10/27/2025
Coaching from the Couch: Boundaries Edition #4
Respecting the “No” — Even When You Think You’re the Exception
Let me tell you something about healing:
It comes with a very bossy sidekick called Doctor’s Orders.
And mine said, in bold, all caps, underlined and highlighted:
DO NOTHING.
Not “do less.” Not “take it easy.”
DO. NOTHING.
Naturally, I read that as:
“Do a little something. Just don’t tell your doctor.”
So I tried brushing my hair.
My shoulder said: “Ma’am, absolutely not.”
I tried opening the microwave.
My sternum said: “You wanna fight?”
I tried getting up from the recliner like a normal person.
My knee said: “Sit down before I call the authorities.”
Turns out, my body has better boundaries than I do.
It doesn’t negotiate. It doesn’t people-please.
It just says no — and means it.
And that got me thinking…
How often do we override our emotional “no” the same way?
How often do we push through, say yes, pretend we’re fine — when our soul is waving a red flag?
💭Here are a few Coaching Questions to Sit With (literally, if you’re on a couch):
• Where are you ignoring your own “no” — and what’s the cost?
• What would it look like to honor your limits without guilt or apology?
• Who needs to hear your “no” so your “yes” can mean something again?
• If your body could set a boundary for your life, what would it say?
If this hits home — and you’re ready to explore how boundaries can bring more peace, clarity, and connection into your life or relationship — Let’s talk. I’ll be here…on the couch 😃
