Dola Mae Foundation

12/31/2025

12/31/2025

Let’s talk about what the hard things are really teaching you — because pain isn’t random, and struggle isn’t wasted.

First: closure.

Closure isn’t something someone hands you after they finally say the right words. It’s not an apology. It’s not a conversation. It’s not getting them to understand how much they hurt you.

Closure is the moment you decide your healing no longer depends on another person.

That’s it.

The second you stop waiting for someone else to validate your pain, explain themselves, or make it make sense — you take your power back. Closure is something you give yourself when you’re done bleeding for people who already moved on.

Next: loneliness.

Loneliness isn’t a punishment. It’s a sacred space.

It’s the quiet room where you finally meet the version of yourself who isn’t performing for approval. The version that doesn’t need to be impressive, agreeable, or useful to be worthy.

Loneliness strips away distractions. And yeah, it’s uncomfortable — but it’s also honest. It’s where you figure out who you are when no one’s watching.

Then there’s red flags.

A red flag isn’t bad luck. It’s not bad timing. It’s not God testing your patience.

Most of the time, it’s God whispering, “I have something better. Don’t settle for this.”

Red flags are protection disguised as disappointment. They’re exits you didn’t want but desperately needed. Ignoring them doesn’t make you loyal — it makes you stuck.

Now let’s talk about independence.

Independence isn’t isolation. It’s clarity.

It’s realizing your worth is a constant — not a variable. It doesn’t go up when someone chooses you and disappear when they leave. It doesn’t depend on who stays, who recognizes you, or who claps for you.

Your value doesn’t fluctuate with other people’s behavior.

And finally — forgiveness.

Forgiveness isn’t excusing what happened. It’s not saying it was okay.

It’s choosing to stop dragging the past into the future.

Forgiveness is you reclaiming your energy. Moving it forward instead of letting it stay trapped in something that already took enough from you. You don’t forgive for them.

You forgive so you can be free.

So yeah — the hard things are teaching you something.

They’re teaching you self-trust. Discernment. Strength. Boundaries. Freedom.

And one day, you’ll realize the struggle didn’t break you.

It built you.

— j. anthony |

12/30/2025

12/28/2025

📣Heal. Your mom may never apologize to you, because she has conditioned herself to believe that she did right by you. She hasn't healed.

Heal. Your father may never apologize to you, because he can only see what he's done right. He hasn't healed.

Heal. Your family members may never apologize to you, because toxicity is what they were raised on. They haven't healed.

Heal. That "friend" may never apologize to you, because he/she isn't sorry. He/she hasn't healed.
If/when they reach their healing, they may seek your forgiveness. Be so healed that it won't even matter.

Heal for you. You owe it to yourself.♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

12/26/2025

12/25/2025

Merry Christmas from Dola Mae Foundation