03/11/2025
We all deserve unconditional love, peace, contentment, just not with those who are not our tribe
They can be broken.
They can't help it
They don't do love
They can only take hostages
That's their nature.
But you were never the problem
You weren't in the wrong place at the wrong time
You are not the problem or the cause
None of this is your fault
It's like buying a faulty car, you can love your car to bits, but it was created on a Monday or a Friday,it has faults and intricate issues that can never be fixed. You can spend you life trying to fix it and love it, and it should have been scrapped long ago
This is any attempt at a healthy loving relationship with a narcissist.
That person is broken and can't be fixed
It's time to let them go completely
They are more happy being broken than if you were to try to fix them .
Now it's all about you!
Finding your old independent self
Finding your true soul mate
Breaking free of all of them
Letting go and letting God
You can do this, its simple but its not not easy
Understand, the person you are today, no longer under their power, is not the same person who was their hostage.
You are two completely different aspects of the same person
There is the you of today, looking back, at the you of all those yesterdays
Grab two pieces of paper
On the first page write an autobiography of you today, of who you are today, who is in your life today(without him)
all your interests and hobbies, your skills and abilities, your hopes, dreams and goals, and attach a picture of you today to this biography
on the other page write an autobiography of the young person who fell for their charms, who committed their life to this lie
On this page write out all of their life
The narcissist
Other people in their life
The broken lies and dreams
The broken hopes and goals
The damage to their soul and self belief
Their undermined self belief, self worth
The guilt and blame put on them
And the rest of that nighttime that defined who that younger version of you was.
And add a picture of that younger you on your wedding day, or at the beginning of the relationship when they had hope and belief that their soulmate was Mr/Mrs Right
See that these are two completely separate people
See that, you are not that person,
See that you are in the position to feel for your younger self, that you carry the memory of what they went through and Sympathy Pains for them, as a show of support and solidarity for them
But, know it didn't happen to the person you are today
It's time to give all of that baggage back to your younger self
They wants you to move on, to be independent and strong, and to find true love
But, for this to happen you have got to give back all those demons, all that baggage, it's theirs to carry, not yours.
There is a way to achieve this
It's a 3 hour healing practice
Only you can do this
No one can fix or save you
It's an inside job
Do this, and the past will lose all power over you.
And you will become the strong independent human being you were created to be.
