04/23/2026
“Which me will survive all these liberations?” Audre knew what questions to ask.
In therapy today, I spoke about how different things have been since my surgery. Like internally, emotionally, mentally.
I truly did not know how bad it was inside. I’ve had Crohn’s since I was 12 years old and I have learned to adjust year after year. To make no excuses. To show up regardless. To live in pain.
But this is not honorable. It’s not how things should be. I can feel myself softening. I can tell that my nervous system is exiting a chronic fight or flight. I genuinely feel safer in my body.
I’ve been told I’m so strong my whole life, but who am I outside of my resilience? I want to hear how sweet I am, how gentle and loving I am. I want to know myself in different ways.
If you’ve ever had to be resilient and if you’ve ever had the opportunity to take your armor off, I hope for you too that this era is one you do not recognize. And you enter it unafraid because you have survived the unthinkable already.