Just Breathe Holistic Health and Wellness

Just Breathe Holistic Health and Wellness Be inspired to just breathe...Providing holistic tools and services to achieve balance, energy and re We don’t have a large menu of services.

What sets us apart is our commitment to offering quality personalized services and treatments that are unique to you. We keep it simple and Because of that we are specialists. You are an unique individual, we do not do "cookie cutter" services here. We are committed to continuously educating ourselves and we have over 20 years experience.

Happy Thanksgiving! 🍂 Grateful for the trust you place in me and for the chance to support you in your wellness journey....
11/27/2025

Happy Thanksgiving! 🍂 Grateful for the trust you place in me and for the chance to support you in your wellness journey.
Wishing you a peaceful and nourishing holiday.
Just Breathe 💜

Good morning!! I only have 2 more days to post funny turkey, memes, so bear with me😂Enjoy the sunshine and just breathe…...
11/24/2025

Good morning!! I only have 2 more days to post funny turkey, memes, so bear with me😂
Enjoy the sunshine and just breathe…. 🦃🦃

Testimonial💙Lovely testimonial below that I received, regarding the Intuitive body work that I do.People with Chronic pa...
11/22/2025

Testimonial💙

Lovely testimonial below that I received, regarding the Intuitive body work that I do.
People with Chronic pain who finally make their way to me are mentally& physically tired and usually have lost faith and hope in the medical system. My approach is unique, I work WITH the clients mind and body to untangle the imbalances. The body then starts to heal. The renewed hope, gratitude and joy they feel is just as much a gift to me as it is to them.
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“Jaye is AMAZING! I was in a car accident over a year ago where I suffered neck, back and shoulder injuries. I’ve gone through 2 rounds of physical therapy and chiropractic adjustments every other week, and I felt like I had plateaued in my recovery. I thought my new norm was just going to be living with pain and not being able to lift my arm all the way due to my shoulder problems. Until...I went to see Jaye! She was recommended by my chiropractor, so I sent her a message and she got back to me very quickly. This was my first massage ever, so I wasn’t too sure what to expect. She is so kind, knowledgeable, and thorough! She explains everything to you and the reasons why she’s doing certain things in certain areas. She stretches you too! She will stretch your arms, legs, hips, etc. She even showed me stretches that I could do at home to help with the process and help keep all my muscles loose.

I’ve now had 4 Medical Massages with her (having my 5th tomorrow), and I have noticed the largest improvement from getting these massages! After a couple of appointments and lots of hard work from Jaye, I was able to lift my arm for the first time in over a year!!! I can’t be more grateful for the amount of effort and work she has put into me to try and get me back to a normal state with my body. It’s still a work in progress but I can’t believe the improvements I’ve seen already in such a short amount of time!!!”

Happy Friday!! Remember to just breathe, relax your shoulders, drink some water in between your to-do list today.
11/21/2025

Happy Friday!! Remember to just breathe, relax your shoulders, drink some water in between your to-do list today.

Soul food🦋“You cannot save the world but you can open the windows for the trapped wren in the cellar"
11/20/2025

Soul food🦋

“You cannot save the world but you can open the windows for the trapped wren in the cellar"

Mercury retrograde ends Friday the 28th, keep paddling you got this!
11/19/2025

Mercury retrograde ends Friday the 28th, keep paddling you got this!

Truth!!
11/19/2025

Truth!!

Good Morning! I hope you have a beautiful start to your day!
11/19/2025

Good Morning! I hope you have a beautiful start to your day!

Why Bodywork is medicine❤️‍🩹The vagus nerve is one of the most extraordinary structures in the human body. It is the bri...
11/18/2025

Why Bodywork is medicine❤️‍🩹

The vagus nerve is one of the most extraordinary structures in the human body. It is the bridge that spans the divide between the brain and the heart, the lungs and the diaphragm, the organs and the emotional self. It is the primary pathway of the parasympathetic nervous system, which means it governs our ability to rest, digest, restore, and feel safe. When the vagus nerve softens, the entire body follows; when it tightens, the whole system braces.

This nerve originates at the brainstem, emerges through the jugular foramen, and descends through the throat, passing through the vocal cords, the pharynx, the carotid sheath, the heart, the lungs, the diaphragm, and deep into the gut, where it wraps around the stomach, liver, pancreas, and intestines. It is a living story cord, carrying messages in both directions. Eighty percent of its fibers run from the body to the brain, which means emotional regulation is influenced far more by sensation than by thought. The vagus nerve speaks the language of feeling long before it speaks the language of logic.

