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Life Balance LLP, Singapore (2026)

21/01/2026

Ghosted by Recruiters – the Hidden Toll on Mental Health

Over the past few weeks, I was approached by different people who were not asking for help with their job applications (I am not an Executive Coach) - but for support with their mental/emotional response and subsequently well-being.

Each had been actively seeking new positions in different industries and shared the same frustrating pattern:

Several rounds of interviews
Trial tasks
Cultural and values assessments
Followed by... silence.
Sometimes a short rejection. But often: nothing at all.

Being ghosted - a term once used in dating - has disturbingly become normalized in recruitment.

What I observed in these three cases was strikingly similar:

Devaluation - repeated rejections (especially without explanation) create self-doubt and question one’s professional worth

Anxiety - the endless waiting breeds stress and restlessness

Anger & disappointment - efforts are often met with indifference, creating a deep sense of disrespect

Depression - long-term rejection can lead to emotional numbness and despair

Uncertainty - without closure, it’s hard to reset and refocus

The overall outcome? A loss of self-worth and a cynical outlook on the future.
Ghosting isn’t just rude - it’s harmful. Research shows that repeated experiences of social exclusion (ostracism) can have significant psychological consequences, including increased anxiety, loneliness, and even depressive symptoms.

As someone deeply involved in emotional and somatic healing, I see the ripple effect clearly: ghosting isn’t just a professional letdown - it can lead to a personal crisis.

Here are some steps how to deal with being rejected or ghosted:

1) Acknowledge your feelings: sadness, anger, even confusion - all are valid
2) Don’t overanalyse: lack of response rarely reflects your value or performance
3) Reclaim your power: take one small, self-affirming step today - your worth is not defined by others’ silence
4) Observe what is behind your emotion - maybe, it’s an old pattern being triggered
5) Make a list of all your successes so far - and a list of perceived failures and how you got out of them
6) Talk to someone - learn to reframe your perception and develop insight and resilience

Remember: your skills, your efforts, your humanity matter.
Don’t let a broken system shake your sense of worth.

Ina

https://bouncebackwithina.com/sedona/

14/01/2026

Are you truly lonely - or simply alone?

What’s the difference, and how can we navigate that uncomfortable sense of isolation or even abandonment?

Being alone is a physical state.

Loneliness, however, is an inner experience - the quiet ache of not belonging, of feeling unseen or disconnected from the world around us.

Since Covid, loneliness has almost become a global epidemic. Prolonged separation from others has weakened our sense of community, belonging, and shared experiences. Even today, many people struggle to reconnect on an emotional level.

Yet, intentional solitude can be deeply nourishing. It can help regulate dopamine, foster clarity, and encourage self-reflection. But when solitude becomes prolonged or unintentional, it can slip into loneliness.

Use intentional solitude to your advantage

👍Time away from overstimulation helps restore attention and executive functioning. Even short periods of solitude - paired with meditation - can significantly boost focus and decision-making.

👍Strengthening your inner sense of self improves emotional regulation and reduces dependency on others, leading to healthier and more secure attachment patterns.

When solitude turns into loneliness

👍Accept the feeling. Try not to ask 'Why me?' or 'What’s wrong with me?' Emotional pain is part of being human - but suffering is optional.

👍Nourish yourself with beauty. Visit an exhibition, a museum, or a concert. Let your attention shift effortlessly without needing to speak.

👍Journal your thoughts. Write about how you feel right now. Then reflect on your life - your experiences, your adventures. Often, appreciation emerges through remembering.

👍Reconnect through service. If the loneliness persists, volunteer your time. Helping others is one of the fastest ways to restore a sense of purpose and belonging.

Have you felt lonely recently? How did you cope?

10/01/2026

Are You Afraid of the Year of the Horse?

Or do you consider Chinese metaphysics amusing, at best?

But perhaps curiosity nudges you to wonder how you might benefit from the coming year.

