The Essence of Healing and Trauma

12/07/2022

Those that bring out the best in us are so vital!
Who's next to you when you're feeling the best?

12/02/2022

Are your "boundaries" just a wall built by trauma or are they created and maintained for the perseverance of your mental, physical, and spiritual needs and desires?

11/30/2022

We all need help and support, and offering effective support is easy. Offer them a realistical choice in how you can help them. Then actually do it.

11/30/2022

There a lot to learn from making pancakes. First you have to get all your ingredients together, things like pancake mix, eggs, milk, cinnamon. The you mix them all together and have to work to find the right consistency. Then it takes the right amount of timing and understanding to get the temperature right so you don't burn them. But it never fails that those first few tries are not always the best. But as you get better, make more pancakes, the process becomes smoother. But even when the process is good, there's no such thing as a perfect pancake.
Just like in life, you build your foundation, with love, patience, hope, joy, faith. Then you have to find the right balance in order to make the best consistency. Then you gotta go test the waters, and the first few (or hundreds) of times, things aren't going to be that great. But as you learn more and get more confident, it gets better. And just like with the pancakes, nothing is perfect!

11/29/2022

I know I've grown so much in the post 5 years!
I'm so curious to find out about the many ways you've grown. Share your growth and success stories in the comments!
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11/06/2021

09/10/2021

Parenting is hard, but once you realize that parenting is just another form of a relationship, it can help things. There is no such thing as a prefect parent and for me realizing that I need to be what they need more than I need to be perfect, the parent- child bond improved. I stopped expecting prefect and started practicing grace and mercy. I showed them with my words and my actions that I love, care and support them unconditionally. I still mess up, more often than I care to admit, but that's just part of any relationship.

09/09/2021

I find it completely astonishing how quickly and effectively positive communication can impact a relationship!

Follow and comment for more skills on improving ineffective communication!

09/08/2021

They say once you know better that you do better!
Has anyone else had to do this, totally revamp your parenting style with older kids??
I have and I tell you it isn't for the faint of heart.

3 things that have helped me

1. Prepare myself, my friends, my support networks, teachers, therapist and anyone else involved of the change, when it's going to harken and what it's going to be like.
2. Practice self care, changing the way you parent is going to create a lot of backlash from the kids, so insuring that you are physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually ready for the ups and downs, is one way to ensure you have the longevity to stick out the change.
3. Open the doors of communication with the kids. Let them know when, what, why abs how these changes are going to be made. Answer all questions to the best of your ability and give yourself and your children grace, mercy and forgiveness through the transition.

09/08/2021

As a parent of a child with ADHD I find myself often questioning myself, my abilities and my parenting. Someday's I feel like I got a handle on things and then other days I find myself completely lost. As a licensed therapist I often find myself in conflict with my feelings and my education. I'm trained to help others deal with or parent a child with ADHD, so why do I feel so lost when it comes to my child????

Any other parents, teachers, siblings of a person with ADHD and you just find yourself completely lost some days?

09/05/2021

When we die our tombstones only give two dates, birth and death, but we are so much more than those two dates. That dash is so vital. Some want to be remembered for their faith, their passion, their love, their bank accounts. They want the world to know them for their beauty, their intelligence, their kindness, their fearlessness. Some only want to be remembered by their close family, some want the world to know their name.

But what do you want to be remembered by?????

09/03/2021

Anyone else have this problem???? I mean, I love my kids to death by man they just don't listen.

Here are 3 tips to improve parental communication skills.

1. Be concise, clear and direct with your expectations of what you want your child to do, learn or grow through. Children need to know that the expectation doesn't change no matter how long it takes them to understand.

2. Remind them out of love. Your children knowing that you will love them even if they continue to mess up will help improve the odds that your child will continue to listen, even if their actions sometimes don't match.

3. Model the behavioral your trying to change. If you want your children to clean without being told multiple times then show them how it's done. Be there to support them reach and every time to increase their understanding that what your saying is valuable.

For more tips on improving parental communication please like, share or comment!

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