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So very true...
11/26/2020

So very true...

Findings from research on how use what they show that most students just plain forget most of what they have been taught. They often do not understand well what they do retain. And what they and , they often do not use actively. Some psychologists speak of the problem of “inert knowledge”—knowledge that learners retrieve to answer the quiz question, but that does not contribute to their endeavors and insights in real, complex situations.

Why do these problems of forgotten, misunderstood, and inert knowledge occur on such a wide scale? While there may be other outside reasons, here we will examine the basic disconnectedness of much of what students learn in schools. A good deal of the typical curriculum does not connect—not to practical applications, nor to personal insights, nor to much of anything else. It's not the kind of knowledge that would connect. Or it's not taught in a way that would help learners to make .

What's needed is a connected rather than a disconnected curriculum—one full of knowledge of the right kind, one taught in a way to connect richly to future insights and applications. John Dewey had something like this in mind when he wrote of “generative knowledge.” He wanted education to emphasize knowledge with rich ramifications in the lives of learners.

💫Children who “see the connections” are more likely to understand and remember what they learn.💫

🌟Activities that foster connection to curriculum for children to enjoy:

•Keeping records of their activities - scrapbooks, journals, photo albums etc.,

•Talking about themselves and their feelings

•Setting their own goals - give them a set of chores and ask them to pick any two that they will do every week, setting timelines for their school projects

•Yoga and meditation

•Any hobbies or projects that they can do on their own - flower collection, leaf collection, bird watching etc.,

•Treasure hunts that are self-directed

•Analyzing the effects of various events - eg., the impact of current events, what happens to Y when X occurs etc.,

•Relating everything they learn, to real life

•Pretending to be something or someone and expressing how it feels

🌟Help to create the space for children to learn

•Create opportunities for reflection and analysis, and connecting what they learn to themselves directly are the best pathways to help them learn.

•Help them understand how everything they learn is related to them

•Give them time to analyze what they did or what they learnt

•Ask them to express their opinions and feelings about what they learnt

•Try giving them choices when they have to learn, encouraging setting and tracking goals for themselves

•Help them create their own study plan with intermediate goals they need to achieve

•Have them frame their thoughts in a journal

•Give them a sense of personal ownership over all their learning activities - let them make choices within parameters you set

•Give them a little personal space around their learning process instead of hovering over them

•Let them analyze their own strengths and weaknesses in each subject and create a learning plan to address their weaknesses while reinforcing their strengths

🌟Toys and materials that you could have available

•Games that a single player can play - puzzles, spot the differences etc.,

•Brain teasers, riddles etc.,

•Notebooks - for writing journals

•Photo albums - to collect photos

•Camera/camcorder - to record their visual observations

•Mathematical puzzles

•A quiet corner where children can reflect

🌟Examples of how to teach various topics

⭐Mathematics

•Connect concepts to real life. Explain how geometry helps create the building they live in - straight lines, rectangles, circles, arcs etc.,

•Ask them to compare and contrast various ways of solving complex equations - one technique is the brute force technique where different assumptions are tried to solve it, one technique is to break down the equation and try to find patterns etc.,

⭐Science

•Connect all concepts to real life. For example, explain how chemistry helps discover new medicines or how learning about projectile motion helps them learn about throwing a ball in cricket.

•When learning about foods, have children create a meal plan that ensures there is the optimal consumption of all the food groups.

•Assess how various principles of physics impact them in real life - eg., Newton's laws, planets and how they revolve around the sun

•Have them put themselves in the shoes of great scientists and think through what they felt when they made their discoveries or postulated their theories

⭐Geography

•Have your child discuss how things would be different for them if they were suddenly moved to a different country

•Identify various climatic conditions and discuss how they would like or dislike them

⭐History

•Analyze various historical events and documents (Constitution, Dandi March, Akbar's marriages etc.,) and how they affected the course of history)

•Explain how they would react to meeting various historical figures

References
Gardner, Howard (1983). Frames of Mind: The theory of multiple intelligences. New York: Basic Books.
Gardner, Howard (1999). Intelligence Reframed. Multiple intelligences for the 21st century, New York: Basic Books.


Imoprtant to know!
11/07/2020

Imoprtant to know!