Over recent weeks, several clients have approached me with similar questions:
How will the new year unfold? Will it be favorable or challenging? Should I change jobs, travel more, get married, or invest in property?

Before addressing these questions, it is useful to clarify a fundamental difference between the Western and Chinese calendar systems.

Western vs. Chinese Calendar show a different view of time:
The Western calendar is solar, based on the Earth’s movement around the sun. Months are fixed, linear, and time is experienced as something that moves forward in a straight line.

The Chinese calendar, by contrast, is lunisolar, integrating both the moon and the sun. Months shift according to lunar cycles, and time is perceived as cyclical, rhythmic, with repeating patterns.

Neither system is right or wrong. Both are grounded in scientific observation and represent different ways of understanding cosmic movements and universal laws.

The key distinction lies in perspective: linear and fixed versus cyclical and adaptive.

Common Fallacies:
👍Every year, predictions circulate about illness, divorce, disasters, or misfortune - often linked to specific birth years.

👍Truth:
Unrest, disease, and crises occur every year, somewhere in the world. While certain Elemental configurations may indicate more friction in a particular year, they do not determine specific events for specific individuals as each person experiences the same year differently.

👍Some zodiac signs are labelled 'unlucky' due to unfavorable interactions - such as those born in the Year of the Rat being 'in conflict' with the Horse.

👍Truth:
A person’s birth chart consists of eight interacting Energies. Drawing conclusions from a single component is overly simplistic and inaccurate. Meaningful interpretation requires analyzing the relationships between all elements, their seasonal strength, and their dynamic interaction.

👍Remember: There is nothing fixed or predetermined in your date of birth. You remain in control of your decisions and direction in life.

However, by respectfully analyzing your personal energetic configuration, it becomes possible to identify:

👍Tendencies and Inclinations

👍Periods of Ease and Momentum, and

👍Phases where caution, reflection, or strategic adjustment are advised

Chinese metaphysics is not about fate - it is about timing, awareness, and choice.
It deals in opportunities, not certainties, possibilities, not predictions. Interpreting the language of the Elements requires not only technical knowledge, but years of experience combined with profound psychological insight.

Curious how you can navigate the Year of the Horse in an informed and advantageous way?

Ina

https://bouncebackwithina.com
https://lifebalance.com.sg

31/12/2025

Why New Year’s Resolutions Rarely Work

Have you made your New Year’s resolutions?
Or have you already given up on them - perhaps long ago?

Every January, countless people commit to change. The most common resolutions are familiar: losing weight, exercising more regularly, eating healthier. Yet by February, most of these intentions are abandoned. Studies consistently show a failure rate of 70-80%.

The intention is usually sincere - so where does the willpower go?
Three key factors contribute to this pattern of failure.

1) Lack of Clarity

Vague intentions lead to vague results. Without clarity, motivation quickly fades.

This year, follow the SMART method:

Specific: What exactly do you want to achieve—and why does it matter to you?\
Measurable: How will you track progress?
Attainable: Is the goal genuinely motivating and within reach?
Realistic: A reality check matters—losing 10 kg in one month is not sustainable.
Time-bound: By when do you want to reach this goal?

2) Change Your Language

Most resolutions create an internal power struggle. The rational mind issues commands, while instinctive desires resist them. Every morning becomes a battle: discipline - going to the gym - versus comfort – to sleep in. This constant enforcement is exhausting - and exhaustion eventually destroys desire.

Instead of saying, ‘I will go to the gym, every day’ try reframing it as,

‘I am looking forward to increased physical health and vitality.’

Language shapes perception. When motivation comes from attraction rather than coercion, it lasts longer.

3) From Resolutions to Declarations

Rather than making New Year’s resolutions, consider making New Year’s declarations.

Instead of asking:
‘What do I have to accomplish this year?’

Ask:
‘Who do I want to become?’

This shift moves the focus from external achievement to internal identity. It changes how you view and relate to yourself. Unlike a short-term goal, this is a process - one that requires insight and self-reflection and extends far beyond a gym membership.

