The Both/And Way

12/12/2025

Don’t let January get you down this year. Or let it get you down, but come and join a healing circle of women to help you release with no longer serves you. We will use a Parts Work lens to explore the parts of us that often can’t give us a break. We will also share meals together and participate in a Soul Collage activity. Spaces are limited. Link in bio.

12/12/2025

Link for Info in the comments!!

12/11/2025

It’s so hard to hit the pause button in the world that demands that we keep going faster and faster and faster. But with a little pausing, we can often see that by going faster and faster, we are not bringing joy to ourselves, and we’re not bringing joy to those that we really care about. And I get it, I have people in my life who love going over the top decorating and wrapping and giving, and so they should keep doing that. But for those of us who just feel the obligation of the season, just stop and know that you’re worthy whether your lights are all working or the cards get out on time or the presents get wrapped. Half the time the kids stopped leaving in Santa Claus way before the parents even realize it and they’re still working extra to keep the magic alive. Ask, who is the magic really for? And if you slow down, don’t you think everyone who loves you will appreciate you a little more with you being a little less stressed?

12/10/2025

Check out some exciting news!!!

I got THE email!!!...

12/08/2025

Therapist friends: I’m opening another round of my five week intro to Parts Work/Ifs course, and honestly, I’m more excited than usual about it I just came off serving as a program assistant at an Ifs training, and being immersed in this work reminded me why I love it so much, the spaciousness, the compassion, the way Parts softened when truly seen. If you are wanting to learn the framework, the language, and the real world tools you can bring into session right away, this class is for you. Wednesdays, online, from 7 to 9 PM ET. Registration link is in my bio.

12/08/2025

After recently being on staff for an IFS training, I’m feeling more inspired to host a 5-week Parts Work class for therapists who want to learn the model and use it right away. Join me on-line beginning January 14th!

In this course you will learn the basic principles of Parts Work, understand the concepts, and be ready to use these principles with clients to create more healing.

12/01/2025

Just a little reminder for you. Whoever you are. Chances are if you don’t get everything on your list done no one‘s going to die. People will still love you just as much. And don’t get me wrong, for some folks, they love everything being in its place, Everything tied up with a meat bow. That’s cool! But if you find yourself getting resentful or frustrated, PAUSE! Nobody wants that around. Haven’t you had people in your life who gets so angry and resentful about all they’re doing when no one ever ask them to do all the things? Pausing before exhausting ourselves is the healthiest thing we can do, not only for ourselves, but for those we love. The better emotional shape we are in, the better the holidays will be for everyone. 🩷🎁🌲

11/24/2025

Check out this Substack from Enneagram with Abbey where I get a very cool mention! Thanks Enneagram with Abbey!
BTW - I am a SEVEN!!!

What to give each type in your life (that won’t end up at the thrift store) based on their gifting philosophy!

11/24/2025

Check out my latest musings!! xoxoxo

Call me crazy, but I love this time of year.

11/21/2025

There was a time in my life where I thought I may have had bipolar. Because sometimes I was so energetic, and I could go, go, go. I would be uber creative, and then one day I’d wake up and it would be gone. I’d be a little sluggish and not called to create or perform for anyone. But there was absolutely nothing wrong with me. These were just my cycles. We all have cycles. And we don’t judge nature for her cycles, nor do we judge the moon for its cycles. How can you be gentle with yourself and trust that you too, and everyone you know, has cycles. Lean in. Peace.

11/20/2025

thank you for highlighting me! Check out the link to Abby‘s sub stack in the link at my stories.

11/20/2025

I’ve been following Abbey for a long time. We sometimes watch her shorts from YouTube on our retreats. I’m so honored. She chose me to be on her gift list. Check out the full sub stack here. is Ah-amazing! Check out her dubadtack here: https://open.substack.com/pub/talkenneagram/p/the-enneagram-gift-guide-for-people?r=2yvs1e&utm_medium=ios