TAnntra

10/22/2025

10/16/2025

A year deeper 🎉 again I’m celebrating the pleasure of watching clouds part in conversation!

What work as a facilitator of conflict resolution looks like right now:
🧡 prepping to teach a Fall 2025 cohort of Authentic Consent™ Facilitators,
🧡 getting the word out about workshops like Breathing into Consent: Practicing the Sacred Pause,
🧡 holding space at monthly TAnntra Talks like Negotiating Pleasure and Back to Boundaries,
🧡 and scheduling Mediation Preparation coaching and Ta**ra-Informed Mediation™ sessions.

Curious? The information session on Sunday, October 19th is a great time for us to chat!

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10/08/2025

Do you believe in choice?
Do you recognize choice?
Do you claim choice as yours?
Conditions where authentic choice is possible are created at a social level beyond an individual, though not just there alone. The present is a co-creation.
Y’all need me to believe in, recognize and claim choice. I need y’all to call in choice just the same.
For wellbeing in all ways we exist 👏🏾

09/24/2025

What is your conflict style?
What is your relationship with giving?
What is your relationship with receiving?

Does your perspective on conflict styles correlate with your perspective on receiving and giving?

Could whether conflict styles feel fixed or mutable correlate with whether the give-receive dynamic feels fixed or mutable?

Martin et al.’s The Art of Receiving and Giving informing Thomas-Kilmann’s conflict model 🧡

09/10/2025

The amazing participants, Yael R. Rosenstock Gonzalez and I didn’t have time to explore everything that came up during our workshop at this year’s S*x Down South Conference and one question I received took me back to the first Authentic Consent™ certification course Amina Peterson held in 2023.

How do I ask why they said no?

Wanting to ask why is a powerful desire, and we do not have to act on every desire. Our desires have a right to exist in us, and having right relationship with someone else may not afford them space outside of Self.

Wanting to know why no was said may be rooted in a desire to control, a desire to defend, or another desire that signals internal work for us. Strengthening our connection with who said no and cultivating relationships where no can be expressed requires us to distinguish between control/defensiveness/etc. and curiosity. Breath and sensation are a couple ways the body communicates; take a sacred pause to notice what the body has to offer regarding your desire to ask why no was said.

There’s so much more to “How do I ask why they said no?” for us to get into! Enrollment for the Fall 2025 cohort of the Authentic Consent™ certification course with Erospirituality Centre is open, Authentic Consent™ coaching is available, and joining TAnntra’s mailing list gives access to TAnntra Talks like August’s Feeling Curiosity 🧡

09/04/2025

Every day we practice energy work.
Consciously and unconsciously.
With agency as a possibility.
Consciously exercising agency over our energy can look like:
• directing our attention
• setting boundaries
• resting

Our relationship with consent impacts our relationship with our energy because our relationship with consent informs our relationship with our agency.

The Authentic Consent™ course is returning for Fall 2025 🧡

08/28/2025

A couple years ago I was in a Buddha-esque learning mode 😌 I’ll be one of the EroSomatic Touch® practitioners serving in the Bodyworker Lab at the final Ta**ra Fest this weekend!

The Bodyworker Lab sessions are fully booked, yet come what may because access to Ta**ra Fest is still available 😏

DM for details

08/23/2025

07/24/2025

Queering is a skill, and practice develops skills. Every breath is an opportunity to practice because each breath is space to choose. Practicing q***ring can be choosing a question over an assumption.

Join Zey and I as we seductively sink into q***ring plea sure on Instagram Live!

***r ***rlife

07/16/2025

aftercare: I invite those who attended “Authentic Consent: An Intimate Weekend of Play, Exploration and Clarity in Connection” to embrace practice night as the new game night! Let’s intentionally gather with our folx to deepen into how yes, no, and maybe feel in our bodies, to call out what comes up in the way of an ask, and to nurture all the other awakenings that occurred in that sacred space. I hope to accompany y’all again 🧡

Those shifts listed above are available to us all; if you’re reading this, then you have access to an Authentic Consent™ Facilitator and the teachings from this past weekend 🙋🏾‍♀️

We are what we practice - and we are all practicing so much, consciously or not.

It matters who we practice with - may we cultivate safe containers using our own standards.



I supported and was supported by, witnessed and was witnessed by, and am immensely grateful for my fellow Authentic Consent™ teachers www.goddessbrooklynbanks.com and www.trendaloftin.com and the creatrix of Authentic Consent™ Amina Peterson

07/02/2025

We’re under a first quarter moon 🌓 at the midpoint of the year ✨

If we pause,
if we tune in,
if we reassess,
then what might we notice?

What is possible? What choices exist?

I’m playing with my concept of balance, considering what balance has looked like plus imagining what balance can be and how. Today’s energy is directing me to noontime stillness and moonlit reflection.
What’s alive for you?

06/11/2025

May we release what we outgrow so that what we are growing into has proper attention and space. Admitting that a value is shifting out of focus may be difficult, especially if that shift is equated with inauthenticity, lack of commitment, low self-awareness or loss of identity. TAnntra offers support spaces where we sit with other perspectives on letting go as we evolve.
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