Sustainable success emerges when we begin to befriend ourselves, rather than command ourselves.

Ina

https://www.bouncebackwithina.com

18/12/2025

Do you feel out of control?

Drowning in expectations, functioning on autopilot just to meet demands?
Have you lost the sense of being alive - of being in charge of your life?

Between 42 and 52, many people reach their first major life peak: a stable career, a partnership or family, growing children, maybe a home.

And then the quiet question appears: ‘Is this all’?
Is this the life you once imagined - or are you maintaining the status quo to appear successful while feeling disconnected inside?

The loss of autonomy creeps in slowly.
Notice the first signs: withdrawing from social activities, being glued to your computer, feeling sudden anger, frustration or sadness, sensing you’ve missed something important. Maybe you’ve drifted away from friends and family.

To regain clarity, help your brain shift from constant fight/flight into the parasympathetic state.

How to begin
1. The 3-3-3 Rule - an instant grounding tool
A simple way to calm your nervous system and restore emotional regulation:
Look for 3 things you can see.
Listen for 3 sounds you can hear.
Move 3 parts of your body.
Repeat until your mind slows down and your breath softens.

2. Ask yourself the questions you’ve avoided
Write down your answers.
Where am I - personally and professionally?
What feels wrong or out of alignment?
Who could support me?
Which decisions are mine to make?
Can I say no? Where are my boundaries?

3. Create a vision - change needs direction
Where do you want to be in five years?

4. Write a letter to a trusted friend from your future self - no need to send it
Describe a day in your new life.
Which decisions did you make?
How do you feel living them?

5. Begin a daily journaling habit.
Write your thoughts, worries, disappointments - anything.
This clears emotional fog and restores reasoning.

Finally, through all stages of life - demanding careers, busy families, constant responsibilities - remember to pause, turn inward, and ask yourself:

Whose life am I living?
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29/11/2025

Jack of all trades - Master of none?

Is being a ‘jack of all trades’ a weakness - or your greatest professional advantage?

When counselling clients with diverse backgrounds, having multiple modalities isn’t optional… it’s essential.

Not every client responds in the same way. Similar issues can arise from very different life experiences, requiring different approaches. Guided by the client’s reactions, it’s often necessary to move fluidly between modalities to create the best outcome.

So how do you choose the right tool without knowing the client or their story?

Begin by building genuine rapport through open-ended questions - and a few minutes of relaxed small talk.

Next, clarify what the client hopes to achieve. What is the deeper intention behind seeking coaching?

Explore the present situation: Why hasn’t the desired change happened yet?

This is the moment to examine the background, previous strategies, limiting beliefs, and early conditioning that may be preventing progress. What stands in the way of fulfilling relationships, emotional balance, or career breakthroughs?
Introducing the client’s Adaptation Type offers valuable insight and helps them develop a sense of self-acceptance.

How will the client resonate with different modalities:
👍Talking therapy creates safety and connection - often the essential first step.
👍Sedona Method supports those who enjoy structured mental engagement.
👍EFT (tapping) appeals to those who prefer a holistic, body-mind approach.
👍CBT guides clients toward new ways of evaluating their thoughts, emotions, and reactions.

The most powerful results emerge when insights from these methods are integrated and consolidated - creating long-lasting internal shifts.

And the beauty of all these modalities?
Clients can apply them on their own once they understand how they work.

Have you tried any of these approaches yourself? What helped you move forward?
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18/11/2025

The manifestation of a subconscious barrier.

Same cause - different result? Or different cause - same result?

Many people believe that a fear of flying is caused by a bad experience: a turbulent flight, sudden weather changes, or circling above the airport.
But in reality, far more often the fear is triggered by a much deeper emotional imprint - long before the plane even takes off.

When working with clients, my first question always goes back to the beginning:
When did this fear first appear?
Since childhood? After becoming a parent? After changing a job - or even a country?

