AllWell Therapy PLLC

AllWell Therapy PLLC Therapy that gets you | 💻 Online sessions for Chicago & IL adults | ✊🏾 BIPOC & 🌈 LGBTQ affirming | Support for stress, trauma, identity & relationships.

A lot of men beat themselves up for pulling away.They think something is wrong with them.That they're incapable of commi...
02/10/2026

A lot of men beat themselves up for pulling away.

They think something is wrong with them.
That they're incapable of commitment.
That they're emotionally unavailable by nature.

But pulling away is usually a nervous system response, not a lack of feeling.

It's what happens when closeness activates old stress instead of comfort.
When being needed feels overwhelming.
When vulnerability feels risky.

Avoidance isn't about not caring.
It's about self-protection.

And the need for protection usually comes from somewhere.

Trust issues don't come out of nowhere.They are usually shaped by our experiences. Not personality flaws.Understanding w...
02/10/2026

Trust issues don't come out of nowhere.

They are usually shaped by our experiences. Not personality flaws.

Understanding where our hesitation comes from can help us stop judging ourselves for it.

You're not broken for being careful.

Men talk about it.
In therapy.

Some men are labeled "closed off" when they are actually cautious.Trust can be hard when you've been dismissed, misunder...
02/09/2026

Some men are labeled "closed off" when they are actually cautious.

Trust can be hard when you've been dismissed, misunderstood, or expected to stay strong no matter what you were carrying.

Being guarded isn't a flaw.
It's often a learned way of staying safe.
The work isn't forcing openness. It's building safety slowly, at your pace.

You don't owe access to anyone who hasn't earned it.

Men talk about it.
In therapy.

Independence gets praised, especially for men.Handle it yourself.Don't rely on anyone.Don't need too much.But there's a ...
02/05/2026

Independence gets praised, especially for men.

Handle it yourself.
Don't rely on anyone.
Don't need too much.

But there's a difference between being self-sufficient and being emotionally isolated.

Self-sufficient says,
"I can take care of myself".

Emotional isolation says,
"I can't let anyone see what's going on inside".

A lot of men confuse the two because they were never shown what healthy emotional support looks like.

Needing connection doesn't mean you're weak.
It means you're human.

And learning that difference can change how relationships feel.

Many men wait until things are unbearable before they speak up.They tell themselves it's not serious enough yet.That oth...
02/05/2026

Many men wait until things are unbearable before they speak up.

They tell themselves it's not serious enough yet.
That others have it worse.

But talking earlier can prevent burnout, emotional shutdown, and isolation.
Support doesn't require a breaking point.

You are allowed to talk before it gets worse.

Men talk about it.
In therapy.

A lot of men expect the worst when they finally talk. They imagine losing control.Being judged.Feeling weak.But many dis...
02/04/2026

A lot of men expect the worst when they finally talk.

They imagine losing control.
Being judged.
Feeling weak.

But many discover that naming what they feel actually brings steadiness not chaos.

Relief is possible.

Men talk about it.
In therapy.

A lot of men are confused by their own patterns. They want closeness.They crave connection.They don't want to be alone.B...
02/03/2026

A lot of men are confused by their own patterns.

They want closeness.
They crave connection.
They don't want to be alone.

But when someone actually gets close, asks for more emotional presence, needs reassurance, or wants to talk about feelings something inside them pulls back.

Not because they're cold.
Not because they don't care.
But because closeness starts to feel like pressure instead of safety.

For many men, emotional distance was learned early.
It was how you stayed regulated.
How you avoided disappointment.
How you kept control when emotional needs felt overwhelming or unsafe.

Pulling away isn't a character flaw.
It's a strategy.

And strategies can be understood.

Most changes aren't dramatic. They are subtle, but real.Men often expect therapy or emotional expression to feel intense...
02/03/2026

Most changes aren't dramatic. They are subtle, but real.

Men often expect therapy or emotional expression to feel intense or overwhelming.

Instead, many notice small shifts that add up:
More calm.
More awareness.
More room to breathe.

Imagine what feeling even 10% lighter would change for you.

Men talk about it.
In therapy.

A lot of men avoid talking because they are afraid it will open something they can't control. They worry it will make th...
02/02/2026

A lot of men avoid talking because they are afraid it will open something they can't control.

They worry it will make things heavier.
More emotional.
Harder to manage.

But for many men, the opposite happens.
Putting words to what we are carrying can bring relief, clarity and a sense of control that silence never gave.

You don't have to carry it all by yourself.

Men talk about it.
In therapy.

Black History Month has made me pause a bit. To slow down and reflect. Not just to think about history in the bigger pic...
02/01/2026

Black History Month has made me pause a bit.
To slow down and reflect.

Not just to think about history in the bigger picture, but about the every day little things. Family stories, the music we grew up on, the things we carry without always naming it. So much of who we are comes from what our people survived, created and passed down.

Black history isn't just something that lives in books or speeches. It shows in how we show up. In our humor, our language, or resilience, our joy. In the way we keep going, even when it hasn't always been easy.

This month is about honoring where we come from and recognizing that the story is still being written. By all of us, every day.

This month I invite you to hold space for reflection, pride, and gratitude with me.

This is a f**k ICE zone. Period.The terror being inflicted on immigrant communities right now is cruel, dehumanizing, an...
01/30/2026

This is a f**k ICE zone. Period.

The terror being inflicted on immigrant communities right now is cruel, dehumanizing, and devastating. Families are being torn apart. People are being forced to live in fear simply for existing. That kind of harm will be a stain on American history forever.

I sat with whether to share my personal beliefs publicly as a business, and I came to this conclusion: silence can look like agreement. And that is something I refuse to offer.

I stand for equality, dignity, and justice for every person. Nobody is illegal on stolen land. The safety and humanity of Black and brown communities, immigrants and undocumented people is not negotiable.

Advocacy isn't optional when the communities you server are under attack. This is where I stand. This is where AllWell Therapy PLLC stands.

A lot of men say they feel "nothing".But numbness isn't the absence of emotion.It is often what happens when emotions ha...
01/29/2026

A lot of men say they feel "nothing".

But numbness isn't the absence of emotion.
It is often what happens when emotions have nowhere to go for too long.

Feeling disconnected doesn't mean something is wrong with you.
It usually means you have been carrying too much for too long.

Men talk about it.
In therapy.

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