15/10/2021
TW/CW: mention of infant loss, miscarriage, and stillbirth⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
October is Infant Loss Awareness Month, and October 15th is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Day—so I wanted to dedicate this week’s affirmation to the 1 in 4. One in 4 pregnant people will experience a pregnancy-related loss of some kind: during pregnancy, delivery, or infancy. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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It was not your fault. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Your baby was loved. Your baby was wanted. Doesn’t matter how far along you were or weren’t. Not being able to hold your baby doesn’t make you any less than a parent. Having other children before, or even after, doesn’t lessen your pain. Your feelings, your sadness, your grief are all valid. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Nothing you did made you “deserving” of what happened. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Feel. Grieve. Cry. Scream. Do whatever you have to do. But continue to remind yourself that you are not to blame for any loss you have experienced. A piece of you may have been lost—but you are still whole. Be kind and gentle to yourself today, and all days. 💕⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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