To explore further, I mentally 'walk' with the client through the entire journey: packing, calling the taxi, checking in, boarding… until we find the exact moment where the emotional spike happens - that instant where anxiety turns into gripping fear.

Here are some of the most common hidden triggers:

Entering the aircraft - a subtle claustrophobic response
Fastening the seatbelt - feeling trapped or restricted
Closing of the doors - panic at the need to surrender control
Pilot’s announcement - the realisation of powerlessness
Plane rolling onto the runway - the feeling of 'no escape'
Taking off - quite literally 'losing the ground'

Interestingly, once the aircraft is in the air, the panic often decreases.
For many - especially men - the core issue is the emotional discomfort of relinquishing control.

So the real question becomes:
When was the last, or the first, time you felt that exact same emotion in your life?
It’s remarkable how often the fear of flying has very little to do with flying itself - and everything to do with the deeper emotional charge it evokes.

Whatever method you use, the key is always the same:
Understand the underlying emotion before attempting to release it.
No analysing, no overthinking - just recognising, accepting, allowing.

Have you experienced one of these triggers?
Or is there another obstacle that might have a completely different root once explored more deeply?

If you’d like help unravelling the cause behind your own fear or emotional block - I’m here - https://bouncebackwithina.com

12/11/2025

One of the Worst Impediments When Living Abroad: Fear of Flying

Do you suffer from fear of flying?

One of my first clients after completing my studies in energy work was a man preparing to start a new and very attractive job abroad. His previous work had required occasional travel, which he could manage only with strong medication and regular counselling sessions. Yet, despite these efforts, nothing really changed.

The new position, however, involved more than 50% travel - exciting in theory, but terrifying in reality.

He had heard of EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), also known as tapping, but was highly sceptical - understandably so. However, after several sessions of talk therapy and frequent medication he was literally at the end of his tether, ready to try ‘anything’.

After I explained the neurological background of stress and its effects on body and mind, we began to unravel the deeper layers behind his fear, which in his case reached all the way back into childhood.
After just three sessions, his fear of flying was gone - and a great deal of insights created.

In a heartfelt email sent from his new posting, he described his first flight as almost anxiety-free - an experience that opened new opportunities for him not only professionally, but also within his family life.

The Science Behind EFT

Every unpleasant experience or trauma triggers the limbic system, causing a disruption in our body’s natural energy flow. We’ve all felt how fear can paralyze us, how worries upset the stomach, or how anger clouds rational thought. Even mild anxiety before an interview can cause sweaty palms and a racing heart.

EFT works by combining focused awareness on the emotional trigger with gentle tapping on specific acupuncture points along the body’s meridians. This process helps to release the blocked energy and restore balance - mentally, emotionally, and physically.

Important

👍The frequently mentioned ‘one-minute wonder’ does happen, but rarely

👍Repeating generic sentences from a ready-made script won’t necessarily resonate with the real issue.

👍Randomly tapping on acupuncture points while watching TV will not bring true relief.

Because each person’s challenges stem from unique experiences, it’s essential to:
👍Tune into YOUR personal emotion
👍Verbalize YOUR specific issue
👍Then tap lightly on the points – until you feel emotional relief or another issue emerges

Have you ever noticed how, in moments of stress, many people instinctively place their palm on their upper chest?

This simple gesture naturally calms the nervous system and supports the lymphatic flow - helping the body to release tension and toxins.

What do you instinctively do when you feel stressed?

07/11/2025

Is it Perception, Opinion…..or Truth?

‘If we change the way we look at things, the things we look at change.’ Wayne Dyer

This quote reminds us of the transformative power of perspective. Often, it’s not the external circumstances that shift, but our inner perception - the way we interpret sensory information and form an opinion about people or situations.

The Three Aspects of Perception exercise helps bring clarity to conflicts by showing which part of the problem lies within our own responsibility, and which belongs to the other person.

