Communication Jon with Dr. Jon Dabach

Communication Jon with Dr. Jon Dabach Jon Dabach, PhD | Couples Counselor
Relationship Coach
3000+ marriages saved
Become the spouse you want to be

01/29/2026

Your Partner Is Right, But You’re Still Fighting

Your partner might have a valid point.
But if they’re delivering it with aggression, you shut down.
You stop hearing the message and start defending yourself.

That’s not communication.
That’s combat.

Real communication isn’t just about being right.
It’s about being heard and actually connecting.

When emotions run too hot, the message gets lost in the delivery.
Your partner needs to learn emotional regulation before they can expect you to receive their truth.

Anger without control becomes an attack.
Truth without compassion becomes a weapon.

If every conversation feels like a battle, you’re not solving problems, you’re creating wounds.

Both of you deserve to be heard without being hurt in the process.

Drop RISK for my free relationship assessment.



[relationship advice, emotional connection, communication in relationships, healthy communication, relationship healing, emotional regulation in relationships, compassionate communication, conflict resolution in marriage]


01/29/2026

I love watching dating shows as much as anyone else.
But sometimes I wonder if they could be doing more than just entertaining us.

What if they actually taught people how to regulate, repair, and build emotional safety instead of just throwing them into pressure and hoping for the best?

Do you think dating shows could be more helpful and meaningful, or are they exactly what they’re meant to be?

I’m genuinely curious what you think.

01/29/2026

If you’re struggling with regulating because of relationship issues, let me help reset you quickly. Catching your breath, being mindful, and remembering how much you contribute should be a daily practice.

01/26/2026

Do you even like each other?

The real difference between couples who make it and couples who don’t?

It’s not shared hobbies. It’s not music taste. It’s not communication styles or perfect value alignment.

It’s one simple question. Are you actually friends?

Friendship carries you through the hard seasons. When chemistry fades. When stress rises. When you disagree. When life pulls you in different directions.

You don’t need to match on every detail. You just need to genuinely like each other.

When you laugh together. When you feel safe. When you choose kindness on the hard days. That’s the glue that holds everything steady.

And here’s the good news. You can rebuild that friendship with tiny shifts.

Bring up an old inside joke. Share something silly. Do one small fun thing together on purpose. Even just for two minutes.

Tiny shared moments reconnect you way faster than grand gestures ever will.

Chemistry gets you started. But friendship is what keeps a marriage from collapsing under pressure.

So forget trying to be perfect. Just be someone your partner actually enjoys being around.

Drop “RISK” below and I’ll send you my free relationship risk assessment quiz.

[relationship advice, emotional connection, intimacy in marriage, marriage coach, communication in relationships, rekindling desire, relationship healing]


01/26/2026

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Recovering from relationship trauma is never easy, but doing it alone can feel almost impossible. I’ve been there, I’ve sat in the trenches and I know how hard it can be. I want to help.

01/25/2026

Give before you take...

Someone wants a cup of coffee. Make it for them.

Someone wants help with the yard work. Just do it.

Someone wants a hug. Give it without being asked twice.

Simple right?

But most couples get stuck keeping score. Waiting to see who gives first. Holding back until they feel like they’re getting enough.

That’s not how great relationships work.

The foundation of every strong marriage is a spirit of generosity.

Not “what am I getting out of this.”

But “what do I look forward to giving you.”

That’s the shift.

When both people show up looking to give instead of take? Everything changes. The scoreboard disappears. Resentment fades. Connection grows.

You stop calculating. You start contributing.

And the crazy part? When you give freely, you usually end up receiving more than you ever expected.

But it starts with you going first.

Not because they earned it. Because that’s who you want to be in this relationship.



Drop “RISK” below and I’ll send you my free relationship risk assessment quiz.

[relationship advice, emotional connection, intimacy in marriage, marriage coach, communication in relationships, rekindling desire, relationship healing]


01/25/2026

Your feelings are irrational...

A husband once told me he wasn’t going to validate every feeling his wife had.

Because some of them were irrational.

So I asked him. How would you feel if the person you loved looked you in the eye and called your feelings irrational?

He paused. Then said he’d feel pretty alone.

That’s the whole point.

Most couples don’t realize how fast invalidation makes someone feel alone.

You don’t have to agree with your partner’s feelings. You don’t have to fix them either.

You just have to hear them.

Behind “you don’t care” is usually “I feel lonely.”

Behind defensiveness is usually “I don’t feel appreciated.”

Validation isn’t about endorsing the story. It’s about acknowledging the human.

When your partner feels seen again? Their nervous system calms down. And that’s when real connection becomes possible.

You don’t win by being right. You win by making them feel less alone.

Drop “RISK” below and I’ll send you my free relationship risk assessment quiz.

[relationship advice, emotional connection, intimacy in marriage, marriage coach, communication in relationships, rekindling desire, relationship healing]


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