This is why bodywork can profoundly shift a client’s emotional landscape. When we touch the fascia, guide the breath, soften tension in the diaphragm, or release constriction in the jaw, the vagus nerve listens. It perceives these changes as signals of safety, and the entire system recalibrates. Heart rate slows, breath deepens, digestion resumes, muscles release and the emotional body begins to thaw.

One of the simplest and most effective tools for vagal activation is humming. Because the vagus nerve innervates the larynx and pharynx, vibration created by humming stimulates its sensory branches. This mechanical resonance enhances vagal tone, which in turn improves heart rate variability, stress recovery, and emotional stability. Clients often report feeling warm, heavy, or deeply settled within moments. The hum is a conversation between sound and the nervous system, a way of telling the body, “You are safe now.”

The diaphragm is another essential gateway. As the primary muscle of respiration, it is both mechanically and emotionally tied to vagal function. When the diaphragm is tight, breath becomes shallow, the vagus nerve stiffens, and the system moves toward fight or flight. When we release the diaphragm manually or guide clients into slow belly breathing, the vagus nerve is stretched and soothed, promoting a shift from sympathetic activation to parasympathetic rest. This is why diaphragmatic work can bring tears, warmth, memories, and spontaneous emotional release. The diaphragm is the emotional hinge between the upper and lower body.

Cranial work also influences vagal health. At the base of the skull, the vagus nerve emerges adjacent to the occipital condyles and upper cervical fascia. Gentle decompression at the cranial base can reduce irritation, improve vagal tone, and soothe the entire central nervous system. Even a light touch can shift someone from a guarded state into a deep exhale that feels like relief.

And then there is the belly. The deepest branches of the vagus nerve wrap the visceral fascia of the digestive system. When we perform gentle abdominal massage, organ-specific work, or slow fascial holds, we support motility, reduce sympathetic nervous system firing, and help the body process emotions. The gut is sometimes referred to as the “second brain,” but in reality, it serves as an emotional archive. Fear, grief, shame, and instinct live here. When the visceral layer softens, the stories held there soften with it.

My Parasympathetic Reset, which many lovingly refer to as the Sleep Therapy Massage, weaves all of these techniques together. It uses sound, fascia, cranial stillness, diaphragmatic release, and visceral unwinding to restore balance to the vagus nerve. Clients often drift into a dreamlike state because the nervous system finally feels safe enough to let go. Muscles melt. The breath widens. The heart quiets. The mind stops bracing. This is not simply relaxation. It is neurological reorganization. It is the body stepping out of defense and back into belonging.

For bodyworkers, this is some of the most meaningful work we can offer. Touch becomes communication, stillness becomes medicine, and breath becomes transformation. By supporting the vagus nerve, we not only ease pain and tension but also help clients return to themselves, regulate their emotions, and feel at home in their bodies again.

So true ! Go back to nature to heal yourself. Teas, tinctures, essential oils, fruits, and vegetables, organic bone brot...
11/18/2025

So true ! Go back to nature to heal yourself. Teas, tinctures, essential oils, fruits, and vegetables, organic bone broth. Top it off with sunshine and clean air.

This was too good not to share over a “ bad word.”Also, If you didn’t know this about me yet, I actually swear a lot. It...
11/17/2025

This was too good not to share over a “ bad word.”

Also, If you didn’t know this about me yet, I actually swear a lot. It’s part of my creative self. 😆🤷‍♀️

"You’re in a meeting. Someone says something objectively wrong. And instead of doing your usual dance—the soft correction, the diplomatic phrasing, the careful preservation of everyone’s feelings—you just... say it.

'That’s not accurate.'

No cushioning. No apology. No emotional labor to make your truth more palatable.

And everyone looks at you like you’ve grown a second head.

Welcome to what I call the Great Unf**kening—that point in midlife when your capacity to pretend, perform, and please others starts shorting out like an electrical system that’s finally had enough.

You might think you’re becoming difficult. Impatient. One of those 'bitter older women' you were warned about.

But here’s what’s actually happening: your brain is restructuring itself. And thank god for that.

The biology of not being able to fake it anymore...