Step 1 - Your Own Perspective

Think of someone with whom you often experience tension - in your personal life (partner, family, children) or in your professional world (boss, colleague, client).

Visualize this person standing a few meters in front of you.
· What conflict or emotion arises when you think of them?
· How do you interpret their behaviour?
· What might be the reason behind their actions?
· And what old belief is being triggered within you –
‘I am not respected,’ ‘I am not enough’, ‘I feel powerless’?

Step 2 - The Other’s Perspective

Now, take a deep breath. Shake off your emotions and move mentally - or even physically - to the place where your counterpart stands.
· From this position of empathy, step into their shoes.
· How might they be feeling?
· What might their perception of you be?
· How could they be interpreting your behaviour?

Step 3 - The Observer’s Perspective

· After you have explored both sides, return to a neutral position
- a space of calm observation.
· Imagine both of you from an equal distance.
· Slide an invisible glass wall in front of your inner eye - this wall
helps you detach emotionally and see the situation objectively,
like an impartial judge.

Ask yourself:
How much of this conflict is truly my responsibility?
How much belongs to the other person?

Consciously, return what is not yours - and then examine your own part. How could you have responded differently? How will you act in the future?

👍Remember: you can never change another person.
You can only choose how you perceive, respond, and grow.

Have you ever noticed how shifting your perspective has profoundly changed a relationship?

04/11/2025

Have you ever wondered whether true healing really means choosing either - or?

My own journey taught me that connecting opposites - East and West, body and mind, science and intuition - can create the most profound transformations.

Is life always about choosing either one path or the other - or can we connect seemingly opposite approaches to create something far more profound?

People often ask why I didn’t follow the conventional medical route but instead devoted my life to exploring alternative attitudes toward health and healing. The truth is, I didn’t decide - life decided for me. I was thrown into situations where I had to choose how to respond to health challenges, both for others and within my own family.

My first encounter with Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM) came when I watched a young girl receive regular massage treatments for a specific condition - with results that, to me, were astonishing. Alongside these treatments, her nutrition was adjusted, and the combination brought visible improvement. That experience sparked my curiosity and led me to explore the deeper causes of medical imbalances.

Not long after, our own baby was advised to undergo a rather severe medical intervention for a chronic respiratory issue. My curiosity became a mission. I needed to understand what true healing meant - beyond treating symptoms. That moment ignited a lifelong study of health and dis-ease, of imbalance and harmony, of Yin and Yang and their intricate dance within life itself.

Over the years, I’ve had the privilege of accompanying many clients on their personal healing journeys. Time and again, life revealed that pain is rarely the first sign of “something wrong.” Healing required looking beyond the physical into the emotional, mental, and energetic dimensions of being human.

Guided by this understanding, I immersed myself in a variety of energetic and holistic modalities—Reiki, Jin Shin Jyutsu, Bach Flower Remedies, meditation, Tai Chi, Qi Gong, and more. Each taught me an essential truth: there is never one source of imbalance, nor one path to healing. Acute conditions often call for conventional medicine, while chronic imbalances respond best to gentler, integrative approaches.

The true breakthrough came when I realized that dis-ease does not arise merely from stress; a weak immune system isn’t simply inherited; and recurring pain isn’t just a result of aging. These may be contributing factors - but at the root of most persistent discomfort lies the emotional system.

Exploring how people adapt to life’s challenges led me to study coaching and counselling. Understanding one’s Adaptation Type - the unique way a person responds to stress and environment - can foster profound self-awareness and acceptance. It becomes a roadmap toward physical and emotional well-being, empowering healthier choices and a more balanced life.

What has been your own experience with an acute or chronic health issue?

Were you ever guided to explore the possible underlying reasons behind it?

Ina
https://www.bouncebackwithina.com

10/10/2025

Everything was easier in the past… apparently not. This was sent to me more than 20 years ago – before Corona, before inflation, before senseless wars, before economic crisis, before frequent earthquakes, landslides…personal and environmental.

