SoftnBlack

03/05/2026

I use to be ashamed of my femininity. I used to be embarrassed of pink being my favorite color. Femininity was so "cliché" in my era as a teenager and a little as a young adult. "Why you always wearing heels, skirts, dresses" "Why you always tryna' dress up??!"

It was as if expressing MY femininity was somehow "trying too hard" or "doing too much". It meant I was "seeking attention". But I like my platform heels or wedges. I only wore sneakers to fit in. I didn't have the confidence or awareness to explain:

"This is me. I wear heals because I feel womanly and confident. My favorite color is pink because it's soft feminine but most importantly it compliments me. I loved Designing Women when I was young and I loved how the ladies were always dressed to the up everyday to work... so that's how I wanted to dress.. UP"

It's okay being misunderstood as long as you feel good with you and about you. That's where you tap into your feminine energy and that's how you're able to express YOUR femininity. It's no one size fits all. It's how you authentically express your softness, vulnerabilities, feminine energy.

03/04/2026

To live a soft life, you have to be soft. To be soft requires an embodiment of safety, security, authenticity, and flow.

It doesn't matter how femininely stylish you dress, how feminine you act, or how soft spoken you speak. If you don't embody it, it'snot you. Its a mask. That means it's on you, not in you and it's all performative and pretending.

When you feel safe with being your true self and expressing your true self... you'll be soft, live soft, and express it in a way where you exude your softness, your femininity.

03/02/2026

So grateful 🙏🏾. This time last year I was at 183 subscribers and held it there for a year or two. That means I went up 218 subscribers. I put in the work and the people supported. I'm so grateful to my supporters. I can't wait for the content that I'm starting to put out.

03/02/2026

Is it late to say as a woman I'm coming into who I am in my 40s? I feel more confident, sensual... womanly. What if we have it all wrong?

We believe as women we're supposed to have it figured out and have it together by the time we reach our 40's. But what if we have it all wrong?

What if we're supposed to be on a journey of arriving? Arriving into our divine feminine and maybe that arrival doesn't transpire until we're in our middle age.

What if it's not declining and coming to an end when you reach middle age? What if it's the beginning of a new journey, a new chapter to arriving into the woman that's been waiting on you to show up in all your sensuality, femininity, and womanly diviness?

03/01/2026

The truth doesn't chase a lie. A lie chases the truth to try to get ahead of it

02/26/2026

Happy Black Heritage Month before this month ends.
Remember that we still have stories to tell and we're still passing on traditions, beliefs, customs, and artifacts. Whether they want to recognize that we have a culture, we are the culture.

Remember who we are and why we are.

02/25/2026

Soft n Blk is NEVER about tearing or downing women. I might say things that can trigger you but that's understandable when you're introduce to change or a new way of feeling, seeing, and understanding. However, I'm never going to do it with malice and I'll intent. I'll take a beat and step away before I lead with that.

02/23/2026

Being intentional and mindful is going to better result in what you've been desiring or wanting in life.. even when it comes to dating.

02/21/2026

I'd just ask him why before jumping to conclusions. And if we're just dating and haven't established anything serious, I'd assume he's being hospitable and a good host.

As women we can't say men aren't good at communicating when we don't communicate for clarity. When we jump to conclusions because we're immediately triggered by something the first thing you should do is go to the man and ask about whatever is triggering you.

You might be surprised at his response. We can't assume we all think and move the same way. My husband grew up with the notion of not hugging the opposite s*x. I grew up like hugging was a welcoming gesture. Of course the way you hug makes all the difference but hugs nevertheless.

So imagine him going to social media saying "Idk about her she's quick to give other men hugs". When in reality if I know them as family or a friend, I'll greet them with a hug. Now if he asked I could explain that. And if that still makes him uncomfortable then we can then establish where we go from there.

So I’ve been talking to this man for about a month, and yesterday was my first time staying at his house 😅. We’ve been out all day. I go to take a shower, and he tells me to use the guest bathroom.
Why does this man have a whole lineup of women’s soap? Under the sink he has Pads,Tampons, Women’s lotion, Women’s deodorant, and XS, S, M, L extra panties stocked like its inventory. 😂😂😂😂
Now I know he didnt prepare this all for me so WTHH😂. It’s giving you have women coming here to stay ?
It’s giving Airbnb for females because who is this prepared for.. am I tripping or is this man hosting auditions every weekend? 👀 should I stop talking to him ? 😂

02/18/2026

You're using checklists as safety guards.. instead of just having boundaries to protect your heart.

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02/14/2026

Happy Valentine’s Day to my husband, photographer, and biggest supporter 💖

Love is the easy part. It's never difficult to love, it's the navigating in your relationship, holding space for yourself as well as someone else. But as long as you're with someone who's willing to steady the challenges.. you'll grow, learn, and live

📸: PD the Ceo/JIG Media Films

02/14/2026

Happy Valentine’s Day from me to all of you!

As a Black woman you can be soft, I don't care what the challenges or obstacles that are put in front of us. They want us to believe that the only way to show strength 💪🏾 and triumph is through aggressiveness. They want us to believe our softness comes with being validated by others. Or our love is transactional.

There's absolutely nothing wrong with desiring and being open to love. Love doesn't hurt, neither does the truth. So live in your truth and love with your life 😘🖤🖤

📸: PD/JIG Media/Films

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