The Both/And Way

03/20/2026

Have alter: will travel.

So happy to be spending this blessed spring equinox on the shores of Delaware to gather women together in circles of healing and laughing and crying and resting.

I hope whatever seeds you’re planting Ostara bring you whatever you’re hoping for!

03/18/2026

“When I don’t know who I am, I serve you. When I know who I am, I am you!”

this blew my mind the first time I heard it. It’s on the Ram Dass documentary on Netflix called Going Home!

we truly are spiritual beings caught in this human body. It’s so hard to realize it. But if you ever had that moment, when you knew that everything in you was loved and everything and everyone else was loved and all is well. Even with all that that’s happening, it’s still perfect. How do we know it’s perfect? How do we know it’s just as it should be, because it is this way. You can’t argue the fact that what is happening is happening. If there’s something you can do to bring more love to it, do it. But if not, stop struggling. Or at least know there is a way to try to stop struggling.

I still struggle. Even though I know the answer to not struggle. Because, I am still in this human form.

Sending you so much love and peace.

03/17/2026

It cracks me up when I look at my body from a couple of years ago, where I was thinner and I think how great I looked back then.

And then I remember how I never was happy with my body ever! Not ever!

And certainly that has to do with my own internal system of comparing and self hatred I brought from childhood trauma

But I think it’s a bigger systemic problem as well.

I don’t think we’re called to be healthy, I think we’re called to be thin!

And bodies are all different. Being thin does not always mean you’re healthy.

And I’ve been able to keep a decent weight and eat pretty much how I wanted my whole life. Some of that is shifting now that I’m in my 60s, but I also don’t wanna live the last third of my life, restricting and dieting and trying to shape myself into something that’s just not natural for my own body.

i’d love to hear your thoughts. And I’m not an expert on talking about this so if I’ve offended you, I would love to hear your thoughts so I can learn and grow from it.
# Healthatanysize

03/13/2026

Check out my essay companion to my video from yesterday. I'd love to here your thoughts. The substack link is in the comments!

03/12/2026

I know you’re used to me talking about meditation and peace. But between the crazy men destroying the world and the men we have to contend with every day, I got a little enraged.

I also found it so interesting that the minute an older woman gave this dude a side eye, he totally stopped talking to her.
He knew. They know.
it’s not enough to not be creepy, you have got to have boundaries.

03/10/2026

Do you ever wonder what actually happens on Retreat?

It’s not a spa weekend. It’s not a lecture series

It’s this: flowers on the table, women sitting in a healing circle together, sound bowls, collage, laughter, tears, and the kind of illness you can’t find in your regular life.

We use IFS, Mindfulness, and Nature, to go inward gently, together. And somehow, in just a few days, something shifts.

The April Retreat has three spots left, sign up deadline is right around the corner.

Oh, did I mention, we have gentle yoga, yoga, Nidra, and sound healing?

If you’ve been curious, swipe through and let yourself imagine being here.

Link in bio to learn more. DM’s open if you have questions.

03/10/2026

Ever wonder when actually happens on a retreat?👇

It’s not a spot weekend. It’s not a lecture series.

It’s this, flowers on the table, women sitting on the floor together, sand, bowls, collage, laughter, tears, and the kind of illness you can’t find in your regular life.

We use IFS and mindfulness to go inward, gently together and somehow in just a few days something shifts.

The April Retreat has three spots left. Sign up deadline is almost here.

If you’ve been curious, swipe through and let yourself imagine being here.

Link in bio to learn more.DMs open for questions.

Oh, and they’re also is a spa day included. Indoor pool, cold plunge, sauna, steam room. Did I mention gentle, yoga, and yoga, Nidra and sound healing? What are you waiting for?

03/09/2026

Monday Musings! I'd love to hear your thoughts!
xoxoxo

On liminal seasons, guilty joy, and the time change nobody asked for

03/04/2026

Lately, every time I pick up my phone, my heart rate spikes. Like, just looking at it. The notifications, the social media scroll, the news — it's A LOT.

Anyone else? Just me? (It's definitely not just me.)

So here's what I'm doing about it: I'm going to the Shenandoah Valley for four days in April to put the phone down, breathe some mountain air, and actually hear myself think. And I'd love for you to come with me.

Here are the details...
When: April 16–19, 2026
Where: Shenandoah Valley, VA
Price: $1408 per person (shared room)

This is a small group wellness retreat for women - and yes, we will absolutely be exploring why we can't put the phone down (and a lot of other fascinating things about ourselves) through the lenses of Internal Family Systems (Parts Work), the Enneagram, and Mindfulness.

And don't forget all food made for you and all dishes washed and put away! No meal planning, no chores, just come home to you! We will practice gentle movement with Erin as well as her Yoga Nidra and sound healing. Ahhhhhhhh.Did I mention an indoor pool, spa, and hot tub!?!?

No fixing.
No performing.
Just a few days of actually getting to know yourself - the real you, not the one who doom scrolls at 10pm.

There are only 4 spots left in our shared triple rooms, which are genuinely lovely - spacious, set up with sound machines for real sleep, and we have mandatory quiet time after 10pm each evening so you can actually unwind.

Your ticket to come home to you right here: https://www.thebothandway.com/april-2026-retreat
If your nervous system just said "yes please" while your brain was still reading this, that's your answer.

02/27/2026

I do keep reminding myself for a lot of people the world has been on fire since the day they were born. Depending on what they were born into or the color of their skin or in some places, their gender.

That’s where the guilt about my own privilege will sometimes come in. But I’ve learned that that’s not helping anyone either. The question is what do I do with that privilege?

02/16/2026

Learning to live in a body that is allowed to change

02/16/2026

What would it take for you to step away for a few days and care for yourself?

To pause.

To breathe.

To listen to what is stirring inside you.

Yes, when we gather, we go inside.

Yes, there can be tears.
And also…
there is so much laughter.
There is connection.
There is the sweetness of being seen and known without having to perform.
There is an indoor pool we’ll visit together on Saturday, and a hot tub available to you all weekend long.
There are miles and miles of winding trails across more than 500 acres of land.
There is delicious food being prepared for you, breakfast, lunch, and dinner, so you can simply arrive and be cared for.
And this April retreat falls on a new moon weekend. The sky will be dark and the stars will be brilliant. It is the perfect time to plant something new inside yourself.
There are only four spots left.
If something in you is leaning in as you read this, I invite you to listen to that part.
You can read all the details and reserve your spot here:
https://www.thebothandway.com/april-2026

If you have questions or a tender part that feels unsure, you can always reach out at thebothandway@gmail.com - I’m happy to connect.
With warmth and hope that you give yourself the same care you offer others!