Kerry McAvoy, PhD

Kerry McAvoy, PhD Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Advocate

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This content is for educational purposes only and is not therapy or medical advice

04/20/2026

Can two people from the same family experience the same trauma and see it completely differently?

When an adult child asks for an apology from the parent who was also a victim, it can feel like a second heartbreak.

Let’s talk about "multiple truths" and how we move forward when our children see our past through a different lens.

You don’t have to burn yourself to shineEver felt the pressure to give everything for others? Remember, your well-being ...
04/16/2026

You don’t have to burn yourself to shine

Ever felt the pressure to give everything for others? Remember, your well-being matters too. You are not required to set yourself on fire to keep other people warm. Prioritizing your mental and emotional health is not selfish; it’s essential. 🔥✨ Let's embrace balance and support each other without sacrificing ourselves.

04/14/2026

Are you starting to wonder if the person who always seems to be suffering is actually the one causing your suffering?

That confusion is by design. Covert narcissists don't demand your admiration — they demand your pity. And if you're empathetic, patient, and self-reflective, you were never just chosen — you were targeted.

IN THIS LIVE STREAM:
Learn:
1. Why the covert narcissist is so much harder to spot
2. How "entitled vulnerability" hooks your empathy
3. Why their suffering isn't a cry for help
4. How to stop their toxic dynamic cycle

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IF YOU ARE A RISK of immediate danger or abuse, please get in touch with the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233.

DISCLAIMER: All content and information on this website is for informational and educational purposes only and does not constitute mental health advice. Although I strive to provide accurate general information, the information presented here is not a substitute for professional advice, and you should not rely solely on this information. Always consult a professional in the area for your particular needs and circumstances before making any professional, legal, medical, financial, or tax-related decisions.
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Feeling stuck in a toxic or troubled relationship?

Take my FREE “Toxic or Troubled?” survey to discover your relationship type and get instant access to a complete, private mini-course—educational overviews, reflective questions, grounding techniques, and new strategies tailored to your situation.

▶ Start here: https://kerrymcavoyphd.com/toxic-or-troubled-survey/

READY TO TAKE THE NEXT STEP?
• First Steps to Leaving online course – A step-by-step plan to safely and confidently leave a toxic partner: https://kerrymcavoyphd.com/course
• Toxic-Free Relationship Club – Weekly group coaching, monthly book reads, access to past webinars, and Dr. McAvoy’s full online course: https://kerrymcavoyphd.com/club/
• Group Programs– Healing Strong, Relationship Reset, and more: https://kerrymcavoyphd.com/

STAY CONNECTED & SUPPORTED
• Weekly “Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse” Substack newsletter – Insights, stories, and tools for your healing journey: https://breakingfreenarcabuse.substack.com/

FOLLOW DR. KERRY
- YouTube:
- Instagram:
- Facebook:
• Email: hello@kerrymcavoyphd.com
• Website: https://www.breakingfreenarcissisticabuse.com/

READ MY STORY
“LOVE YOU MORE: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, S*x Addiction, & Double Cross”
Available now: https://amzn.to/3NVMBXO

ABOUT DR. KERRY McAVOY
Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D., is a psychologist, author, and expert on cultivating healthy relationships, deconstructing narcissism, and understanding complex trauma. A survivor herself, her memoir “Love You More” offers an uncensored glimpse into the dynamics of narcissistic abuse.

04/13/2026

Most people think narcissism is "loud."

But there is a version that is much quieter—and much more dangerous.

The Covert Narcissist.

They don’t use volume; they use fog.

Stop trying to navigate the fog without a map.

I’ve created The Covert-Narcissist Speak-to-Plain-English Dictionary to help you decode the manipulation in real-time. It translates their "weaponized sensitivity" into the cold, hard truth of what they’re actually doing.

Comment DICTIONARY below and I’ll DM you the free guide + the link to my latest deep dive on breaking the cycle. 👇

Are you missing this danger sign —a often overlooked red flag —of narcissism?Humble bragging or self effacement is a for...
04/13/2026

Are you missing this danger sign —a often overlooked red flag —of narcissism?

Humble bragging or self effacement is a form of grandosity. It’s an excessive show of arrogance that inflates themselves by pointing out their superiority.

Stay far away from anyone doing this. You may have met a covert narcissist.

Between the trauma bond and the social isolation, we will often feel pulled to return to the narcissistic ex. Healing re...
04/12/2026

Between the trauma bond and the social isolation, we will often feel pulled to return to the narcissistic ex. Healing requires a strong support system. Don’t go it alone.