Maybe, there is some truth in the following conversation?

God: Hello! Did you call me?
Me: Called you? No…who is this?

God: This is GOD. I heard your prayers. So I thought I will chat with you.
Me: I do pray. Just makes me feel good. I am actually busy now. I am in the midst of something…..

God: What are you busy at? Ants are busy too.
Me: Don’t know. But I can’t find free time. Life has become hectic. It’s rush hour all the time.

God: Sure. Activity gets you busy. But productivity gets you results. Activity consumes time. Productivity frees it.
Me: I understand. But I still can’t figure it out. By the way, I was not expecting YOU to buzz me on instant messaging chat.

God: Well, I wanted to resolve your fight for time, by giving you some clarity. In this net area, I wanted to reach out through the medium you are comfortable with.
Me: Tell me, why has life become complicated now?

God: Your today is the tomorrow that you worried about yesterday. You are worrying because you are analysing. Worrying has become your habit. That’s why you are not happy.
Me; But how can we not worry when there is so much uncertainty…

God: Pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional.
Me: If suffering is optional, why do good people always suffer?

God: Diamonds cannot be polished without friction. Gold cannot be purified without fire. Good people go through trials, but don’t suffer. With that experience their life becomes better, not bitter.
Me: you mean to say such experience is useful?

God: yes, in every term, experience is a hard teacher. She gives the test first and the lessons afterwards.
Me: But still, why should we go through such tests? Why can’t we be free from problems?

God: Problems are Purposeful Roadblocks Offering Beneficial Lessons

Enhancing Mental Strength. Inner strength comes from struggle and endurance, not when you are free from problems.

….To be continued….

30/09/2025

Has Meditation a Dark Side?

Following a personal experience with a client, I came across an article by Miguel Farias, Associate Professor in Experimental Psychology at Coventry University, titled 'Meditation and Mindfulness Have a Dark Side We Don’t Often Talk About.'

What Are Meditation and Mindfulness?

Mindfulness is a form of Buddhist-based meditation that focuses on being present in the moment, observing thoughts, feelings, and sensations without judgment. It helps slow down racing thoughts and release negativity.

Today, it is widely accessible through apps, books, and online programs, making it appear to be the perfect, side-effect-free tonic for stress and mental health challenges.

Yet, research from the past decade paints a more complex picture. Adverse effects are not rare. The most commonly reported are anxiety and depression, but some individuals also experience delusional or even psychotic thoughts.

A wider challenge lies in the fact that meditation engages unusual states of consciousness-states we still lack sufficient psychological theories to fully understand.

Personal Reflections

If you had asked me a year ago whether meditation could have a negative side, I would have denied it - until the experience with my client prompted me to investigate further.

I had always carried a quiet question: If something influences our thoughts and emotions so profoundly, how can we assume it is purely positive?

In the natural order of life, everything exists in polarity. Yin and Yang - light and dark, hot and cold, positive and negative - are eternal opposites that form a whole. They depend on each other, flow into one another, and constantly transform.

A balanced life means walking the fine line between these forces, avoiding extremes, and staying aware of 'the other side'. Informed choices and inner focus help us navigate wisely, protecting us from blindly following popular practices or trends.

Consider the smartphone: never before has it been so easy to be connected - yet humanity has never felt so disconnected. This is a clear example of two extremes manifesting at once.

Which brings us back to meditation. Is it ethical to promote mindfulness apps, teach meditation classes, or use mindfulness in clinical practice without acknowledging potential adverse effects? Given the growing evidence, the answer should be no.

A Call for Balance

Meditation and mindfulness can be powerful tools for peace and healing - but only when approached with care. The key is not to confuse peace with disconnection. Seek responsible, experienced guidance - because just like with smartphones, an app alone is not enough.

What is your take on mindfulness and meditation? Have you ever encountered an undesirable effect on your mind?

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