adults are not happy and are depressed.

Parents, are you observing these reports? Did you ever wonder what's happening, and why this drastic increase in teen depression?

Do you know that one of the primary reasons for this increase is our expectations and the pressure we put on our kids to succeed in academics?

We might think, we only want the best for our children and we want them to succeed, and if they work hard during these teenage years, they can relax their entire life.

But parents, every teenager is aware of the academic pressure and competition. As a human, they also have the inherent tendency to succeed.

We need to only show them the way and guide them gently. But instead of guiding them gently, all we are doing as a society is to put pressure on them.

Wherever these teenagers go, well-meaning neighbors and family friends keep asking them - will they secure a seat in XYZ college or secure the top percentage.

These teenagers are not allowed to relax and unwind from academics. Didn't you hear the saying "All work makes Jack a dull boy?"

To top it off, social media is also putting them under a lot of stress. No wonder our teens and even tweens are becoming a generation of lost kids, who don't know where to turn for help.

That's the reason why there are so many angry outbursts, communication breakdowns, and anxiety attacks in our children, including depression.

Can we all work towards providing a safe space for our children to grow without any of these emotional health issues and succeed in their life?

For that to happen, let's start creating a safe space for our children to come and share their inner feelings with us. What do you think parents? Do share your thoughts.

09/08/2023

Parental Alienation lesson #1:

Your children are uncomfortable seeing you in public because they’re AFRAID word might get back to their alienators. They do everything in their power to avoid interrogations and hearing negative things about you, why? Because deep down they do love you. A child that is free to love the other parent would not carry those fears.

08/08/2023

The Impact of Mindfulness Meditation on Stress Reduction

Psychologists have found that mindfulness meditation positively changes our brain and biology, improving mental and physical health.

According to the American Psychological Association, mindfulness reduces the body's response to stress.

Chronic stress can impair the immune system and worsen several health problems. By lowering the stress response, mindfulness may positively affect the whole body.

But what is mindfulness meditation?

One of the most popular meditation techniques is mindfulness. There are two main parts to it: attention and acceptance.

Attention is about tuning into your experiences to focus on what's happening in the present moment. In contrast, acceptance involves observing those feelings and sensations without judgment.

Learning mindfulness meditation can help you to reduce stress and anxiety. It also helps you to cultivate a greater sense of self-awareness and compassion for yourself and others.

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2. Find a comfortable place to sit or lie down without distractions.

3. Bring your attention to your body by focusing on the sensations of your breath.

4. When thoughts come up, acknowledge them without judgment and then refocus on the breath.

5. Pay attention to any physical sensations, such as tingling or warmth in the body.

6. End with a few minutes of gratitude for yourself and others who have helped you since the last practice session.

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08/08/2023

ہم بچپن میں ہی بچوں سے میچورٹی کی توقع اور تاکید کر کے ان کی زندگی کا سب سے خوبصورت وقت بھی ضائع کر دیتے ہیں۔ ان کو ان کی عمر کے مطابق بڑھنے دیں۔ کھیلنے دیں۔ سیکھنے دیں اپنی غلطیوں سے۔ سوال کرنے دیں الٹے سیدھے۔ ان کو بچہ سمجھ کر ٹریٹ کریں ۔ نا کہ سمجھداری کے کھوکھلے خ*ل میں بند کر کے ان کی معصومیت کو ختم کریں۔

08/08/2023

I think it’s great that therapy and mental wellness are part of the mainstream conversation. The more information we share and the more knowledge that is out there, the better.

It’s important to understand that therapy is a tool. Like all things, it’s *how* you use the tool that determines the outcome. Not everyone is going to therapy to self reflect, to own their role, or to gain more emotional tools. Some people are looking to be validated that others are the issue. Or, to just declare that they’re in therapy.

It is not a magic fix. No therapist can make someone change their patterns— or even see them. The habits and patterns that happen every week outside of that hour are equally important. Without true dedication to doing the work, change doesn’t happen.

Ideally, a person comes ready to learn new tools and break generational patterns. They’re ready to face the discomfort, the shame, and they have the humility to be introspective. This takes courage and radical transformation happens.

Have you noticed this?

08/08/2023

People don't fake depression, they fake being okay.
remember that, be kind.

02/08/2023

گھبراہٹ یعنی انگزائیٹی ہمیں مستقبل میں کسی ایسے واقع کو سوچ کر ہوسکتی ہے جو ممکن ہے ہو سکے اور یہ بھی ممکن ہے کہ اس کے ہونے کا حقیقت سے کوئی تعلق نا ہو۔ اپنے نروس سسٹم کو ریگولیٹ کرنے کے لیے ہمیں ماضی اور مستقبل سے نکل کر حال میں وقت گزارنا پڑتا ہے۔ سننے میں یہ مشق بچگانہ سی لگتی ہے لیکن اسے مستقل مزاجی کے ساتھ کرتے رہنے سے ہم اپنے ذہن کو ایک پیغام دیتے ہیں کہ ہم ابھی کہیں اور نہیں حال میں یعنی اس موجودہ لمحے میں زندگی گزار رہے ہیں۔ جس سے آہستہ آہستہ ہمارا ذہن مستقبل کے لیے پریشان ہونا چھوڑ سکتا ہے۔ آپ کر کے دیکھیں🌸