The Both/And Way

02/16/2026

Learning to live in a body that is allowed to change

02/16/2026

What would it take for you to step away for a few days and care for yourself?

To pause.

To breathe.

To listen to what is stirring inside you.

Yes, when we gather, we go inside.

Yes, there can be tears.
And also…
there is so much laughter.
There is connection.
There is the sweetness of being seen and known without having to perform.
There is an indoor pool we’ll visit together on Saturday, and a hot tub available to you all weekend long.
There are miles and miles of winding trails across more than 500 acres of land.
There is delicious food being prepared for you, breakfast, lunch, and dinner, so you can simply arrive and be cared for.
And this April retreat falls on a new moon weekend. The sky will be dark and the stars will be brilliant. It is the perfect time to plant something new inside yourself.
There are only four spots left.
If something in you is leaning in as you read this, I invite you to listen to that part.
You can read all the details and reserve your spot here:
https://www.thebothandway.com/april-2026

If you have questions or a tender part that feels unsure, you can always reach out at thebothandway@gmail.com - I’m happy to connect.
With warmth and hope that you give yourself the same care you offer others!

02/15/2026

Ever wonder why you keep ending up in the same patterns - even when you swear you’ll do things differently?

It’s not a flaw. It’s your unconscious at work.

The Enneagram is a map of your inner world. It shows you the patterns driving your thoughts, behaviors, and relationships - so you can finally work WITH yourself instead of against yourself.

I’m hosting a live webinar:
✨ Discover Your Type, Transform Your Life
📅 March 4 + 11 | 7-9pm ET
💻 Online via Zoom

This isn’t another personality test. It’s a deep dive into the unconscious strategies that shape your life.

Includes:
→ Pre-webinar Enneagram assessment
→ Two interactive 2-hour sessions
→ Live Q&A & group exploration
→ Practical tools for real transformation

Whether you’re new to the Enneagram or ready to go deeper - this is for anyone tired of surface-level self-help and ready for real change.

More info here: https://thebothandway.thrivecart.com/enneagram-webinar/

02/14/2026

I hope you’re being gentle with yourself!

It’s funny, I use the word “healed“ in this video. I rarely redo my videos, but as I was posting it, I was thinking that I will always be “healing“

Are you healed or healing?!

02/13/2026

Healing does not mean we don't get triggered.

It does mean I take responsibility for taking care of myself when triggered.

Healing is not avoiding triggers, it's admitting to them and doing what we need to take care of ourselves without hurting others through acting out!

Why being activated does not erase the healing that has come before

02/13/2026

I see you.

I am you.

I want to believe that what happened to me, doesn’t affect me anymore. I want to believe that because I have it all together, I can’t feel the old wounds being poked. I’m so grateful I have tools to hold onto my heart.

So, I see you.

I am you.

share this with someone who needs to be seen🩷

02/12/2026

If you have a part that is tired . . .

A part that holds everything together . . .

Their part that belongs to be known beyond what you do for everyone else. . .

Come.

in April, we gather for a Both/And Way retreat — a weekend of IFS, mindfulness, movement, Enneagram, wisdom, and wide open space in the Shenandoah Valley.

we don’t push growth here.
We allow it.

Your parts are welcome. All of them.

Details in bio.

02/01/2026

Imbolc is the halfway point between the winter solstice and the spring equinox. It reminds us that although we’re still in the grips of winter, the sun is returning in a significant way. And under the ice and the snow and the dirt, there is a quickening happening. There is much work going on underground, even though we won’t see the fruits of the labor for a few more weeks or months.

What is happening inside you right now? Can you notice the seeds that you planted this winter internally that might be beginning to take root.

I recently spent a week with a dear friend on the front lines in Minneapolis. The story she told in the trauma she’s witnessed was incredibly heavy. I needed. Imbolc to remind me that the wheel will keep turning, and there will be brighter days ahead. I have faith. And if you don’t, I’ll lend you some of mine for a bit.

What is happening to you deep inside? I’d love to hear.

01/28/2026

We did it! THANK YOU!!!

Angela
Josie
Rachael
Julie
Lisa
Meg
Gretchen
Silvana
Gina
Bobbie Jo
Kerry
Meghan
Cathy
Terri
Jean
Stefani
Rob
Sarah
Becca
Kelly
Kerry
Kathy
Margaret
Rob
Marbea
Steve
Stacy
Arty
Mads
Peg
Denise
Cynthia
Nikki
Angel
Lisa
Amanda
Mary Beth
Jodi
Anne
Kathi
Cathy
Amy
Kristy
Michelle
Lisa
Cait
Kathy
Karen
Karen
Jade
Linda
Erin
Julie
Mary Ellen
Beth
Steve
Christie
Laura
Starling
Gail

Whether you gave $10.00 or $500.00 - or even if you reached out and encouraged, or if you said to me once or 100 times that I should write a book, YOU are responsible for this book becoming a draft, a manuscript, and sometime this year - - - -a bound BOOK!

01/28/2026

Thanks so much to those of you who have texted, called, donated, hugged, or simply asked "How's the book going!?! It all makes such a difference in a project like this. I am really overwhelmed with gratitude!

Thank you to the most recent Kickstarter backers: Kerry, Bobbie Jo, Gina, Silvana Gretchen, Meg, Lisa, and Julie!

01/26/2026

Monday Musings!

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01/25/2026

I’m trying to practice what I preach! That everything is Both/And. There’s always suffering in the world, and there is always beauty in the world. The suffering got the better of me so I had my head down for a bit.

But I’ve been remiss in thanking people who have backed this important project. You all deserve a big shout out! I believe this book will lead to more love and healing in the world and you won’t believe that too so I’m so excited to thank you all publicly or as publicly as I can get. Everyone who’s given gets a shout out here. So here we go. Thank you you: Gail, Starling, Laura, Christie, Steve, Beth, Mary Ellen, Julie, Erin, Linda, Jade, Karen, Cathy, Karen, Cait, Lisa, Michelle, Kristy, Amy, Cathy, Kathi, Anne, Jody, Mary Beth, Amanda, Lisa, Angel,Nikki, Cindy, Denise, Peg, Mads, Arty, Stacy, Steve, Marbea, Rob, Margaret, Kathy, Kerry, Kelly, Becca, Sarah, Rob, Stefani, Jean, Terri, Cathy, Meghan! Wow!