02/03/2026
Every miserable woman in my life told me to âjust wait.â
Just wait until youâre 25.
Just wait until youâre a mom.
Just wait until youâre 30.
Just wait until youâre 40.
Just wait until perimenopause.
Just wait until life humbles you.
It was never adviceâŠIt was prophecy.
And it was always delivered by women who had already foldedđŁ
What they meant was:
Just wait until you shrink.
Just wait until your body betrays you.
Just wait until your ambition exhausts you.
Just wait until your light dims.
They said it like a curse disguised as wisdom.
Hereâs what they DIDNâT know
I went through menopause in my twenties.
I lost organs before most women lose collagen.
I had a total hysterectomy in my thirties.
I almost died in a house fire (lost everything).
I almost filed bankruptcy after getting 400k in dept and having tax leins
I buried versions of myself that NEVER got funerals.
I built businesses from fu*king ash.
I raised children without a blueprint for safety.
I cut off parents and family to save the little girl that lives inside me
I wanted to end things and not be here anymore
Life didnât wait to test me.
It came early.
It came hard.
It came without permission.
And đI đdidnât đdisappear.
Thatâs the part that bothers people.
Because some women, when life expands, assume the identity of decline.
They surrender their edge and call it maturity.
They dim their hunger and call it peace.
They gain weight and call it hormones or perimenopause.
They shrink their dreams and call it wisdom.
And then they look at you and say, âJust wait.â
What they really mean is:
I did.
Iâm 40 now.
My body is tightening and Heather than in my 20âs.
My mind is clearer.
My standards are sharper.
My family is intact.
My ambition is disciplined, not frantic.
Life did not chew me upâŠ.it had me in the fetal position many times. It refined me.
I am not the cautionary taleâŠ.I am the exception.
And if that triggers you, itâs probably because somewhere along the way, you decided to shrink.
I didnât and my clients donât either.
In the meantime while you throw shade, make excuses and blame circumstance
We will keep winning.