Florence Gaia, RN, M.Ed. Transformational Nurse Coach

02/27/2026

How many of us have been following a patriarchal form of spirituality?

Patriarchal Spirituality: Those ungrounded and inhumane "spiritual" models that have been fostered by emotionally armored, self-avoidant men.

These models share some or all of the following beliefs:

* the ego is the enemy of a spiritual life
* the "monkey mind" is the cause of suffering
* your feelings are an illusion
* your personal identifications and stories are necessarily false
* witnessing your pain transforms it
* your body is a spiritually bankrupt toxic quagmire
* the only real consciousness is an "absolute" and "transcendent" one
* stillness and silence are THE path
* isolation is the best way to access "higher states"
* there is no "self"
* meditation is THE royal road to enlightenment
* enlightenment actually exists
* formlessness over form
* the ultimate path is upward and vertical
* real spirituality exists independent of our humanness

In fact, most of the above is a blatant lie. Here are more accurate hypotheses about the nature of human life:

* A healthy ego is beautifully essential to healthy functioning
* The monkey mind is fed by the monkey heart (the unresolved emotional body)
* Many of our identities and stories are fundamental to who we are, where we have been, why we are here
* Healing your pain transforms it; watching it is only a preliminary step
* Our bodies are our spiritual temples
* The only "real" consciousness is one that integrates all that we are and all that this is
* Stillness and silence are only one path; many people prefer movement and sound
* There is no "higher" state (we aren’t birds). But connection may be the best way to access deepened states
* There is a magnificent self; the work is to align it with your sacred purpose, not to deny it altogether
* Meditation is not THE royal road; it’s one road, and it is not any more effective than embodied movement and emotional release as a clarification and transformation tool
* Enlightenment does not exist; enrealment does. (Be real now.) And it’s a relative experience, changing form as we and this changes form
* We are form, and we are here to in-form our humanness
* If there is an "ultimate path," it's downward (rooted) and horizontal
* There is no distinction between our spirituality and our humanness

The wool has been pulled over our eyes. Men who were too unhealthy egoically to admit that they couldn’t deal with their humanness, their feelings, their trauma, had to find a system that smoke-screened their avoidance. They found it. It’s called "Enlightenment." It’s also called "Spiritual Mastery." And it usually involves leaving the world, in one form or another. This way, they can convince themselves and others that they have mastered the one true path.

In fact, Enlightenment is just a construct that is intended to avoid the multi-aspected nature of reality. In fact, they are mastering nothing. They are merely fleeing their fragmentation, their confusion, and the fact that they don't know how to find their center in the heart of the world. Don't be fooled. They know less about reality than day to day people. They know less about reality than those who live from their hearts. They are camouflaging their unresolved trauma below a 'realization mask.'

What we need now are models that lead us back into our hearts, into relatedness, into a deep and reverential regard for the self. Those models may invite us to detach in an effort to see ourselves through a different lens, but they will not leave us out there, floating into the eternal emptiness and calling that a life.

Detachment is a tool; it’s NOT a life.

The models we need will then invite us back into our bodies, back into our hearts, and back into relatedness with each other. (No more "enlightened" masters sitting in caves while the women of the village bring them food. If you can’t find your transformation in the village, you haven’t found s**t). The new models will invite us to integrate what we find "out there" with who we are "in here." They will invite us to embody the now, rather than to pretend we have found it in the heart of our dissociation.

It’s time to co-create spiritual models that begin, and end, within our wondrous humanness.

It’s not "out there," dear friends. It’s right here, inside these aging body temples.

(This perspective reflects some part of the message at the heart of 'Grounded Spirituality'. This book both deconstructs and calls out patriarchal spirituality & the new cage movement, and plants seeds for the new models we need. I am working diligently on the crafting of one of those models now, and I encourage anyone interested, to craft their model to bring to the world. It is one thing to critically review what we have been calling spirituality for centuries. It is quite another to help us to find a new way. I have focused my attention in both directions, for years. And it would be wonderful if developing new spiritualities became a point of focus for many, so that we can save this bloodied species.) pic by and of .

