02/12/2026
Some losses feel personal even when you never met the person.
Yesterday, the world lost James Van Der Beek. Six children lost their father. A wife lost her husband. And we lost a man who, in his final chapter, taught millions what truly matters.
I am a husband.
I am a father.
I am a follower of Christ.
And for more than 15 years, I have been ringing the alarm on early-onset .
That is why I founded the Colorectal Cancer Equity Foundation: to confront the inequities that cause people like James to be overlooked, dismissed, or diagnosed too late.
So this one hits differently.
March is Colorectal Cancer Awareness Month. It is also my birth month. My birthday falls just two days after James' birthday yet he shares the exact same date as my Aunt Joannâs. After multiple misdiagnoses at age 52, we lost her to colorectal cancer.
James was 48.
He shared on his birthday last year how cancer stripped away everything he used to define himself. He could not work the same. Could not lift his children the same. Could not show up the same.
And then he asked a question most of us spend our lives avoiding:
If I am none of the things I do, who am I?
His answer:
âI am worthy of Godâs love simply because I exist. And if Iâm worthy of Godâs love, shouldnât I also be worthy of my own?â
As a man who studies colorectal cancer.
As someone who has watched families bury fathers too soon.
As a dad who tucks his own child into bed at night.
That truth sits heavy.
Colorectal cancer is now the leading cancer killer for men and women under age 50.
Not heart disease.
Not accidents.
Colorectal Cancer.
A cancer that is often preventable, treatable, & beatable when caught early.
But prevention is arriving too late for too many.
We build our identities around what we produce, provide, and protect.
Then cancer comes and reminds us that our worth was never tied to output in the first place.
James left behind a message bigger than his acting career.
Call your parents.
Hug your kids.
Get screened.
Know your family history.
Advocate for yourself if something feels off.
As a husband, a father, a believer, and a colorectal cancer researcher, I will keep sounding the alarm.
Not for clicks.
Not for attention.
But so fewer families have to learn this lesson the hard way.
May we honor his life by choosing prevention, choosing presence, and choosing love while we still can.
Rest well.
đˇ c/o James Van Der Beek đđž đ