12/17/2025
For survivors of domestic abuse, you are very deserving of being happy
For so many survivors of complex trauma, the permission to feel happiness, joy, or even momentary comfort was not only denied to them by important figures in their lives, but made out to be too tall a request at all. Many were given the message that they, as a person, were not only worthless or put here just to suffer, but that if they weren't hurting or paying for their supposed list of wrongs, they were actually selfish or entitled. Understandably, the shame created by those lies can spark painful cycles of self-deprivation, isolation, extreme negative self-talk, and other acts of self-destruction. ...while the old tapes of messages drilled into them when they were young just replay.
To them we say: Those messages do not belong to you.
They never did. They are lies from abusers told to keep you small, keep you broken down, reduce your strength, avert your eyes, and keep you from seeing them for who THEY really are. So, today, let's start talking over those tapes. Drowning them out. Refusing to give them power anymore.
Let's take a moment and try on a healthier sound, one of strength that every child deserved to hear. That YOU deserved to hear. Let's do it together.
I am allowed to be happy.
I am allowed to feel free, untethered - not weighed down by my trauma.
I am allowed to laugh...to feel joy...to dance...to celebrate with those I love.
I deserve the same pleasures as everyone else.
I will not feel ashamed or guilty for having a good day...a good meal...a great relationship...an amazing accomplishment.
I will let myself feel content.
I will allow comfort.
I will not waste my days on the false belief that I deserve pain or should deprive myself of Life...of love...of levity...of living out loud.
I am allowed to be happy.
And my joy will burst brighter knowing I found it myself and I did it for Me.
Because it's what I deserve..and always did.
I am allowed to be happy.
Now, go out there and make up for lost time!
You have so much to experience and see! We are so, so excited to watch you reclaim those years of excitement, laughter, FUN, and peace once kept from you.
Happy adventure-ing in the world of happy!
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