11/10/2025
The mind-body connection is real. There is a bio-chemical and neurological response to the thoughts we think and the words we choose that affects us on a physiological level. When I work with patients, as well as teaching workshops and doing bio-mechanical diagnostics with interpreters, I see an interesting manifestation of this connection. Almost always language - spoken or unspoken thought - correlates with symptoms being experienced. For example, when I hear someone use words like, "that is such a headache!" I can be fairly certain that individual has frequent headaches. The same principle applies for phrases like, "a pain in the neck" and "a pain in the butt." Shoulder pain often is associated with expressions such as "it is too much to bear (or carry, or take). Low back and knee pain typically is revealed by "I can't stand it."
Sometimes patients ask me which comes first - the pain or the language choice. I have noticed it is generally the language that comes first, and the subconscious mind interprets the thought and words as "instructions". In other words, if "pain in the butt" is said often enough, the body complies and produces it.
We also need to be careful not to enter into an adversarial relationship with our own body. When someone says, "this is my bad arm", I know they are in a struggle with their own body. I encourage them to consider self-compassion. We would never, for example, say about one of our children who was in pain and crying, "oh, that is my bad kid!” Actually, our body is always working on our behalf - sometimes trying desperately to cope with the less than ideal circumstances with which we have presented it (such as junk food, excess caffeine, lack of exercise, poor posture, lack of sleep, etc.). When our body is in pain it is crying out for help and letting us know something is wrong. Sometimes instead of responding with compassion, we lash out at our body with anger and frustration.
Honoring the mind-body connection is an important part of the healing process. Listening to our body to discern what it needs is important. It's also important to be mindful of the messages we send it with the words we choose.