01/30/2026
If setting boundaries makes you feel panicked, guilty, or rude, this one’s for you!
You’re likely carrying an older version of love that said you need to be easy, helpful, and avoid rocking the boat.
So when you try to show up with a limit, like a simple “Not right now,” your body fights back.
Boundaries don’t feel safe for you, especially if you were always the stable one in the family, praised for not needing much, or punished for speaking up.
Now, you’re high-functioning and respected, but still afraid of being “too much” or “not enough” if you take up space.
You can’t logic your way out of this. Instead, you need to unlearn these beliefs through practice, support, and experiences of love that don’t require you to overextend yourself.
What would it feel like to stop trying to prove yourself?
Let me know in the comments.