Teaching the science of love and roots of belonging. 🛋️ Counseling Intensives
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01/28/2026
Attachment styles are not a personality, a diagnosis, or a character trait. They should not be used as a label. Instead, we should see attachment as adaptive coping strategies which means people engage in patterns of behavior to help keep them safe in times emotional distress or perceived lack of safety.
In this way, we can begin to see people as operating from a place of pain and trauma rather than assuming they're just an a-hole.
Why is this important? Because you harboring anger towards other people keeps your body in distress. When realize people are operating from a place of pain and trauma, it frees you up to have compassion and empathy which is the exact energy your trying to put out into the world (and your body will thank you).
01/27/2026
Where are my allergy experts? They have some explaining to do.
01/06/2026
How Dax Shepard and Nikki Glaser prompted me to get more intentional on my walks. 🥰
01/02/2026
I’ve been craving more depth lately, with less reacting and more reflecting.
I wrote this piece after revisiting a documentary I watched years ago with my kids, and it stirred something I keep seeing in my work with people.
It’s about belonging, safety, and why separation matters more than we think.
It's gifting season and I have the PERFECT gifts for you and the people you love! 😍
📘 Crafting a New Narrative: A Simple CBT Visual Guide to Personal Transformation
This book teaches you how to rewrite the personal narrative so you have a more fulfilled life. Through simple visuals and CBT-based tools, you’ll learn how your thoughts shape your emotions and behaviors—and how to change the “objects” in your mind so you can finally feel grounded, confident, and in control. A reset for your brain and a roadmap to your Secure Self.
📘 I Am Magic: Master Your Wild, Anxious Thoughts With a Vision Journal
A playful yet powerful guided journey that tames your anxious thoughts and turns them into intention, clarity, and emotional freedom. Through visioning, reflection, and narrative reframing, this journal helps you shift from overwhelm to empowerment, one page at a time. Perfect for daily grounding, self-love rituals, and emotional breakthroughs.
Find both of these in Amazon!
12/02/2025
I don't understand all the hate for Mel Robbins and her "Let Them" theory. Yes, we therapists have been using it for forever with our clients. But I don't hate her for being able to push the message out to a massive amount of people. It isn't a toxic message in the slightest, and thinking it is, is reading too much into the idea.
LET be a conduit for healing. I'm all for that! Thanks, Mel. 😍
12/01/2025
Most people misunderstand attachment.
They think “anxious” or “avoidant” is a label. Something that you "are." And that's 100% incorrect.
Saying "they are avoidant" is not true.
Calling yourself "anxiously attachment" is labeling.
Attachment isn’t *identity,* it’s a behavioral coping pattern your nervous system learned through your earliest relationships.
^^read that part again^^^
Patterns can change. People can heal. Stories can be rewritten.
If you want to explore your attachment history and your internal working model, this is exactly what we do in an intensive.
Link in bio.
11/30/2025
You’ve tried surface-level self-care.
But your soul is asking for something deeper.
Real self-care isn’t pampering.
It’s remembering who you are.
The Self Love Tools open the door back to the Self — the part of you that’s been waiting to be seen, held, and loved.
If you’re ready to reconnect with your inner world, I teach this work every day.
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Book an intensive at the link in my bio.
11/26/2025
When your nervous system is stuck in survival mode, everything feels personal.
A raised eyebrow suddenly feels like rejection.
A question feels like criticism.
A simple comment turns into World War III.
This isn't a “communication problem.”
This is a *nervous system problem.*
Internal conflict becomes a relational problem.
When your body is dysregulated, your relationships absorb the impact — especially the ones closest to you.
And THAT is exactly why individual and couples intensives work so well.
A typical 50-minute session barely scratches the surface -- But an Individual or Couples Intensive gives you the time and space to:
✨ Slow your nervous system down
✨ Break the cycle of reactive communication
✨ Rebuild internal safety
✨ And reconnect on a deeper, more meaningful level
Think of an intensive like hitting “reset” on the emotional chaos.
You walk in overwhelmed…
and walk out with clarity, tools, and a regulated body that can finally connect again — to yourself or your partner.
If you're feeling tense, stuck, or disconnected, an intensive isn’t a luxury. It’s the exact kind of support your nervous system has been begging for.
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Send a message to Dr. Jennifer Slingerland Ryan, LPC:
I’m Jennifer Slingerland Ryan, and I know a thing or two about kids and families. First, I know they are joyous, exhilarating, loving and so darn fun. Second, I know they suck your life dry and make you weep like a baby. By day I’m a counselor and business owner; by night I’m a mom and wife. I love therapizing couples, educating parents, reading dystopian fiction and sleeping in my free time (read: I never sleep).
I created a health care model that focuses on the basic components of physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being. It’s super easy, super trustworthy, and ready for you to start using today. (Sign up for my newsletter to get my FREE download to get an easy one-pager with the Eight Acts of Self-Love, all based on the NEW Mental Health Care Model.)
I’ve has spent over 16 years in private practice working with individuals, couples, and parents who are faced with kid-drama, mamma-drama, and family-drama, and although some stories make a grown woman cry, I love it.
We spend most of our time in relationships – with friends, children, life partners, and coworkers – and you may not realize it, but many issues arise out of those pesky, er, lovely people we call family. You have symptoms of depression, anxiety, ADD, anger and fear you say? Yep, those come from relationships, too. I will show you how. Marriage is my thing (but it wasn’t always – my husband taught me a lot about myself how to even be in a marriage. I’m happy to share that story if you want).
I’m an attachment-based and Cognitive-Behavioral Therapist (CBT) and I love, love Attachment Theory. Relationships create a blueprint for all other relationships throughout life, and our job is to change those people in our life…no wait that’s not right…our job is to change ourselves, early processing and belief systems that keep you feeling stuck.
The truth is, I’m sooooo appreciative that you’ve stopped by and you’re following all my work. It means a lot to me. Thank you!