10/25/2025

Starting already in my home blue state and CA. WE the people must monitor carefully the DOJ as they “monitor” these elections that they don’t suppress the vote or falsify claim fraud.

The department will monitor elections at five sites in California and one in New Jersey ahead of elections in both states on Nov. 4, the agency announced Friday.

04/10/2025

For your consideration This was NOT taught to me by my childhood religion but learned over the years with help of therapy and wonderful women spiritual teachers and practices. #3 was a big challenge that I mastered in my 3 step Transforming the Inner Critic process .

“Thinking good of oneself involves cultivating self-love, self-acceptance, and self-worth. Here are some potent points and practices to help you do so:

1. *Practice self-compassion*: Treat yourself with kindness, understanding, and patience. Acknowledge your imperfections and remember that everyone makes mistakes.
2. *Focus on strengths*: Rather than dwelling on weaknesses, highlight your positive qualities, skills, and accomplishments.
3. *Challenge negative self-talk*: Notice when you're engaging in self-criticism, and replace those thoughts with affirming, empowering ones.
4. *Set boundaries*: Learn to say "no" to things that drain your energy and say "yes" to those that nourish your mind, body, and soul.
5. *Celebrate successes*: Acknowledge and celebrate your achievements, no matter how small they may seem.
6. *Practice mindfulness and self-care*: Take care of your physical, emotional, and mental well-being by engaging in activities that bring you joy and relaxation.
7. *Surround yourself with positivity*: Spend time with people who uplift and support you, and avoid those who bring you down.
8. *Embrace your uniqueness*: Recognize that you're one of a kind, and that your individuality is something to be cherished.
9. *Practice gratitude*: Focus on the things you're thankful for, rather than dwelling on negative thoughts or circumstances.
10. *Repeat affirmations*: Use positive affirmations to rewire your mind with empowering thoughts and beliefs.

Remember, thinking good of yourself is a journey, not a destination. Be gentle, patient, and kind to yourself as you work on cultivating a more positive and loving relationship with yourself.

03/13/2025

He’d better comply! WE the people need to take back our government from this insanity!

The ruling applies to workers who were fired from six agencies during recent purge of government workers.

02/12/2025

And, this is why it is called the Gulf of Mexico.

02/11/2025

Take heart Lennette.. And the Supreme Court won’t save him.
“let people know that there are challenges to these behaviors. The public has to know about the constitutional and other challenges to these acts. The judges have to know about it as well. These are the boundaries of our democracy”

The work of these lawsuits, of these cases, is more than just halting behaviors that are unlawful.

01/22/2025

Make no mistake twisting the truth begins with these exsecutive orders. The very last thing this is is “America First” This is “Corporate & Billionaires First” and the care & safety of people, the children the planet LAST!
“Republican lawmakers this week began to explore ways they might use their new House and Senate majorities to unwind federal climate, education, financial, health, labor and tax rules they dislike.”

Trump's plan to rethink the federal government has begun, with a focus on undoing Biden's policies.

01/04/2025

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11/12/2024

Sometimes, when everything gets too overwhelming, I just shut myself off.

I ignore the calls, let the messages sit unread, and retreat to a place where I can just be alone. It’s not about running away from anyone – it’s about giving myself space to breathe. There’s a strange comfort in stepping back from the world, letting myself sit in the quiet, and just feeling whatever I need to feel without explaining it to anyone.

I think we all have days like that – when even the smallest noise feels like too much. So I let myself turn it all down. I take time to sort through my own thoughts, to just sit with what’s weighing on me.

It’s not easy, but sometimes, facing it alone brings a kind of calm that nothing else can. And slowly, piece by piece, I find my way back to myself, a little stronger, a little clearer.

~ Lj Blossoms, Writer’s Blossoms

~ Art by Lucy Almey Bird