12/29/2022
Long Post 🚨
Somewhere along the lines, we forgot how to be friends; over the years, I’ve watched the definition change downward. The term has become loose. Together we are going to redefine terms that are setting us back. Redefining words requires boundaries and rules.
3 rules of friendship:
1. Be stable and reliable.
2. It must be a positive relationship.
3. Reciprocity
There are boundaries in friendship. Placing individuals in their respected places in your life is important. Sometimes we allow people to dictate where they are going to be placed in our life’s that’s a form of bullying.
Some of you are bullies and not buddies.
Friendships are categorized into four types:
1. Acquaintance
2. Friend
3. Close Friend
4. Best Friend
Friendships greatest requirement is reciprocity. Many of you do not know how to be friends with others due to the emotional disconnect from yourself. Friends now are openly jealous, compare and contrast lives, outwardly envious, and throw the most subliminal punches.
I believe the term frenemies came about when friends stop reflecting and cultivating positivity and genuineness. There are people who pretend to be your friend just to discover your weakness.
What you must realize as we get older, we have less time to talk on the phone, life happens, and friends grow apart respectfully.
The season of friendship in our youth doesn’t mandate friendship’s in our adulthood.
The season of friendship in hard times doesn’t guarantee you a place in someone’s season of success. Everybody can’t go to certain areas; it doesn’t mean someone is switching up. Life has shifts, turns, and releases.
Everything is personal, something’s are more spiritual🫶🏾
As a friend, don’t take it personally if someone once was your go to person now they are emotionally, mentally, and physically unavailable. You may have a pint size view and they may need a person with a gallon viewpoint.
If you are constantly nagging, complaining, and negative, that becomes heavy, and no one wants to CONSTANTLY carry that weight. As a friend you want to be an 👂🏾 to a person good and bad times, BE NOT ALL THE TIMES.
As a friend, you have a responsibility to cheer genuinely, pray often, and don’t blend in with the enemy.
The older I get the more I value good genuine human beings. Elevate yourself and others.
You have the right too🥰
Are there individuals you know can’t go with you onto next chapter of your life?
What does friendship mean to you?
What are you afraid to let go?
You are free to release them, you know within when the time is up🫶🏾
In order to be a friend, you must embody characteristics that make your friendship worthy.
Make Thursday Terrific- Kendall Walton
