Beyond Trauma and Attachment - BeTA

03/22/2023

Behaviour is communication.

And sometimes, behaviour is born from a bubbling up of emotions that eventually spills over, oftentimes resulting in a flood of angry words, lashing out, and tears. In these moments, we must resist our old programming - we cannot give in to the voice that tells us to “shut it down!” or hisses, “You can’t let her get away with this!”

Instead, these moments are asking for your loving compassion. These moments are asking for you to sit quietly until the tears have stopped flowing. These moments are asking for your patient ears, to hear all of the stories that lead up to this meltdown. These moments are asking for you to connect with your child, and to help them find their way back to a regulated state.

It isn’t always easy, and our own narratives can sometimes trip us up, but you can do this. You were made for this. ❤️

10/21/2022

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08/23/2022

Polyvagal Theory widens the perspective on managing kids’ challenging behaviors.

08/20/2022

08/20/2022

Next time you are communicating with your kids, pay attention to when they "check out". Then apply the K.I.S.S. principle. Say it in as few words as possible. Pause. Wait for a response. You won't overwhelm them and it'll save you energy and possibly avoid a meltdown.

For more, check out my FASD Quick Tip #7 https://www.facebook.com/FASDSuccess/videos/743965356350802/

08/20/2022

If your loved one with FASD has trouble with abstract concepts (think money, time, social cues, emotions, idioms, rules, ownership ), keep instructions and conversations concrete and hands-on as much as possible.

08/07/2022

Neurodevelopmental trauma... It's fascinating. This is a great graphic explaining why 'behavioural' techniques just won't work.

We will be exploring this in lots more detail and answering all your questions in our webinar on this very topic next week.

You're welcome to join us, book here:https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/352854676837

Remember if cost is an issue, just email our events team who will be able to help with a subsidy - events@sunshine-support.org.uk

08/05/2022

Sometimes our values and the way we were raised prevent us from taking a deeper look. Not always easy, but connection over correction helps kids with FASD meet with more success for them and calm for us.

08/04/2022

If you've met one person with FASD, you've met one person with FASD. We need to include and consider their voices and experiences. Thank you Patrick for sharing yours.

07/02/2022

You are so much stronger than you think you are.