Carly Sackellares

09/06/2022

There are still spots left for my next Mindful Online Dating Workshop starting September 14th!

I am honored to use Dee Wagner, John Cargile, and Kathy Jernigan's workbook Naked Online: A DoZen Ways to Grow from Internet Dating as both the inspiration and resource for my workshop. In line with the book's title, the workshop helps participants use online dating as an opportunity for self-development and to improve their relationship skills.

Online dating has become a convenient and successful way to reach romantic matches. However, it can also bring up a whole lot of difficult feelings: swipe-anxiety, app avoidance, burnout, and more.

Naked Online: The Dating Book helped me through my online dating journey, and it has been rewarding to use my experience to help other daters discover or rediscover the fun and playfulness of online dating. It's dating; why not have fun with it?

If this sounds interesting to you or if you know anyone who may benefit from joining my next group, please don't hesitate to reach out to me at carly@carlysackellares.com or (678) 242-9519.

04/22/2022

Struggling with online dating? Looking to improve your relationship skills?

Why not use your dating experiences as an opportunity for improving your relationship skills instead of waiting until you find yourself in a bad relationship?

My next Mindful Online Dating Workshop starts May 12th! Enjoy a space to practice your relationship skills with fellow online daters who get it. By the time a relationship comes along, you will be equipped with the tools for a strong and healthy romantic dance.

Curious about what to expect from the workshop? My blog post has the answers: https://www.carlysackellares.com/post/what-can-you-expect-from-the-mindful-online-dating-workshop

Registration is now open at lustierlife.com/events. Questions? I can be reached at carly@carlysackellares.com or (678) 242-9519.

04/22/2022

A recent NYTimes article, Straight People Need Better Rules for S*x by Christine Emba, boldly recognizes that while straight relationships have come a long way regarding s*xual stigmas, rigid gender roles, and the lack of consent, there's much we have missed in providing a safe s*xual space for daters.

With many heteros*xual daters feeling unsafe in their s*xual relationships, this begs the question, is consent enough to protect us from unwanted s*xual encounters?

Read about the Chi for Two®'s solution in my new blog.

By Carly Sackellares, MSW It's no secret that navigating s*x while dating is hard and perhaps more challenging than ever before. A recent NYTimes article, Straight People Need Better Rules for S*x by Christine Emba, boldly recognizes that while straight relationships have come a long way regarding s...

03/17/2022

My next Mindful Online Dating Workshop is underway! My new blog answers the burning question: what can you expect from the Mindful Online Dating Workshop?

Taking the leap into online dating is a big step. Joining a workshop about online dating is also a big step. If you're pondering the idea, satisfy your curiosity by reading my Q&A.

More questions? I can be reached at carly@carlysackellares.com or (678) 242-9519.

By Carly Sackellares, MSW 1. You will learn to utilize Naked Online and Lustier Life Skills material to encourage self-discovery, develop a stronger sense of your functional adult self, and improve your relationship skills. Why wait until you are in a bad relationship to do some couples therapy? Dat...

03/07/2022

Looking to improve how you engage in romantic dances? Why not go ahead and use your dating experiences as an opportunity for improving your relationship skills?

My Mindful Online Dating Workshop gives participants the space to practice their relationship skills through online dating. By the time a relationship comes along, you will be equipped with the skills for a strong and healthy romantic dance.

Details:

* 12-weeks

* Starts: March 16th

* Cost: $275 (~$23/week)

* Bring a friend to enjoy the experience with, and you'll both enjoy a special discount!

* Weekly virtual meetings on Wednesdays 6:15-7:45 pm EDT/EST

* Referrals welcome for those in all stages of the online dating process

* More info and registration at lustierlife.com/events

03/03/2022

My new blog is inspired by this quote from Dee Wagner:
"Chi for Two® partner practices help us sense the important difference between privacy and secrecy."