I have an unusual request: A hero from the 2018 lava flow needs a lifeline today.In 2018, when the Kīlauea eruption was ...
04/11/2026

I have an unusual request: A hero from the 2018 lava flow needs a lifeline today.

In 2018, when the Kīlauea eruption was devouring homes, my friend didn’t just run—she stepped up. She spent those chaotic first days on the phone, eventually raising over $100,000 in corporate donations to help her island community survive.
But the cost of that sacrifice was a chain of instability that has followed her for 8 years. Now, she’s the one facing a disaster.

The Situation:
She is $600 away from losing her housing in Colorado Springs.

*The Stakes: If she loses her home, she loses the internet required for her current remote job, and the stability she needs to start a promising new career opportunity she just landed.
*The Dog: She has a loyal dog and zero transportation. A shelter isn’t just a last resort—it’s a place that would force her to lose everything she has left.

How we can help:
We are looking for $600 to bridge the gap right now. This isn’t just about a bill; it’s about making sure a woman who gave everything to her community doesn’t slip through the cracks when she’s so close to a fresh start.

Please consider:

Donating (see the comment section on how).
Sharing this post. Your network might have the $5 or $10 that changes her life today.

Let’s show her that the “thoughts and prayers” she’s been receiving can turn into real, tangible action. Thank you for looking out for her.

04/11/2026

When you weren’t parented in the way you needed, you’re left with a "hole" that only you can fill. It’s a quiet, heavy cost that requires becoming your own best parent—while fighting the urge to stay bitter about what was lost.

Does this resonance with your journey? How are you handling the healing process today? 👇

04/10/2026

My new wig from Sarah at Locks of Confidence. I’m in love! ❤️

04/08/2026

Going into court against a narcissistic ex can feel like a battle for the truth, but these five deep psychological desires might actually be sabotaging your case.

Understanding these desires is the first step to staying focused on what the legal system can actually provide.

04/07/2026

Are you counting on the court to finally expose your narcissistic ex? Don’t count on it.

Narcissists are masterful at seeming calm, polished, and credible in the courtroom while most abuse survivors can barely keep it together.

IN THIS EPISODE:
Learn:
1. Why the court system makes your narcissistic ex look like the stable one
2. Why victims and courts are speaking two completely different languages
3. What’s dangerous about believing “the truth will set me free" and how to protect yourself instead
4. How to stop seeking justice and start building containment

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IF YOU ARE A RISK of immediate danger or abuse, please get in touch with the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233.

DISCLAIMER: All content and information on this website is for informational and educational purposes only and does not constitute mental health advice. Although I strive to provide accurate general information, the information presented here is not a substitute for professional advice, and you should not rely solely on this information. Always consult a professional in the area for your particular needs and circumstances before making any professional, legal, medical, financial, or tax-related decisions.
*****************************

Feeling stuck in a toxic or troubled relationship?

Take my FREE “Toxic or Troubled?” survey to discover your relationship type and get instant access to a complete, private mini-course—educational overviews, reflective questions, grounding techniques, and new strategies tailored to your situation.

� Start here: https://kerrymcavoyphd.com/toxic-or-troubled-survey/

READY TO TAKE THE NEXT STEP?
• First Steps to Leaving online course – A step-by-step plan to safely and confidently leave a toxic partner: https://kerrymcavoyphd.com/course
• Toxic-Free Relationship Club – Weekly group coaching, monthly book reads, access to past webinars, and Dr. McAvoy’s full online course: https://kerrymcavoyphd.com/club/
• Group Programs– Healing Strong, Relationship Reset, and more: https://kerrymcavoyphd.com/

STAY CONNECTED & SUPPORTED
• Weekly “Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse” Substack newsletter – Insights, stories, and tools for your healing journey: https://breakingfreenarcabuse.substack.com/

FOLLOW DR. KERRY
- YouTube:
- Instagram:
- Facebook:
• Email: hello@kerrymcavoyphd.com
• Website: https://www.breakingfreenarcissisticabuse.com/

READ MY STORY
“LOVE YOU MORE: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, S*x Addiction, & Double Cross”
Available now: https://amzn.to/3NVMBXO

ABOUT DR. KERRY McAVOY
Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D., is a psychologist, author, and expert on cultivating healthy relationships, deconstructing narcissism, and understanding complex trauma. A survivor herself, her memoir “Love You More” offers an uncensored glimpse into the dynamics of narcissistic abuse.

You can’t heal in the same place that hurt you.Let go of who broke you—your peace depends on it.
04/07/2026

You can’t heal in the same place that hurt you.
Let go of who broke you—your peace depends on it.

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