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10/30/2025

💣 Truth Bomb Alert 👇🏼—

“Perfectionism isn’t about doing things perfectly; it’s about finding faults easily.” 😳

This statement invites us to reflect on the nature of perfectionism. Often, it’s not just about striving for high standards; it’s about a mindset that focuses on criticism and highlighting imperfections—whether in ourselves or others.

This perspective can lead to stress, anxiety, and a relentless cycle of dissatisfaction. Recognizing this truth is the first step toward breaking free from the constraints of perfectionism.

Instead of striving for perfection, consider embracing a growth mindset. Acknowledge that making mistakes is a natural part of learning and growing. Allow yourself to celebrate small achievements and recognize that flaws can bring authenticity to our experiences.

Embrace the idea that imperfections are part of the human experience and can foster growth and resilience.

How does this resonate with your experiences? 💭

10/29/2025

🌤️✨ Embrace the Power of Novelty! ✨🌤️
Did you know that short, new experiences—like a spontaneous day trip or exploring a hidden gem in your city—can boost your mood and increase dopamine levels? You don’t always need a grand vacation to feel refreshed! 🌍💫
💡 Key takeaways:
• Your brain craves small doses of novelty.
• Routine keeps you grounded, but novelty brings you to life!
• Finding joy in simple adventures can be transformative.
So, step out of your routine this week! Take a different route to work, try a new café, or visit a park you’ve never been to. 🚶‍♂️☕️ Discover what makes you feel alive!

10/27/2025

10/27/2025

🌱 Healing through Understanding 🌱
Have you ever pondered, “What happened to me, and how did it shape who I am today?” The journey of self-discovery can be challenging but crucial for healing.
📊 This insightful visual breaks down the impacts of various life events—from childhood experiences to major life changes—and how they can influence our emotions and behaviors.
💭 Key Takeaways:
• What Happened: Lifelong events like trauma, loss, or even global crises can leave profound marks.
• How It Felt: Many of us carry feelings of shame, anxiety, or numbness from our experiences.
• How It Shaped You: These feelings often lead to patterns like people-pleasing, difficulty trusting, and emotional disconnection.
✨ Remember, acknowledging these connections can be the first step in healing. You’re not alone on this journey. Reach out for support, whether through friends, family, or a professional.
💬 Let’s talk about it! You have the strength to heal. ❤️

10/26/2025

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Some parenting books leave you anxious. Some leave you feeling not enough. But this book left me breathing easier. From the first chapter, Eli Harwood’s words felt like a deep exhale, like someone finally saying, “You’re doing better than you think, and here’s how to do even better.”

Harwood writes with tenderness and honesty. She sees both the child and the parent; the hopes we carry, the stress we hide, the wounds we still haven’t healed. And she doesn’t shame you for any of it. Reading this book made me feel understood. It made me feel like I could grow without tearing myself down.

Here are five powerful insights that shaped me:

1. Connection isn’t a luxury, it’s the foundation.
Harwood reframes behavior as communication. A tantrum isn’t defiance. It is distress overflowing from a nervous system that doesn’t yet know what to do with big feelings. When connection comes first, when we kneel down, look into their eyes, and say, “I’m here with you”; the fear behind the behavior softens.

2. Calm is contagious, especially a parent’s.
Kids borrow our emotional state. When we lose control, they spin out with us. But when we breathe, slow down, and ground ourselves, we become an anchor in their chaos. Harwood helped me understand that being calm isn’t weakness. It’s leadership.

3. Emotional validation is nourishment for the soul.
Harwood shows that when we dismiss or minimize feelings, even with good intentions, kids learn that emotions are dangerous or a burden. But when we reflect back what they’re experiencing (“You’re really disappointed,” “That scared you”), we teach them that emotions can be named, managed, and released. This insight hit me deeply.

4. You can interrupt generational patterns, even if they run deep.
Harwood speaks gently to the wounded child inside every parent. She reminds us that what we didn’t receive (patience, softness, reassurance) can become exactly what we offer now. There is something profoundly healing about parenting with intention; consciously replacing fear with love, silence with communication, shame with understanding.

5. Repair is not a fallback plan, it’s the heart of secure attachment.
We will shout. We will snap. We will misread moments and overreact. But instead of spiraling into guilt, Harwood invites us to reconnect. To sit beside them and say, “I’m sorry. I shouldn’t have spoken like that. You didn’t deserve it.” They show a child that relationships survive conflict. This made me feel relieved. Perfection isn’t required. Love that returns after rupture is what creates trust.

By the last page, I felt equipped. I felt hopeful. I felt more human — and more capable of raising one. If you want a parenting book that doesn’t just instruct but transforms, "Raising Securely Attached Kids" will change the way you see your child, and yourself, forever.

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10/19/2025

October is domestic violence awareness month

10/19/2025

🌟 Are you or someone you know navigating the journey of change in a relationship? This illustration provides essential questions to consider when evaluating genuine transformation. It emphasizes the importance of accountability, self-awareness, and empathy.

🔍 True change isn’t merely about promises; it requires confronting past behaviors, recognizing the impact of actions, and actively working towards healthier patterns.

💭 Ask yourself: Is there consistent effort to replace harmful behaviors with respectful ones? Are beliefs being questioned and entitlement abandoned? Check off what resonates and reflect on the path toward meaningful change.

💖 Remember, growth takes time and commitment, and it’s vital to surround ourselves with individuals willing to evolve.

10/02/2025

🌟 Finding Balance in Relationships 🌟
In our journey toward healthy connections, it’s crucial to find that “Sweet Spot” of interdependence! 💙✨
🔍 Are you feeling enmeshed—over-involved in others’ lives, or struggling to separate your emotions from theirs? It may lead to a loss of autonomy and emotional identity.
🤔 Or perhaps you’re feeling disengaged, with rigid boundaries and not enough emotional closeness? That too can create distance and leave us feeling isolated.
💖 Let’s aim for interdependence, where we support one another while still honoring our own emotional spaces! Here are some tips to foster this balance:
1. Communicate Openly: Share your feelings and needs.
2. Set Healthy Boundaries: Know your limits and respect others’.
3. Practice Self-Care: Nurture your emotional health without guilt.
4. Check-in Regularly: Understand what each other is going through.
Let’s promote healthier relationships together! How do you find your sweet spot? Share your thoughts below! 👇💬

09/30/2025

Capacity 101 💡