In romantic relationships, distinguishing between privacy and secrecy can be especially frustrating. Read more to find out how Chi for Two can help.

By Carly Sackellares, MSW Imagine this: you've just begun a new relationship, and it's like a fairytale. Your partner is kind and understanding—they feel safe. Then somehow, it seems the safer you feel, the more annoyed you feel. Your inner-child may be saying, "Finally! I can do anything, I can u...

12/14/2021

The holidays are quite the season—a time for recharging, reflecting, and reconnecting. The buzz of it all can be invigorating but also challenging. Dating during this time adds complexity to an already busy season.

My new blog helps to answer the questions that may be swirling inside your head!

The holidays are quite the season—a time for recharging, reflecting, and reconnecting. The buzz of it all can be invigorating but also challenging. Dating during this time adds complexity to an already busy season. If you've recently started seeing someone, you may be wondering, “How do I naviga...

10/27/2021

If you’ve dipped your toes into online dating, even for a brief moment, you know that the process is anything but easy. When I found Naked Online, everything changed. I finally had a resource that not only validated my experience but also provided a guide for how to make it less terrible and more fun.

I am now passionate about spreading the word and helping others to navigate the complex world of online dating successfully. If you’ve found yourself immersed in the darkness of the process, my new blog offers some tips to see the light again.

By Carly Sackellares, MSW If you’ve dipped your toes into online dating, even for a brief moment, you know that the process is anything but easy. While most of us experience the lows, we may be hesitant to discuss them socially. I remember sensing the palpable tension that would fill a room when I...

10/12/2021

In Resmaa Menekam's Rock the Boat, he dedicates an entire chapter to how romantic dances often trigger our unfinished dances with our parent/caregivers. While Menekam provides the framework for self-confrontation, Chi for Two® provides tangible practices for self-confronting. In other words, Menekam tells us what to do, and Chi for Two tells us how to do it.

My new blog provides a taste of these practices.If you want to experience Chi for Two embodiment coaching, I offer a one-time 50 minute session for $55. I hope you will reach out to me at carly@carlysackellares.com or (678) 242-9519.

By Carly Sackellares, MSW In Resmaa Menekam's Rock the Boat, he dedicates an entire chapter to how romantic dances often trigger our unfinished dances with our parent/caregivers. He highlights modern couples' tendencies towards seeking a partner to meet their needs, and how this can be problematic.....

09/30/2021

My new blog discusses how mindful movement can help with online dating.

The constant connection and disconnection spurred by online dating can be an overwhelming and vulnerable experience. Some of us struggle more with connection, and some of us struggle more with disconnection. So how can we make it more likely that we can connect without merging and disconnect without feeling triggered? The answer lies within Chi for Two® practices.

By Carly Sackellares, MSW There’s one particular line in Naked Online: A DoZen Ways to Grow from Internet Dating that I feel fully encompasses the online dating experience. In Chapter 7: S*x Steering Towards Satisfaction, the authors write, “In a state of constancy, we can connect without feelin...

09/22/2021

My new blog is live!

What little things have you been missing during this pandemic? What's been your "drive home"? How can you revive what's sacred to you?

I'd love to hear in the comments.

By Carly Sackellares, MSW As a virtual therapist, I am conscious of how the platform affects my clients. I understand that therapy is a sacred place where people bare their souls. I am not remiss of the je ne sais quoi that sometimes feels missing from digital interactions. I actively aim to mitigat...

09/21/2021

Couldn't end the day without wishing everyone a Happy International Peace Day! Every year, this day is special to me because it falls one day before my birthday. It serves as a nice reminder to stop and reflect on the importance of unity and love as I prepare to enter another year of life. World peace begins with inner peace.

This year's theme is: Recovering better for an equitable and sustainable world.

"Celebrate peace by standing up against acts of hate online and offline, and by spreading compassion, kindness, and hope in the face of the pandemic, and as we recover." – The United Nations

More information can be found at un.org/peaceday.