10/07/2021
This is one reason why the Word tells spouses to submit to one another. This means no one is vying for control or feels like they have to manipulate situations to have the “one-up” on the other. When you wrestle for power, you take your eyes off the goal and become distracted and focused on overcoming the other person, and you end up being controlled by all types of things. Retaliation, unhealthy competition, manipulation, rejection, vengeance...etc
By submitting or yielding to one another, you remain accountable to one another, and there isn't a need to wrestle for control because there is a natural yielding that takes place when we know the other is making decisions and moving for the benefit of the marriage and not just to benefit themselves.