Sometimes, who have issues self-regulating— or who regularly fall off their chairs— or who are in constant motion— or who have uncommon troubles with toilet training— may be having difficulties that need to be compassionately recognised and addressed.

We’ve all heard of the 5 senses. Yet there are actually 8 main senses that are part of the sensory system of the body. Some would say there are even more, depending on how they define the word “senses” (main, basic, primary, etc). Unfortunately, even just considering the main 8 senses, 3 of them are virtually unheard of, not just because they are hard to explain and pronounce, but also because they only come up when there’s a problem.

Another reason many have not heard of sensory processing or integration issues confined to the additional 3 senses is because of a debate that continues to unfurl in the wider clinical community. It is occupational therapists (OTs) who first theorised that sensory processing and sensory integration issues are a source of distress for many children and their families. Many issues still progress unrecognised by other specialists as they are sometimes not diagnosed under neurodevelopmental disorders or sensory processing issues. Yet it is indisputable across the disciplines that identifying sensory issues and working with an OT helps many children become calmer and better regulated.

All parents and educators who wish to optimise children's physical development should have a recognition of a child's 8 developing senses, and not just limit and learning opportunities to the realms of , , , and .

The other 3 senses– and how to recognise problems with them– are explored below

🐙 SYSTEM
The vestibular system includes the parts of the inner ear and brain that help control balance, eye movement and spatial orientation. It helps keep you stable and upright. It is the leading system informing us about movement and position of head relative to gravity. A body's movements include two positions rotations and linear directionality, all of which need development. The vestibular system sends signals primarily to the neural parts of the that control our eye movements and that keep us balanced and upright.

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The proprioceptive system senses the position, location, orientation, and movement of the body muscles and joints. Proprioception provides us with the sense of the relative position of neighbouring parts of the body and effort used to move body parts. Proprioception is activated by input to a proprioceptor in the periphery of the body. The proprioceptive sense combines sensory information from neurons in the inner ear (detecting motion and orientation) and stretch receptors in the muscles and the joint-supporting ligaments for stance. Because of proprioception, if you raise your hand, you know that your arm is over your head. You don't have to think about it or look in a mirror.

–Kids who have trouble with the vestibular sense or proprioception could struggle with motor skills in a number of ways. They may seem awkward and clumsy. An activity like running or even going up and down stairs may be hard for kids who have difficulty knowing how their body is oriented and whether it's stable. They may move slowly or avoid activities that are too challenging. They may not know their own strength and use more muscles than they need for simple tasks, breaking pencil tips, ripping pages or giving overenthusiastic hugs. They may not like physical activities that other kids find fun. For example, they may not feel safe on the swings because they're not getting the sensory input that tells them they're securely seated.

–They may be in constant motion, bump into things or seem out of control. When kids don't get enough feedback from the sensory system, they may exaggerate their movements to get the information they need from the environment. When they walk down a hallway, they may knock into the wall to feel more anchored. They may kick their legs under their desk for the same reason. They may love physical activity like doing flips off the diving board or just jumping up and down.

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Interoception refers to sensations related to the physiological/physical condition of the body. ‎Interoceptors are internal sensors that provide a sense of what our internal organs are feeling. Hunger and thirst are examples of interoception. It detects responses that guide regulation, including hunger, heart rate, respiration and elimination. The stimulation is detected through nerve endings lining the respiratory and digestive mucous membranes, and it works alongside the vestibular and proprioceptive senses to determine how a person perceives their own body. Well-modulated interoception helps the person detect sensations normally. For example, if a person feels their heart pounding, while it is not comfortable, trauma from the stimulation is not likely; nor will the stimulation be craved. The same is true for hunger and thirst, as well as the feeling of the need to urinate or have a bowel movement.

–Kids who struggle with the interoceptive sense may have trouble knowing when they feel hungry, full, hot, cold or thirsty. Having trouble with this sense can also make self-regulation a challenge. Most of us know if we're hungry, full, hot, cold, thirsty, nauseated, itchy or ticklish. For kids with sensory processing issues, the brain may have trouble making sense of that information. They may not be able to tell when they're feeling pain or when their bladder is full. An itch may feel like pain or pain may feel ticklish. Kids who struggle with the interoceptive sense can also have trouble “feeling” their emotions. They may not be as tuned in to the body cues that help interpret emotion. Without being able to feel and interpret those body sensations, it's harder to clearly identify the emotion. For instance, a child may not “feel” fear because they don't recognise that their muscles are tense, their breathing is shallow and their heart is racing.

