Ana Pais, LPC, NCC

02/07/2026

New Blog Post!

Ever feel like the same arguments keep showing up in your relationship just wearing different outfits? 💬💔

The Four Horsemen are common communication patterns that slowly erode connection if left unchecked. The good news? Once you can spot them, you can learn how to stop them and repair instead of repeat.

In my latest blog, I break down what the Four Horsemen are, how they show up in everyday relationships, and what actually helps couples move toward understanding and closeness again.

✨ Awareness is the first step. Change comes next.
👉 Read the blog + learn how couples therapy can help (link in bio)

Every couple argues. Conflict alone isn’t the problem; how couples fight is what determines whether a relationship grows stronger or slowly erodes over time.In couples therapy, one of the most researched and reliable frameworks for understanding relationship distress comes from Dr. John Gottman’...

01/09/2026

Today we honor the men and women who serve and protect our communities with courage, integrity, and dedication. Thank you to our law enforcement officers for your commitment to public safety and for the sacrifices you and your families make every day.

01/05/2026

✨We’re excited to share that Samantha has completed Level 1 Training in the Gottman Method Couples Therapy a highly respected, research-based approach to strengthening relationships.

Samantha is enthusiastic about using these proven tools to help couples improve communication, rebuild trust, and deepen connection.

If you’re feeling stuck, disconnected, or facing ongoing challenges in your relationship, now is a great time to reach out. Schedule a consultation with Samantha to begin working toward a healthier, more fulfilling partnership.

She looks forward to supporting you and meeting you where you are.

11/22/2025

Police leadership sets the tone for wellness and culture within a department. This upcoming training emphasizes the importance of proactive wellness checks and strong support systems that help officers thrive while reducing liability and risk.

09/22/2025

✨ Exciting News ✨

I am proud to share that I have officially completed the three-year Somatic Experiencing® Professional Training and am now a Somatic Experiencing® Practitioner (SEP)!

This journey has been one of deep personal and professional growth, filled with learning, self-reflection, and the privilege of experiencing the power of healing through the body. I am grateful for the guidance, mentorship, and community that supported me throughout this process.

Becoming an SEP equips me with specialized tools to support clients in navigating and healing from trauma in a compassionate, body-centered way. I look forward to integrating this work into my practice and continuing to walk alongside others in their healing journeys.

Here’s to growth, resilience, and the ongoing work of transforming trauma into strength. 🌿

,LPC,EMDR-C,SEP

08/21/2025

This is a huge win for first responder mental health!

Murphy Signs PBA Mental Health Bill

Governor Murphy today signed legislation proposed by the State PBA to enhance the benefits and privacy for first responders seeking mental health treatment through worker’s compensation.

The bill, sponsored by Assemblyman Roy Freiman, Senate Joe Lagana and 19 bipartisan cosponsors, requires an employer to provide up to 12 hours of paid confidential counseling services for work related traumatic incidents. These services are in addition to any other benefits provided to members under their health insurance. The bill also, crucially, allows members to select their own counselors rather than use ones assigned by workers compensation.

Finally the bill provides for confidentiality in communications between members and peer counselors provided through the PBA Peer team. This ensures members have the space to freely discuss their need for mental health treatment without fear of their employer being advised.

“This is a major victory for our members and all first responders so that we can protect their mental and physical health,” State PBA President Pete Andreyev said on the bill signing. “Any officer who feels the weight of the job getting heavier on their shoulders should look to this law and our mental health counseling services as their lifeline.”
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08/06/2025

Attention all First Responders & Veterans!
Join Brad for a First Responder & Veteran Peer Group every Thursday at 7 PM starting July 17, 2025, via Zoom.

This peer group is a safe space where you can connect with others who understand your experiences. Led by Brad Waudby, a Detective First Grade with the Bergen County Prosecutor’s Office and a Master Resiliency Trainer, this group offers the support and resources you need to stay strong in your roles.

How to Join:

Meeting ID: 813 3650 0645
Passcode: 246816
Or, simply scan the QR code on the flyer for direct access!
💬 Don’t miss out on this opportunity to be part of a supportive community.

07/15/2025

This is why the stigma continues to exist actions speak louder than words and the lack of support is keeping first responders from getting the help they need.

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06/18/2025

A big step in a good direction! We need to support our officer with culturally competent therapist who are equipped to handle their traumas.

State PBA Priority Mental Health Bill Advances

Building on the State PBA’s leadership promoting treatment and peer counseling for officers in need of mental health support legislation was recently released unanimously from the Assembly Labor Committee to require workers comp coverage for officers facing post traumatic stress.

Assembly Bill 5792 not only requires 12 weeks of paid counseling but it corrects a failure in the workers comp system in NJ by now permitting an officer to select their own therapist as opposed to one chosen by their employer.

In addition, A5792 provides confidentiality for peer counseling performed by trained officers for their communication with fellow officers in need of mental health support.

The State PBA is grateful to Assemblyman Roy Freiman (D-16) for his sponsorship and to Speaker Coughlin for prioritizing the bill during the busy Budget season. We are looking forward to seeing the bill posted for a vote in the Assembly and for the Senate to move its version, S4590, in the next few weeks.
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05/26/2025

Today we remember those who have made the ultimate sacrifice so that we can enjoy the many freedoms we have in this country. ❤️🤍💙🇺🇸

05/04/2025

May is Mental Health Awareness Month

To our first responders—firefighters, police officers, EMTs, dispatchers, and all those who serve on the front lines:
You show up for others every day. This month, we want to remind you to show up for yourself, too.

The weight you carry is real. The stress, the sleepless nights, the things you’ve seen—they matter. And your mental health matters just as much as your physical safety.

It’s not weakness to talk about it. It’s strength.
Let’s break the stigma in the stations, in the squads, and in the silence.
You are not alone. We see you, and we’re here to support you.

05/02/2025

More needs to be done to protect those who go to work everyday to protect us.

“Everywhere we look, we’re seeing it over and over again."