02/19/2020
Can’t you hear your mother yelling, “share your toys, stop being so selfish.” We were raised to be kind and generous. Always offer a hand when someone is in need, is what my parents taught me. These lessons helped create a solid foundation of service and generosity for most of us. However, as we aged, we sometimes misjudged when we gave more of ourselves than required. Maybe you found yourself in a relationship that was unhealthy, but you remained because the person needed you, perhaps more than you need them. Over the years, I have seen women embrace “girlfriends” who were too needy and clingy. They continued the relationship because the person only had you as a friend. You wanted to dissolve the bond, but you didn’t want to appear selfish, or just a bad friend. I get it, I have fallen into this trap as well. Eventually, I learned to discern if a new acquaintance was a person I could build a bond with. I learned to be selfish with my peace, selfish with my energy and selfish about the things and people who kept me positive. This selfishness is one of the reasons I get up almost every day, being selfish about my health. I know the enemy circles my heart and home, hoping that I would succumb to many of the diseases that are raging in our communities. Based on the path I was on 10 years ago; I should be extremely overweight and consuming pills for high blood pressure. I chose to cut the enemy off, no longer giving him access to my temple. We should strive to p**s the enemy off every day. What if we really became selfish about what’s ours? What if we ranted and raved like a toddler having a temper tantrum and screamed “No, It’s Mine.” Be selfish about your temple. Take joy in every victory, every battle and pray it resonates with your kids and those who are watching.