–Kids who are under-responsive to interoceptive sensory input may not feel or respond to sensations when they should. They may take longer than other kids to learn to use the toilet or have more frequent accidents. They may not eat as often as others because they may not feel hunger or thirst.

🐙WHAT CAN YOU DO?
If you suspect your child has sensory processing issues, consider having them evaluated by an occupational therapist (OT) who specialises in sensory integration. Follow the instructions from your therapist and spend some quality time together having fun. With vestibular sense or proprioception, you may find yourself helping your child complete activities that give them opportunities to use their arms and legs at the same time.

Encourage your child to spend time in free play. Make a home obstacle course, show them how to do a push-up, or just have them help rake leaves and carry groceries.

With interoception, you may find that a therapist directs your child more towards mindfulness activities like meditation, which can help kids be more aware of interoceptive sensations in their bodies. Heavy work (activity that pushes or pulls against the body) or a sensory diet may be helpful as well.

The point is to give your child the sensory input that they need to feel in control of their body. When they get this information, it will help them feel more stable and focused. One of the reasons that children so naturally want to fidget, jump, balance, climb, and run around with each other is because of their natural instincts to develop all of their 8 senses as they grow. Over time, most kids will figure out their own strategies to work around their weaknesses and play to their strengths.

https://childmind.org/article/the-debate-over-sensory-processing

https://www.misophoniainternational.com/you-have-8-senses-not-5

https://www.understood.org/en/learning-thinking-differences/child-learning-disabilities/sensory-processing-issues/interoception-and-sensory-processing-issues-what-you-need-to-know

https://www.understood.org/en/learning-thinking-differences/child-learning-disabilities/sensory-processing-issues/how-sensory-processing-issues-can-affect-motor-skills

True
09/04/2020

True

Reflection leads to learning, learning leads to growth. 🌱

We grown-ups are learning and growing right alongside our children. Reflecting on information, our experiences and feelings and those of our children helps this process. So, for …

Let’s reflect on these questions:

🟣How have I responded to my child when they have hit or kicked?

🟣How did I make them feel?

🟣The last time I was having a hard time, how did the people around me respond?

🟣How did that make me feel?

And think about this information based on research and what experts say about hitting and kicking:

🟡It happens because young children’s brains and bodies are still developing their ability to manage emotions and think rationally. It’s quite typical for young children. It’s mostly innocent and can happen when they feel overwhelmed.

🟡Making children feel terrible for it does not serve them or our relationships with them. Being a calm and understanding presence, setting clear limits, and giving kind guidance to learn alternatives help them and our relationships most (although extremely difficult at times).

Knowing this, how can I respond better when my child hits or kicks?

Reflection can help us understand ourselves and our children better and become more mindful of how we respond to them. It can help us question and unlearn old ways of doing things, accept our past shortcomings as caregivers (we’ve all had them and that’s okay, we’re all human), and set the intention to keep growing- doing our best, continuing to learn and then doing better.

As the great Maya Angelou once said: “Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.”🌻

Pure wisdom
09/03/2020

Pure wisdom

When we ask children to exhibit behaviors for which they do not yet have the skill sets, that's when the brain is activated. These are the moments when we see , anxiety, agitation, anger or fear. Engage the brain with a kind tone, a gentle touch and a voice that communicates, we are in this together.

Wisdom
09/02/2020

Wisdom

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(Thanks to Lisa Sunbury Ge**er for posting this quote from Jane Healy, one of my favorite researchers)

Wisdom
08/30/2020

Wisdom

"If you feel safe and loved, your brain becomes specialized in exploration, play, and cooperation; if you are frightened and unwanted, it specializes in managing feelings of fear and abandonment."
—Bessel van der Kolk

True
08/14/2020

True

"Children do not experience our intentions, no matter how heartfelt. They experience what we manifest in tone and behavior."
—Gordon Neufeld

Wisdom
07/19/2020

Wisdom

by Megan Larson: Over the past few months the virus has influenced our lives in many profound ways... Children, in particular, have experienced major shifts to their world at a rapid pace, not only in their household structure, cancelation of summer camps and the inability to see

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07/14/2020

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