01/27/2026
My (25f) 🐽 fiancé (23m) is 💫 gone for the weekend, and I’m enjoying myself too much?
My(25f) fiancé (23m) left a few days ago for a job. We both work in creative industries and tend to work on short term contracts, as well as bartending on the weekends to keep money consistent. We’ve been living together for almost 2 years. He’s left before to visit family, but this time, I was excited for him to leave. Usually I feel bad when he goes because I feel like I’ll miss him.
Last year he had a really stressful contract. During that time I picked up some extra household chores, and since then we’ve argued about them. I didn’t mind doing them throughout the project, but we already have difficulty dividing household chores. I take a long time to do them, and I can’t tell if it’s because I’m a perfectionist who cleans every inch of something once I start, or if it’s because I’m not getting as much help as I’m being told I am…
I feel like I’ve always been calling out for help. I ask for us to do it, and I get an attitude, a list of other things he has to do like work (when we work the same jobs) and a time limit. It’s not a set time limit, but his helpfulness has a battery and it gets low quickly. Even when he does a task, it’s also done slow AND it’s half-assed. I have to go in and tweak the work he does- we don’t have the same definition of clean. His is that every thing LOOKS clean- and mine is that every inch -even the ones we don’t see - should be done. We live in a historic building and I’m not risking bugs. Sorry. We made slight peace with it before he left… slight.
Then he actually left.
I danced in the living room. I sang in the kitchen. I finished a project- I cooked myself a friggin awesome dinner. I tidied up all of my spaces to enjoy. I went to work. I came home. It was still CLEAN and I danced and sang all over again. I woke up the next day and to make a long story short- lived my best life. I’m having a BLAST.
Then he called me to tell me how much he missed me… and I felt so weird. I’m not painting him in the best light...