Let’s start with the science, because this isn’t about you becoming a worse person. It’s about your brain finally doing some overdue maintenance.

For decades, your prefrontal cortex—the part of your brain responsible for executive function, social behavior, and impulse control—has been working overtime. It’s been monitoring social cues, calculating risks, suppressing authentic responses, and managing everyone else’s emotional experience.

This is exhausting work. And it turns out, it’s unsustainable.

Research in neuroscience shows that as we age, the brain undergoes a process called synaptic pruning. Neural pathways that aren’t essential get trimmed away. Your brain is essentially Marie Kondo-ing itself, keeping what serves you and discarding what doesn’t.

And all those neural pathways dedicated to hypervigilant people-pleasing? They’re often first on the chopping block.

Dr. Louann Brizendine, neuropsychiatrist and author of 'The Female Brain,' explains that women’s brains are particularly wired for social harmony and caregiving in the first half of life—driven partly by estrogen and oxytocin. But as estrogen levels shift in perimenopause and beyond, this intense drive to please and nurture others begins to diminish.

What replaces it isn’t bitterness. It’s clarity.

The accumulated cost of a lifetime of performance...

Think about what you’ve been doing since you were old enough to understand social dynamics:

Reading the room. Adjusting your tone. Softening your language. Making yourself smaller to make others comfortable. Laughing at jokes that weren’t funny. Agreeing with opinions you didn’t share. Explaining things carefully so no one feels threatened by your knowledge.

You’ve been running complex social calculations every single day for decades.

There’s a concept in psychology called 'decision fatigue'. The deteriorating quality of decisions made after a long session of decision-making. But what we don’t talk about enough is emotional labor fatigue.

After thousands of interactions where you’ve monitored and managed your authentic responses to maintain social harmony, something in your system starts breaking down. Not because you’re broken, but because the system was never meant to run this way indefinitely.

Your brain isn’t malfunctioning. It’s finally refusing to malfunction anymore.

Why women experience this more intensely
Men experience aging changes too, obviously. But women tend to report this shift more dramatically, and there’s a reason for that.

From childhood, girls are socialized for social harmony in ways boys simply aren’t. Research shows that girls as young as 4 already demonstrate more awareness of others’ emotions and adjust their behavior accordingly more than boys do.

By the time you reach midlife, you’ve had 40+ years of this conditioning. That’s four decades of:

'Don’t be bossy' (translation: don’t lead)

'Don’t be pushy' (translation: don’t assert boundaries)

'Don’t be difficult' (translation: don’t have needs)

'Don’t be emotional' (translation: don’t be human)

You’ve been performing an elaborate social choreography so long it became automatic. You stopped noticing you were doing it.

Until suddenly, you can’t anymore. Or more accurately—you won’t.

What’s actually happening in your brain...

Several neurological and hormonal shifts converge in midlife that contribute to this phenomenon:

Hormonal recalibration. As estrogen declines, so does its moderating effect on emotional responses and social bonding behaviors. You’re not becoming “hormonal” in the dismissive sense. You’re becoming less chemically compelled to prioritize others’ comfort over your own truth.

Prefrontal cortex changes. The same executive function region that helped you suppress inappropriate responses for decades starts operating differently. Some research suggests it becomes less reactive to social judgment and approval. You’re literally less neurologically invested in what others think.

Accumulated stress response. Decades of chronic low-level stress from constant social monitoring takes a biological toll. Your stress response system—the HPA axis—can become dysregulated. What looks like 'not having a filter' might actually be a stress response system that’s finally saying 'enough.'

Cognitive prioritization shifts. Your brain starts prioritizing differently. Energy becomes more precious. Time becomes more finite. The cost-benefit analysis of pretending shifts dramatically.

The social backlash is real (and expected)
Here’s the part that makes this transition so uncomfortable: other people don’t like it.

When you stop performing emotional labor, systems that relied on that labor start breaking down. And instead of examining why the system needed your performance to function, people blame you for withdrawing it.

You’re suddenly:

'Not a team player'

'Going through something'

'Difficult to work with'

'Changed' (said with concern that really means disapproval)

The same directness that would be called 'no-nonsense' in a man gets called 'abrasive' in a woman over 40.

This backlash is proof of concept. It confirms that your people-pleasing wasn’t optional. It was required labor that kept everything running smoothly. And when you stop providing it for free, people notice.

