Allen Counseling Associates

06/12/2020

The following article is a resource for thinking about grief. Consider following for similar resources as well as resources for those who may be dealing with pregnancy and infant loss.

If you are familiar with grief at all, chances are that you have heard of the five stages of grief — shock or denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. Unfortunately, these stages imply that the process of grief occurs in steps. A linear, progressive, series you can follow to “get th...

03/28/2019

So simple, but not always so easy to do. Focus on your feelings, not their faults. Read this article to learn how to not be critical of your partner.

08/21/2018

Watch the short cartoon about how whether or not you accept your partners “bids for affection” might make or break you.

In life's small, everyday moments, you have a choice: turn towards your partner and accept their bids to connect, or turn away and ignore their bids. Every time you choose to turn towards, you make a deposit in your Emotional Bank Account. 

05/16/2018

Check out this podcast that some of my clients have created in order to help others (and themselves) be more vulnerable to deepen connections.

I love how they liken having a therapist to having an attorney, a financial planner, etc. It’s part of building a team that helps you determine and reach long term goals. Everyone should have a therapist!

Download past episodes or subscribe to future episodes of The Unbalancing Act by Mike Banasiak for free.

02/16/2018

“Instead of thinking of it as ‘spending less time on your phone,’ think of it as ‘spending more time on your life.’”

Nine ways to have a healthier relationship with your phone.

02/01/2018

Couples, don’t leave home without one!

Dr. John Gottman has an interesting bit of advice for couples who have difficulty connecting. He says, "Don't leave home without a kiss that lasts six seconds."