02/28/2026
100% how I do things here as well. A lot of other good reasons in the comments section. At the end of the day this is not McDonalds 😂 so I choose who my birds go to because this is my beloved hobby not my full time job.
Without naming names, what are reasons people end up on your DNS or DNB lists? I have a long list for the do not sell and a smaller list for the do not buy. And honestly, in the big picture both lists are still fairly small, but there are a few.
1. Rude or hateful people (way too many of these out there).
2. Uneducated on the breed (if they do educate themselves and come back, I’m more than happy to sell to them!)
3. If I know that you are breeding just to make money. I want my birds to bring joy to people in their backyards or I want them bred to improve the standard. 
4. If you’re a flipper. If someone buys my bird to flip for a profit, I will no longer sell them. I’ve had quite a few of these over the years.
5. If you know that I’ve been looking for a certain bird because I’ve lost mine and you post up the exact bird (that you got from me) I need but refuse to sell it back to me.  I think a breeder should offer a bird back to another breeder first if they can use it. I think this is just common courtesy.
6. If I have sold to you and the birds that I sell to you keep dying because of whatever you have going on at your place. I’m not going to keep sending a bird into a bad situation.
7. If I know you are associated with all the drama in the silkie community. I don’t want to be a part of that. I stay out of it, and I am going to continue to stay out of it.
8. If I know you have a very sick flock. I don’t want to send healthy birds into a sick flock. I think those sick birds should still be taken care of in a closed flock and be given every chance that another bird does but don’t bring healthy birds into that. 
9. Entitlement - if you act like you’re entitled to a certain bird, you’re not getting it. I don’t have to sell anyone I don’t want to. But, if you seem like a decent person that knows what you’re doing. I’m more than happy to sell to you. This kind of goes along with the rude people up top. 
10. People that don’t understand that I have a full-time job and a family life. My husband and I both also suffered with chronic health and it sometimes puts us out for a day or two. I don’t respond to messages immediately a lot of the time. I have three kids that are six and under. I am a full-time nurse. I’ve had multiple brain and neck surgeries that caused me chronic pain as well as lupus and arthritis diagnosis. My husband has a seizure disorder that caused him to break his neck at one point in time and he suffers from chronic pain with that as well. I also do a lot of traveling back-and-forth for a family member so I’m not always home. If you need an immediate response, I’m probably not the person for you. But most breeders do have full-time jobs because you all know this isn’t something that is going to pay all your bills. So please just remember that we are people just like you.🤍
I don’t think anything on the above is crazy by any means, but what are your reasons for not buying or selling to certain people? And again, please do not name names. This is not a post to start drama, but more for education. 
Tomorrow we will be discussing all the reasons that you should sell or buy from someone ;)
PFA