31/05/2020
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I have always had the tendency to act like a complete control freak. Putting my heart and soul into the things that matter to me, be it work, relationship, friendship, or anything else in general, and believing with absolute certainty that it will turn out the way i want. And if anything goes wrong and for some reason, it doesn’t work out then i would completely lose it and/or won’t be able to cope.
And that’s because there is a bit of a downside to being a control freak. You become so attached to the things you love and are so set on achieving a certain thing a certain way that you’re a complete emotional wreck if things go haywire.
Why?
While it is good to have a certain amount of control in your life and plan things according to what you want but know that it may not always be how you want it to be. Don’t get too attached to the illusion of grandeur or perfectionism. If you do, you are putting yourself at a huge risk.
Does that mean that one must never be passionate about their goals or give themselves completely into anything? Or take risks? Absolutely not.
One must always stick to the idea of ‘self’ that is independent of anything else in the world. One must always be able to get back up on their feet and start again quickly instead of being miserable for days/months if certain things don’t work out. Practice detachment. It is also one of the YAMAS of yoga.
“Detachment is an art of enjoying something while always being open to the possibility of losing it someday.”