Misfit Mama Therapist

Misfit Mama Therapist I am a feral AF trauma therapist who helps hyper-independent women heal their sh*t through EMDR, Intensives, inner child, & parts work. Let's get untamed AF!

Sarcastic, compassionate AF, zero-fluff therapy—healing sucks less when you keep it real.

02/04/2026

Self care comes in many forms 😆🤘💖

01/29/2026

You’re not easygoing.
You’re not chill.
And you’re definitely not low maintenance.

Somewhere along the line, you learned that your wants, needs, opinions, and desires were a problem. So you got quieter. Smaller. More tolerable.

Not because it felt good.
Because it kept you from being rejected.

I did this too. I learned how to read the room, edit myself, and ask for less than I needed so I could stay connected.

That is not a personality trait.
That is a survival strategy.

And you do not have to keep paying for it with your body, your voice, or your self-respect.

If this hit a nerve, share it. Someone you love learned this same lesson and does not even know it yet.

01/28/2026

Walking on eggshells will convince you that everything is your fault if you let it.

Hyper-independent women are especially good at this. We feel discomfort and immediately assume, “This must be my trauma. I just need to heal that.”

Sometimes that is true.
And sometimes that belief keeps you tolerating behavior that is toxic AF.

Your nervous system learned to stay small and keep the peace because it once kept you safe. That does not mean every environment deserves that level of accommodation.

Here is the hard truth.
If you constantly feel cautious, edited, or braced for impact, your body is responding to something real.

Learning to tell the difference between an internal trigger and an unsafe dynamic matters.

This is nervous system work, not mindset hacks.

And if you are ready to rewire the patterns that keep you stuck in eggshell mode, EMDR intensives exist for a reason.

You are not too fu***ng sensitive.
You are paying attention.

👉 EMDR intensives are available. Link in bio.

01/27/2026

I believed this lie for years. I took time off, canceled plans, slept in, binged shows, and still felt fried, anxious, and one minor inconvenience away from losing my everlasting s**t.

Because rest doesn’t do s**t when your nervous system is still in survival mode.

For hyper-independent women, burnout is not laziness or bad self-care. It is a body that learned staying alert, useful, and in control was the safest option.

So when you slow down, your nervous system does not relax. It fu***ng panics.

What actually helps is not more willpower or better routines. It is teaching your body that safety exists now, that support is not dangerous, and that pausing will not make everything fall apart.

That is nervous system work, not mindset work.

If this hit a nerve, good. You’re my kinda feral AF peeps.

I break this kind of stuff down weekly inside my Feral AF Email Club. No fluff, no toxic positivity, just honest nervous system truths.

👉 Sign up for the Feral AF Email Club. Link in bio.

01/22/2026

I used to think I was asking for help.
I was not.

I was narrating my exhaustion like a damn podcast.
Listing everything on my plate.
Hinting. Venting. Hoping someone would magically step in and rescue me without me having to actually say the words. “” I need help””

And when they didn’t?
I got to say, “”See. I knew it. I cannot rely on anyone. I have to do everything myself.””

That kept me safe.
Safe from rejection.
Safe from disappointment.
Safe from the vulnerability of actually needing someone.

But it also kept me stuck like fu***ng chuck!
Because not asking is not independence, it is self-protection hiding behind strength.

Here is the shift that changed everything for me:
I realized I was not afraid of doing it alone.
I was afraid of asking and being told no.

Direct asks feel like you’re standing there naked with your clothes on when you learned early that needing people came with consequences.

If this hit, share it with the woman who keeps hoping someone will notice instead of letting herself ask.

01/15/2026

It be like that sometimes as a therapist!!🤘💖

01/14/2026

You didn’t choose this pace because you love chaos.
You chose it because stopping once meant everything fell apart.

So you learned to run on adrenaline.
On responsibility.
On being needed.
On being reliable.
On being the one who holds it together when everyone else gets to fall apart.

Slowing down feels dangerous because your nervous system learned that rest came with consequences. Not relief.

But here is the truth your survival brain does not want to hear.
This s**t is not strength.
Constant urgency is NOT purpose.
And obligation is not the same thing as meaning.

Your body is not asking you to quit your life.
It is asking you to stop surviving it.

This is exactly why EMDR intensives exist.
To help hyper-independent women teach their nervous systems that slowing down does not equal collapse, it equals safety.

You do not have to wait until your body forces the pause.

EMDR intensives are open.
Link in bio if your system is ready for something different.

01/08/2026

Let’s clear something up real quick.

Anger is NOT always the problem.
Uncontained anger is.

For a lot of hyper-independent women, anger is the first honest signal your nervous system has had permission to send in years. It shows up when your boundaries are ignored, when you are overextended, when you are expected to stay quiet, pleasant, and grateful while swallowing the disrespect of your own limits.

That does not make you reactive.
It makes you aware.

Anger can be regulated.
Anger can be protective.
Anger can be information.

What is actually dysregulating is forcing yourself to stay calm while your body is screaming, “This is not f*cking okay.”

You are not too much.
You are finally listening to your body.

👉 Comment if this hit somewhere uncomfortable but true.

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Hey Mama!

My name is Jessica Rae, but I go by Jess.

I’ve been a single mama since I was 19, life definitely threw us some curve balls.

I’m also a tell it like it is, Mental Wellness, mindset empowered kinda chick with a sailor’s mouth.