The discomfort you’re causing? That’s not your problem to fix. That’s information about a system that was always exploiting you.

The fear that comes with liberation
But here’s what complicates this: the liberation feels dangerous.

You’ve been rewarded your entire life for being accommodating. Easy. Pleasant. Not too much. The positive feedback loop of being liked is powerful, and you’re now breaking that loop.

You might find yourself afraid that:

You’re becoming 'that woman'—the bitter, difficult one everyone avoids

You’ll lose relationships (and you might—more on this in a moment)

You’re being selfish or narcissistic

You’re overreacting or being 'too sensitive' (ironic, since you’re actually being less sensitive to others’ reactions)

These fears are valid. But they’re also old programming.

The woman you’re afraid of becoming? She’s not real. She’s a cautionary tale designed to keep you compliant.

What you’re gaining...

Let’s be explicit about what’s actually happening when you 'lose your filter':

You’re gaining authenticity. The real you—the one who’s been submerged under layers of performance—is finally surfacing. This might feel harsh because authentic humans have edges. They have opinions. They have boundaries. These aren’t character flaws.

You’re gaining time. All the energy you spent managing everyone else’s experience? That’s now available for literally anything else. The return on investment is staggering.

You’re gaining clarity. When you stop cushioning every truth, reality becomes clearer. Problems that were obscured by diplomatic language become visible and therefore solvable.

You’re gaining real relationships. Some relationships will end when you stop people-pleasing. These were transactional relationships sustained by your performance. What remains are connections based on who you actually are.

The relationships that don’t survive...

This is hard to talk about, but necessary: some relationships won’t survive your refusal to keep pretending.

Friendships built on shared complaining but not actual intimacy. Work relationships that relied on you doing emotional labor others weren’t doing. Family dynamics where you played mediator, peacemaker, or emotional manager.

When you stop playing these roles, one of two things happens:

The relationship evolves into something more authentic, or it dissolves because it was never based on authentic connection in the first place.

Both outcomes are information.

Losing relationships because you stopped performing isn’t actually loss. It’s clarity about what was never really there.

How to navigate this transition...

If you’re in the thick of this shift, here’s what helps:

Name what’s happening. 'I’m not becoming difficult—I’m becoming authentic. My brain is reorganizing around honesty instead of performance.' Language matters. The story you tell yourself about this change shapes your experience of it.

Expect resistance. When you stop over-functioning in relationships and systems, others will push back. This isn’t evidence you’re doing something wrong. It’s evidence you were doing too much before.

Practice the pause. You don’t have to swing from people-pleasing to brutal honesty overnight. Notice when you’re about to soften/cushion/apologize unnecessarily. Pause. Choose consciously whether to add the cushioning or not.

Find your people. Other women going through this same shift. They exist. They’re tired of pretending too. These relationships will feel different—less performative, more substantial.

Grieve if you need to. There’s loss here too. Loss of approval, loss of being liked by everyone, loss of your identity as 'the nice one.' This grief is legitimate even as the change is ultimately positive.

The unexpected gift...

Here’s what no one tells you about aging out of f***s: it’s practice for being fully alive.”

Every small death of ego, every shedding of others’ opinions, every moment you choose truth over approval, you’re rehearsing the ultimate letting go.

You’re learning to exist as yourself regardless of external validation. This is spiritual work masquerading as social rudeness.

The woman who can say 'that’s not accurate' without apologizing is the same woman who can eventually face her own mortality without flinching. She’s practiced not needing everyone’s approval. She’s learned that her worth isn’t contingent on being pleasant.

You’re not becoming difficult
You’re becoming free.

The 'you' that’s emerging isn’t a worse version. It’s the version that was always there but buried under decades of social conditioning to maintain harmony at any cost.

Your brain is finally doing triage. Deciding what actually matters. Cutting away the pretense that never served you.

The filter you’re losing wasn’t protecting you. It was protecting everyone else from your truth.

And your truth? It’s not the problem.

The system that required you to hide it was always the problem.

So when someone says you’ve changed, when they say you’re not the person you used to be, when they imply something’s wrong with you now?

They’re right. You have changed.

You’ve changed into someone who’s no longer available for performance.

And that’s not difficult.

That’s development."

~ Ellen Scherr

Good morning! Are you someone or know someone who could use a little encouragement this holiday season?CPTSD organizatio...
11/17/2025

Good morning!
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